Pamene tadzuka, timadziwa kuti tapitirira, ndipo kuyambira nthawi ino timayamba kufulumira. Timayambanso kuvala, tikamamwa khofi, ndi kutuluka m'nyumba, ndipo mwamsanga timapita kuntchito. Ndili ndi ntchito yambiri yoti ndichite kuntchito, choncho tikufulumira kuchita zonse, panthawi ya masana timathamangira kuti tikwaniritse ntchito yathu, ndipo pamene tayamba ntchito, timachedwa kuti tifike kunyumba, ndipo titatha tsiku logwira ntchito, timapita kunyumba. Tikafika kunyumba, tikufulumira kuchita zonse m'nyumba, kuti mawa mawa tiyambe kuthamangira kukagwira ntchito. Ndipo motero, tikufulumira kuchokera kubadwa.
Tikufulumira kukula, ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi ife timayika pamtima milomo ya amayi ndi kuvala zidendene zapamwamba. Pa zaka khumi ndi zisanu timayamba kuphunzira kugonana, ndipo pofika zaka makumi awiri timakhala ndi mwana m'manja mwathu. Mabanja ambiri amapangidwira paulendo wothamanga, kenako amapangidwa kokha ngati mkwati akuleredwa ndipo sachita mantha. Ndipo patapita nthawi, pozindikira kusagwirizana kwake ndi mnzanuyo, mmodzi wa ife amathawa, kusiya chirichonse, kuphatikizapo mwanayo, ndi mabanja osakwanira amapangidwa. Vuto lonse ndilokuti tikufulumira kukula. "Banja losakwanira ndi mavuto ake aakulu" ndi zomwe tidzakambirana m'nkhaniyi.
Lero mu dziko lathu vuto la banja losakwanira liri lenileni. M'banja lililonse lachiwiri, mwana amabadwa kapena amaleredwa ndi kholo limodzi. Ambiri mwa anthu oterewa, kuphatikizapo ine, ndipo ndinkadabwa ngati tsogolo langa likudikira ana anga? Komabe sindikuwona mwamuna wanga ndi bambo wa ana anga pafupi ndi ine. Zikuwoneka kuti vuto lachikhalidwe chimenechi limalowerera m'moyo wathu ndikukhala muyezo. Ndipo popeza kuti vutoli ndilo gawo la moyo, kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti vutoli ndilovuta, mwinamwake limasiya kukhala vuto kwa anthu athu, chifukwa zosiyana zosiyana ndi zomwe zimakhalapo m'magulu osiyanasiyana a moyo wathu waumphawi zimakhala zosalekeza, pambuyo pake izi zopanda malamulo zimakhazikitsira miyambo yatsopano.
Pafupi ndi ine anzanga ambiri ndi abwenzi omwe amalerera ana okha, amakhulupirira kuti safunikira mwamuna, ndipo mwana wawo safuna bambo. Iwo amanena kuti mwamuna ndi cholengedwa chopanda pake chomwe chimagwedeza mitsempha mwagona pabedi ndikuwonera TV panthawi yomwe akudyetsa mwanayo ndi dzanja limodzi ndipo wina akuphika chakudya chamasana pafupi ndi chitofu. Mwina, ndibwino kuyambitsa banja panthawi yokalamba, osati zaka 18-20. Mwinamwake titakula pang'ono, tidzakhala ndi udindo wambiri wosasiya mwana wathu, komanso kupewa kuzunzika tikakhala wamkulu, pamene chikumbumtima chidzayamba kuzunza mwana wamasiye.
Bwenzi langa anali bwenzi ndi mnyamata mmodzi, amayenda, ankalankhula, koma sankapsompsona kapena kukumbatirana. Iwo anali abwenzi chabe. Iye anali wokondwa kwambiri ndi ubwenzi uwu, chifukwa palibe ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi monga choncho, aliyense amatsutsa, yemwe si waulesi kwambiri kunena choncho. Ubwenzi ndi mtundu wa chikondi, iwo amalankhula mu ace, ndipo kumenyana, ndi kuitanidwa, mwachoncho, wina ndi mzake sakanakhalapo. Panthawi imeneyo ife tonse tinakhulupirira ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo tinayesayesa kuti tidziwonetsere tokha ndi anyamata omwe sitinali okondedwa, koma ngati atsikana. Ife tinali opusa komanso osamvera, pamene tinauzidwa kuti panalibe ubwenzi woterewu, tinayesetsa kuti tiupeze, koma monga mukudziwa, ubwenzi uliwonse umatha, ndipo nthawi yathu yomaliza imabwera mofulumira komanso mofulumira. Mwina ife taiwala momwe tingakhalire abwenzi? Ndipo simukuwona china chilichonse kupatula mphuno? Kotero, ubwenzi wawo unatha pa September 7.
Lero ndi tsiku lakubadwa kwa mnzanga. Anakwanitsa zaka 20. Chaka Chabile, chomwe chimatanthauza alendo, abwenzi, achibale, mphatso, mipira, maluwa, kuseka ndi nthabwala. Zikondwerero ndi zikhumbo zinayenderera mumtsinje, makamaka, zosangalatsa komanso anali HE. Ndipo momwe izo zinachitikira kuti iwo ankagona. Kugonana nthawi zonse kumachitika ngati chinthu chosadabwitsa. Inu mukuganiza kuti simudzachita izi ndi munthu wina, koma uko kunali, ndipo kunali pambuyo pa malingaliro awa kuti zomwe zikuchitika zikuchitika. Zikuwonekera moyenera ndi chikondi, kuphatikiza ndi mowa wambiri ndi hookah, awiriwa anaiwala za kukhalapo kwa kulera. Monga momwe zilili ndi theka lathu lachimuna, usiku wa chikondi adatayika. Anasiya kuitana ndi kulemba, ndipo anayamba kunyalanyaza. Usiku umenewo ubwenzi wawo unafa. Kugonana nthawi zonse kumapha ubwenzi, chifukwa sangathe kukhalira limodzi mu ubale wa anthu awiri. Patatha masabata angapo, tinapeza kuti ali ndi pakati. Nthawiyi siinali yaitali, ndipo chinachake chikanatha kuchitika, koma anakana, anaganiza zobereka. Iye anabala mwana wamkazi wokongola, wathanzi, wokongola, yemwe, ngati madontho awiri, amawoneka ngati amayi ake.
Timalankhulana kwambiri, makamaka ngati sichikhudza ife. Kupyolera mu miseche ndikuyankhula, abambo adapeza kuti chibwenzi chake chinali ndi pakati. Anaganiza zoti alankhule naye, sindimamvetsa zomwe akufuna kuti akwaniritse ndi kukambirana kwake, komanso chidwi chake, adatembenuza zonse kuti akhale wolakwa, ndipo chifukwa chake anasiya chokhumudwitsa, kunena kuti sakanakhala pafupi naye anayandikira. Zimamveka ngati anamunyoza chifukwa chakuti umuna wake umamanga dzira lake. Iye sanamufunse kanthu kwa iye, ngakhale kwa iyemwini ndipo anena choncho, koma pachiyambi iye anamuuza iye kuti sakanati adziwe abambo.
Nchiyani chimalimbikitsa anthu kusiya ntchito? Ndipo kodi tingasiye? Ndinayankha mafunso awa. Chitsanzo chachikulu chimasiyidwa ndi amayi omwe ali ndi pakati, ndi ana obadwa kumene. Kuchita nawo zogonana sikunatetezedwe, kwenikweni amuna athu amagwira kapena ntchito "mwina prokanaet"? Inde, ndikuvomerezana ndi kuti amuna ndi akazi ali ndi mlandu pa izi, koma khalani okoma mtima, musataye zomwe mwachita. Msungwana wanga sanasiye mwanayo, anaganiza zobereka, koma anakana kuzindikira mwanayo. Iye sanamufunse kanthu kwa iye, iye sanamuuze nkomwe kuti iye ali ndi pakati. Iye mwini adaphunzira kwa anthu kuti ali ndi pakati. Ndipo chifukwa chake, adamupangitsa kukhala wolakwa, kusiya mwanayo. Pano, nkhaniyi sichikhumudwitsidwa chifukwa adabisa mimba kwa iye. Apa mfundo yonse ndi yakuti akuyesera kubisala kumbuyo kwa cholakwacho, kuti adziwe kuti alibe chifukwa chake, amati, Ndimakana mwanayo, chifukwa ndinu wakuti-n-wakuti. Ngakhale zili choncho, mwanayo sayenera kuimba mlandu. Mwanayo sanabadwebe, adangokhala mkati mwa mayi ake, ndipo kale adakhala wolakwa pomanga banja losakwanira. Anthu ali okonzeka kuimbidwa mlandu ndi aliyense, ngati iwo okhawo alibe mlandu. Zili ngati masewera "Mafia". Chofunika kwambiri pa masewerawa ndikuti mumalakwitsa aliyense, mumachotsa malingaliro anu, amati, Ndine woyera ngati "bulu wa mwana" ngakhale mutakhala "mafia" nokha.
Pambuyo pake, izi ndizochitika, ndipo mapeto a nkhaniyi aonekera kale. Kwa zaka zingapo amadziwa komanso amagona pansi pakhomo pawo, alonda kapena mwana wamkazi, kuti awone chomwe iye anakhala wokongola, kapena chikondi choyambirira, kuti alankhule naye, ndi kufotokoza zomwe iye anali. Funso lokha ndilokha, chifukwa chiyani amafunikira? Ndipotu, akuchita bwino kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, ndizovuta pachiyambi, ndiyeno timayamba kuzizoloŵera, ndipo kenako sitikufuna kusintha zomwe tinkakonda kuzizoloŵera. Mwa aliyense wa ife pali dontho la conservatism. Zaka zingapo iwo safuna kuthetsa mgwirizano womwe unapangidwa pakati pa mayi ndi mwana wake wamkazi.
Ndiye ndi chifukwa chiyani ana omwe anali asanabadwe? Chifukwa chake nthawi yomweyo amalephera kukhala ndi ubwana wathunthu, kapena masiku ano, ubwana wathunthu umatengedwa kuti ndi moyo ndi mmodzi wa makolo, ndipo chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi chakuti banja liri ndi amayi ndi abambo? Kapena kodi ndi bwino kulenga banja ndi kubereka ana osati kumayambiriro akukula, koma patapita nthawi pang'ono? Komabe, ndikukhulupirira kuti maukwati oyambirira sakhala otsika kwambiri kuposa okhwima. Ndipotu, kale ndilovomerezedwa ndi anthu kuti ukwati ukakali wamng'ono ukutanthauza kuti banja lina likudikirira mwana, ndipo chifukwa tonse tikufulumira. Pokhapokha munthu wamkulu akhoza kukhala ndi sitepe yolingalira yolondola, kuzindikira udindo wonse.
Mchimwene wanga anakwatiwa ali ndi zaka 28, ndipo mkwatibwi wake 26. Aliyense adanena kuti anakwatira mochedwa. Ndipo ikufulumira kuti? Tsopano ali ndi mwana wamkazi wokongola akukula, ndipo ali okondwa. Ndipo ndikudziwa kuti banja lawo lidzatha mpaka zaka za mthunzi, chifukwa awiriwa anapanga anthu mwachindunji, ndikudziwa bwino zochita zawo. Ndipo ndikufuna kuti ndichenjeze aliyense, musathamangire! Ndipo tidzatha kupewa mavuto onse a banja losakwanira! Chimwemwe sichidzathawa nthawi, mosiyana ndi mwamuna wamng'ono ... Kwa nthawi, zidzakhala zokoma komanso zokoma, monga vinyo wa zaka za ukalamba.