Ndikhulupirire, anthu!
Malinga ndi ziŵerengero za padziko lonse, malonda a chibwenzi pa Intaneti akhala akukula mofulumira zaka ziwiri zapitazi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mamiliyoni a amayi ndi abambo amagawana chidwi changa ndi mapulojekiti akuluakulu. Chaka chatha, pamsonkhano wapachaka wa Internet Dating Executive Alliance (bungwe lomwe limagwirizanitsa atsogoleri akuluakulu pa Intaneti), adalengezedwa kuti magalimoto anakula ndi 12% poyerekeza ndi 2008. Mawebusaiti akuluakulu a ku Russia adawonanso kuwonjezeka kwa chiwerengero cha ophunzira komanso nthawi yomwe amawagwiritsa ntchito pa malowa.
Chavuta ndi chiyani? Choyamba, panthawi yamavuto, anthu ambiri amakhala ndi nthawi yambiri, ndalama zochepa zodyera-ma concerts-kuyenda, ndi kufunika kwa "zikwapu" zamaganizo, chifundo, kumvetsetsa, ubwenzi wapamtima wawonjezeka. Mwachitsanzo, mu kafukufuku pa webusaiti yayikulu yadziko lonse ku eHarmony.com, amayi 25% adavomereza kuti ndizochitikira zokhudzana ndi mavuto azachuma zomwe zinawachititsa kuti azikhala ndi ubale wa nthawi yaitali ndi amuna. Ndipo m'masiku amenewo pamene chiwerengero cha Dow Jones chinagwera mfundo zoposa 100, chiwerengero cha kuyendera pa webusaitiyi chinalumphika kwambiri.
Ku Russia ndi Ukraine palinso chinthu china: chiŵerengero cha anthu omwe achita makompyuta amakula, ndipo akukula. Mwachitsanzo, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Russia, dzina lake Vladimir Shahidzhanyan, yemwe analembetsa ndi Mamba zaka zinayi zapitazo, ananena kuti panthawiyo, ali ndi zaka 65, ndiye kuti yekhayo ndiye malo a munthu wa zaka zimenezo; Lero ali ndi mpikisano wazaka 70 ndi 75. Komabe, monga padziko lonse lapansi, ambiri amakhalabe achinyamata mpaka zaka 25. Koma palinso zovuta zapakhomo: malinga ndi chiwerengero cha akatswiri a zaumoyo a Mamba, amuna amsinkhu uliwonse amakhala ndi chidwi ndi atsikana aang'ono, ndi amuna 20 okha omwe akuyang'ana akazi a zaka 30-35.
Kuonjezera apo , amuna ambiri sakulimbana ndi ubale wa nthawi yayitali, komanso kugonana - izi ndi zomveka kwa aliyense wogwiritsa ntchito masiku angapo atatha kulembetsa. Ine, mwachitsanzo, ndikukonzekera kulemba nkhani, yomwe inalembedwanso pa malo amodzi, m'malo momveka bwino komanso "mozama" yadzaza mafunsowa, koma siinandipulumutse kuzinthu zowonjezereka zoti ndizichita madzulo "monga anthu akuluakulu".
Nditangoyamba kuwomba: "Kodi mwawerenga fomu yanga yothandizira? Pamalo amodzi, zonse zalembedwa! Ndimangoganizira za ubale wa nthawi yayitali! "Yankho lake linabweretsa chidziwitso kuti:" Ndipo sindimakhulupirira amayi! "Kuchokera pamapeto pake pamapeto pake: nthawi zina, ndipo nthawi zambiri, ngakhale amayi omwe ali" abwino "amavomereza kuvomereza kwa Don Juan. Ndikutsimikiza kuti amayi ambiri pa malo ochezera afunsanso kugonana. Zomwezo m'dera lathu ndizochepa kuposa amuna. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse timaganiza kuti ngati mkazi akusintha okonda, ndiye kuti "amakhala wosavuta", ndipo ngati munthu - ndiye kuti ali ndi nthawi yotere m'moyo wake. Komabe, kuphatikizapo mahule, omwe ali malo ambiri, pali abambo omwe ali ndi chidwi chogonana, osati chikondi. Mwina kwa nthawi zingapo, kapena "kugonana nthawi zonse nokha" - muli malo ndi njirayi.
Brad Pitt ndi woyang'anira
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amapempha thandizo la malo ochezera achibwenzi? Yankho likudalira momwe mtumikiyo aliri komanso momwe alili. Achinyamata akhala akukhala ndi mwayi wambiri wosonkhana kwenikweni kusiyana ndi achikulire. Akazi osudzulana oposa zaka 30, akuchira chifukwa chovutika maganizo, ayambani kufunafuna zibwenzi pa intaneti, chifukwa m'mabwalo a usiku amamva ngati alendo, nthawi zambiri samapita ku mipiringidzo, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthawi yopanda ana. Pamalo mungathe kucheza ngakhale usiku, ngati muli ndi maganizo. Kotero ambiri mwa alendo akuluakulu amtundu ndi anthu omwe amasinthidwa bwino ndi anthu omwe alibe mavuto ndi kuyankhulana pa intaneti, maubwenzi enieni. Chinthu chokha chimene alibe chawo ndi nthawi yachitsulo komanso zosangalatsa zapuma pakhomo.
Kwa achinyamata , chithunzichi n'chosiyana. Tinkachita kafufuzidwe, ndikuyesa kumvetsetsa momwe zenizeni: mauthenga, masewera, malo ochezera - akufunika kwambiri kwa achinyamata kusiyana ndi "moyo weniweni". Ambiri mwa anyamatawa ndi atsikanawa sadziwa bwino: osatetezeka, sakudziwa momwe angakhalire oyanjana. Pa intaneti, iwo amapanga nthano: amasintha kugonana, zaka, chikhalidwe chawo, amabwera ndi "nicks" - masks omwe amabisika pambuyo pawo. Ndipo kukhudzana sikumakhala koopsa monga weniweni. Mukhoza kudziyerekezera kuti ndinu opambana, opambana kuposa momwe zilili. Komanso, n'zosavuta kuonekera mu malowa komanso mosavuta.
Masks amachititsa kuti zitheke kuti asatuluke ku zenizeni, koma sizinthu zofunikira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana omwe ali ovuta, ndizokwanira zokonda. Ngati malamulo a masewerawa akuphwanyidwa, manyazi angakhalepo. Mwachitsanzo, Vladimir Shahidzhanyan analangiza monga katswiri wa zamaganizo mwamuna ndi mkazi, amene adayambitsidwa pa webusaitiyi. Mnyamata wina wazaka 22, wopanda ndalama, ali ndi ziphuphu komanso amayi osasamala, mosasamala pa malo a mbuye wabwino kwambiri: Wakale wazaka 40, mkulu wa zachuma, amakonda achinyamata. Mmalo mwa chithunzi chake, mnyamatayu anamutumizira chithunzi cha Brad Pitt. Anayamikira chisangalalo ndipo anayankha ndi chithunzi cha Angelina Jolie. Iwo anaseka ndipo anavomera kukomana. Mayiyo anadziwitsa CMC kuti adagula mipira yamkati ndi zinthu zina zothandiza. Atathamangira tsiku, mnyamata wokondwa adawona ... amayi ake omwe. Pambuyo pokwiya koopsa ("Kodi mungathe bwanji kuitanitsa ndalama zamakampani?"), Mayi anga ndi mwana wanga sanalankhule kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo ndinayenera kupita kwa katswiri kuti akathetse vutoli.
Alendo akuluakulu kupita kumalo amodzi amagwiritsa ntchito mwayiwo kubisala kuseri kwa maski okongola. Mtsikana wina wa zaka 27, akukhala ndi makolo ake, ali wosatetezeka kwambiri, wakhala akukhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi ndipo akupanga chikondi chomwe sichitha kukhala chenicheni. Ali ndi mtundu wina wa ubale ndi amuna, koma osati nthawi yayitali, nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipo pa intaneti - moyo weniweni ndi chikondi. Komabe, iye amakana kukomana nawo makalata ake, chifukwa akuwopa kukanidwa. Ndipo ndimadziŵa zambiri zoterezo. " Amuna ambiri samakhalanso ndi makosi awo enieni, mwina chifukwa choopa kukhumudwitsidwa, kapena chifukwa iwo ali okwatirana ndipo samayang'ana chirichonse pa intaneti, kupatula gawo la chitetezo. Pa tsamba lanu mukhoza kukhala owala, okhwima, okongola, olimbika, kusewera mbali iliyonse yomwe simumafuna kuchita mu moyo. Akazi (pafupipafupi) ndi ophweka kuti agwirizanitse ndi kugonjetsedwa kusiyana ndi amuna, kotero iwo ali okhudzidwa kuti apereke kukhudzana kwenikweni.
Chifukwa cha atsikana khumi ...
Zikuwoneka kuti ngati mutayika chithunzi chanu ndikulemba zoona payekha, ndiye kuti chiopsezo chotsutsidwa pamsonkhano woyamba ndi chochepa. Koma kwenikweni, malingaliro a munthu amapangidwa ndi zinthu zing'onozing'ono chikwi zomwe sitiganizirapo, kukumana "m'moyo weniweni": njira yogwirira, kuyenda, kulankhula, kuwongola tsitsi; kununkhira, chigamulo cha mawu, kumwetulira, osatchula makwinya omwe sakuwoneka pachithunzichi.
Kenaka amakokera kuti alembe chinachake chotsutsa za anthu a pambuyo pa Soviet omwe, ngakhale atakhala ndi malo enaake (ngakhale ngati ali ndi galimoto yachilendo), ayamba kukonda akazi, ngati nkhumba mu acorns. Ndipo izo zidzakhala zoona, koma kokha mwa gawo.
M'dziko lathu pakhala pali vuto lomwe likufotokozedwa mu nyimbo: "Pali ana 9 kwa atsikana khumi malinga ndi chiwerengero. Kusiyana kwa chiwerengero cha nkhondo pambuyo pa nkhondo kwachotsedwa kale, chiŵerengero cha amuna mwa anthu, ine ndikuganiza, sichiri chochepa kwambiri. Koma opambana, aluso, okongola, akazi odziwa zaumoyo anayamba kukhala oposa amuna ofanana. Pali njira yowomboledwa, amayi amatsutsana ndi amuna kuti apambane ndi maudindo awo, ndipo iwo omwe amavutika ndi izi. Mu kuwerengera, m'pofunika kutenga chinthu chimodzi. Pamwamba-amuna samakonda kusankha anzawo ndi udindo wa akazi. Amakonda kupambana, samangoganizira za ntchito, omwe angayang'ane osankhidwa awo kuchokera kumunsi ndi maso oyang'anitsitsa - msiyeni iye akhale ndi mimba ndi moipa.
Koma amayi omwe ali pamwamba samasankha kuti azidziyanjanitsa okha ndi amuna omwe ali ndi udindo wochepa, ndi amuna ocheperapo okha: ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe. Ndipo iwo omwe agonjetsa zizoloŵezi za chikhalidwe, nthawi zambiri amadzakhala pachibwenzi ndi alfonso weniweni. Koma pa malo ochezera a chibwenzi amasiyana ndi ena. Apa onse akuwoneka ofanana. Ndipo amuna amadziwana ndi akazi omwe mu moyo weniweni sangayang'ane nkomwe mwa njira zawo. Zoona, nthawi zambiri anthuwa amatha kugonana okhaokha.
Choncho, nkovuta kukhazikitsa chiyanjano chachikulu pa webusaitiyi? Ayi ndithu. Muofesi iliyonse, kumene anthu osachepera zana amagwira ntchito, pali mmodzi yemwe anakumana ndi mnzake pa intaneti. Iwo ali ndi chizolowezi chofanana: atapeza wina ndi mzake, iwo sanagwirizanane kwa nthawi yayitali, nthawizina kokha masiku angapo, kenako nkukumana nawo pamoyo weniweni, - Inna akudziwitsa. - Ngati munthu mwamsanga amavomereza kumsonkhano, izi zikutanthauza kuti iye ali ndi chidwi chenicheni pachibwenzi. Zoona, ambiri amayenera kukhala pa malo a chaka, kusonkhana nthawi zonse ndikusankha, kufikira atapeza imodzi, imodzi yokha.
Zikuwoneka kuti omwe samachedwetsa makalata ali okonzekera kuyang'ana malingaliro awo pakuchita. Pambuyo pake, pa intaneti timakondana ndi fano linalake, timapanga zoyembekeza zathu, ndikupatsa makhalidwe omwe tikufuna kuwona mwa osankhidwa athu. Ndipo kutalika kwa makalata, pamwamba pa nsanja mumchenga, chokhumudwitsa kwambiri ndi pamene mukakumana. Komabe, ndikuganiza, masiku angapo mutatha msonkhano, akadakali koyambirira kuti akakomane. Payenera kukhala ndikutanthauza golidi. Apo ayi, anthu alibe nthawi yokondana wina ndi mzake, wamba, kuti akhoza kugwirizanitsidwa.
Kukondana Kwambiri
"Sieve" kudzera mwa omwe akufuna kudzafunidwa ayenera kuyang'aniridwa ndi maselo ofanana kukula, osati ochepa komanso osakwanira kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, "kukula kwa zosachepera 180, malipiro a madola zikwi ziwiri, mowa m'kamwa sutenga" - izi ndizitsamba zazikulu kwambiri, ambiri omwe angakhale okongola angawuluke. Mkazi wanzeru ali wokhoza kupanga sayansi ndi malipiro aang'ono a bwana wamalonda wabwino.
Choncho, ndibwino kulemba mndandanda wa zikhalidwe zoyambirira zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri kwa inu (kusamala, chifundo ndi kutenga udindo, chisangalalo, ndi zina zotero) ndi kuziwonetsa iwo mu fomu yanu yofunsira monga zofunikila za satana yomwe ingakhalepo.
Pafupi ndi zomwe mukufuna, mwa njira, ndibwino kuti musalembe. Mudzamvetsa zonse pambuyo pa misonkhano yambiri. Koma osati kuti pambuyo pa woyamba. Malinga ndi mwiniwake wa bungwe lachikwati la Moscow, anthu ambiri olemera anayamba kupita kumalo osungirako zibwenzi, ndipo amachita izo mosadziwika ndipo kusankhidwa koyamba kuli chakudya cholimbitsa - kusewera masewerawo "musandikonde ndalama zanga." Ndikudziwa bwino kuti anthu abwino, ozindikira, amuna opambana oposa 30 ali ndi ubale wolimba. Mofanana ndi amai, iwo ali okhumudwa, chifukwa sakudziwa kumene angadziwe bwino ndi omwe angakhale nawo. Ndinawerenga nkhani yokhudza wamalonda wogwira ntchito mumsinkhu wamphongo yemwe adadandaula kuti sakudziwa mkazi. Ndiye bweretsani munthu pagalimoto panjira kuchokera kuntchito, "- bwenzi lake adamulangiza. Ndikhoza kulingalira momwe zidzakhalira ... Nthawi zambiri ndimabwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito pambuyo pa usiku. Msewu, usiku, jeep imasiya ndipo munthu wamkulu amachokera ... Apa pali mayi akuyenda mumsewu adzakondwera!
Ndizodabwitsa kuti pakadali pano palibe amene anachita bizinesi pamapikisano abwino "kwa anthu oposa 30". Pambuyo pake, kumudzi kwa mizinda ikupita, anthu amagwira ntchito kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku ndipo samadziwa maina a oyandikana nawo pamasitesite ...
Chikhulupiliro chomwe chafika pa nthaka, ngati njira yopapatiza ya chisanu, ikhoza kuwonekera mosavuta. Odwala, kawirikawiri atsikana aang'ono, amabwera kwa ine akugwetsa misonzi: "Iye wandipatsa ine! Ife tinali mabwenzi ake bwino kwambiri, ndinamuuza zonse zokhudza ine, ndipo anafalitsa zinsinsi zanga pa malo onsewa! "Kulakwitsa ndikuti amabweretsa maubwenzi ochepa kwambiri, ali ndi nsanje, amangoona ngati akukangana ndi mtsikana wina" chinyengo, "ngakhalenso kuwapangitsa anzawo kuti azichita" chiwembu ", makamaka, kufunsa anzanu kuti azichita masewero ndi osankhidwa awo ndipo mwachangu amatsatira zotsatira za masewera osautsa. Ndili wamng'ono komanso wosadziwa. Pa intaneti, muyenera kupita mozama kwambiri, musakakamize maubwenzi. Ngakhale kubisala kumbuyo kwa chidziwitso chosadziwika, mkazi amamva zowawa ngati wothandizana naye amamuseka monyanyira, adzaperekanso kuvomereza kwake moona mtima ndi ndemanga zopusa.
Kuopsa kovuta kutero kumakhala kochepa, ngati kukula kwa zolinga za interlocutor kumatsimikiziridwa ndi chinachake. Mwachitsanzo, kumadzulo, malipiro a intaneti omwe amalipidwa amakhala okonzeka kwa anthu "abwino": sikuti amangopereka ndalama zokwana madola 50, komanso mphindi 40 kuti afotokoze fomu yowonjezereka polemba, kotero kuti makompyuta amakupezani kuti ndinu othandizana kwambiri.
Ku US, malinga ndi chiwerengero , banja lililonse lachisanu ndi chitatu linakumana pa intaneti. Kudandaula za mavuto a m'banja, kumudzi kwa mizinda ndi kulekanitsa anthu kwa wina ndi mzake sikungakhale kwanzeru. Zotsatirazi zikupitirira, simungathe kuimitsa, mumangofunika kuphatikizapo nzeru - ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi umene moyo umapereka.