Kodi ndi zabwino kapena zoipa? Kodi ubalewu uli ndi tsogolo? Othandizira ndi otsutsa amapereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana.
Mnyamatayo ndi wamng'ono kuposa mtsikana - wabwino?
"Kulankhulana ndi mnyamata, mkazi" amabwerera ku unyamata wake "kwa kanthaŵi, akusangalala ndi kupsompsona koyamba, akuyenda pansi pa mwezi, akukwera njinga zamoto kupyolera mumzinda wausiku ... Amatha" kufa ndi chikondi ", chifukwa palibe chimene chingatheke "Mnzanga wapamtima akunena kuti ndikuwoneka ngati wophunzira wa sekondale - ndimathamanga kukavina, ndikuchoka panyumbamo pamasabata ..."
Monga lamulo, mnyamata wamng'ono ndi wachikondi kwambiri. Mtsikana wamkulu kwambiri akhoza kukhala wa iye woyamba, osakhala woyamba.
- Mtsikana wachikulire ali ndi mwayi "wokhala munthu wabwino." Kulankhulana naye, mzimayi akufuna kuyandikira msinkhu wake, amakhala wolimba mtima, amapeza makhalidwe abwino, amasintha maganizo ake. Ndipo izi ndi zabwino kwa iye. Msungwana wamkulu ali ndi magulu ophatikizana patsogolo pa anyamata! Ziri zosavuta kuti iye amutsogolere mnyamatayo, ali ndi chidziwitso, amadziwa kuthetsa mikangano ndipo samangoyang'anitsitsa. Ndipo ngati apambana, angavomereze kuti ngakhale kuti zaka khumi zimasiyana ndi zaka zake ndi wokondedwa wake, sanakumanepo ndi mtundu wina, wachikondi ndi wachikondi. Ndipo pokhudzana ndi kugonana, msungwana wodziwa zambiri angaphunzitse zambiri kwa wokondedwa wamng'ono.
- Achinyamata, thanzi ndi kukongola - mwayi wopambana wa mnyamata. Nzosadabwitsa, chifukwa mu thupi lake mahomoni ndi kung'ung'uza. Iye sanapezebe zilonda zosatha, sanalepheretse dongosolo la mitsempha ndi kupsinjika maganizo nthawi zonse ndi kugwira ntchito kuntchito, sanakhale wolemera, sanathenso kumera, sanawononge thupi lake ndi nicotine ndi mowa. Msungwana yemwe amakomana naye, amayesera kuti asawoneke ngati chaka chake. Ali ndi zowonjezera zowonjezereka kuti adzichita yekha, kukayendera holo ya masewera a salon, sauna kapena solarium, kugula zokongola, koma zinthu zodula kwambiri.
Mnyamata wamng'ono kuposa mtsikana - woipa?
- Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa maganizo a amuna ndi akazi, omwe mwamuna, mpaka zaka 27, amatsogoleredwa ndi "malo ena", osati chifukwa. Atsikana ali oyeretsedwa bwino, ndipo makamaka iwo amatsogoleredwa ndi chifukwa ndi malingaliro. Amakula mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo mofulumira kusiyana ndi atsikana, makamaka okalamba, atenga udindo wa "amayi" kwa mnyamata yemwe sanabwidwe ngati munthu. Kusatsimikizika kwa mnyamatayo ndi kufunika kwa "soplevytiraniya" kumakwiyitsa kwambiri msungwanayo. Inde, ndipo kusiyana pakati pa luntha pa maubwenzi kumakhudza.
- Ubale wotere ndi mnyamata udzakhala wamba. Sizowopsa kuti makina opanga achikasu akukamba nkhani zatsopano za nyenyezi. Ndipo ngati msungwanayo sali nyenyezi, ndiye abwenzi onse omwe amadziwa za msinkhu wake ndi chibwenzi chake, sangathe kukambirana za ubale wawo, komanso amawatsutsa. Makamaka ngati mtsikana ali wokwatira, ali ndi ana, amakhala m'tawuni yaying'ono kapena m'midzi, akuwoneka ngati wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa zaka zake, ali ndi maonekedwe okongola komanso madiresi. Chifukwa chake sichikhoza kokha kaduka, komanso chidziwitso cha chikhalidwe cha momwe ubale uyenera kukhalira. Nthawi zina msungwana amanyazila kuvomereza kuti pali kusiyana kwa msinkhu: amamvetsera nthawi zonse maganizo a ena ndipo amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mawu oipa. Mwinanso amamva kupsinjika maganizo ngati akuganiza kuti akuchita zolakwika.
- Kudalirika kokwanira ndi mphamvu ya ubale. Kawirikawiri mnyamatayo amakopeka ndi chilichonse chatsopano, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kutenganso. Amatha kuchoka kwa mkazi wachikulire kwambiri kupita kwa mayi wamng'ono. Palibe mantha owopsa: "Ngati mukwatiwa ndi anzanu .. pambuyo pa 5-10 amathawa njira iliyonse kupita ku maloleletochke .. ichi ndi choonadi cha moyo ndipo palibe phindu loti mutulukemo ..."
Choncho, ubale ndi mnyamata yemwe ali wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa mtsikana amapereka mayeso osiyanasiyana. Pa kukula kwa maubwenzi kungakhudze maganizo a maganizo, malingaliro a anthu, khalidwe la abwenzi. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Pali zambiri zoti zaka sizofunikira, padzakhala chikondi. Ndipotu, ngati anyamata angakumane ndi atsikana aang'ono, ndi chifukwa chiyani atsikana sayenera kukumana ndi achinyamata?
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, zaka za pasipoti sizinagwirizane ndi zaka za maganizo. Nthawi zina mnyamata wamwamuna wazaka 18 sakhala wopangidwa kwa zaka zambiri, wodalirika, wodalirika, wokondweretsa, wachikondi, wamakhalidwe ngati mwamuna weniweni ndi msinkhu wachikulire akumva kumbuyo kwake ngati khoma lamwala. Perekani zitsanzo pamene mnyamata wina adafuna mkazi yemwe ali ndi zaka 20 kuposa iyeyo. Pa nthawi yomweyo sadali alfonso ndipo adasunga banja lake. Nthawi zina msinkhu wa msungwana ukhoza kukhala "mwana".
Njira imodzi, palibe maphikidwe. Zonse zimadalira pachinthu chomwecho, anthu enieni. Kodi mungalangize chiyani pa nkhaniyi? Mvetserani kumverera kwanu ndi kumverera kwa theka lachiwiri, chikondi ndi kukhala okondwa.