Nthawi zina kuti mupeze ngati kuli koyenera kuyambitsanso ubale, ngati kumverera kumapitirira, ndikwanira kudzifunsa nokha funso lopambana: simungayambirenso iwo ngati pali mwayi?
Kukonda zenizeni
Kodi ndingatani kuti chikondi chenicheni chisadutse? Phunzirani kumvetsera. Yesetsani kulowa mu malo a mnzanu. Tangoganizirani kuti muli muzokambirana za bizinesi: mvetserani kwa mdani wanu, muvomereze naye, ndipo kokha yesetsani kumuuza zoona zake. Phunzirani kufotokoza malingaliro. Nenani kuti mwavulazidwa, ngati mumamva kupweteka, nenani kuti muli okwiya, ngati zili choncho. Ndipo, ndithudi, kambiranani za chikondi. Phunzirani kukonda. Mu maubwenzi, anthu nthawi zambiri amayendana. Iyi ndiyo njira yoperekera pakhomo: mmalo momupatsa mnzanu mpata woti apite nawe kupyolera mu moyo, mumamukoka mwamphamvu. Dzikondeni nokha, kondanani mnzanuyo ndipo musamufunse kuti amve maganizo ake. Phunzirani kupereka ufulu. Ndikofunika kuti musapitirire ndi maganizo anu. Kumvetsetsani: chikondi chochulukirapo chatsekedwa ngakhale ndi malingaliro odzipereka kwambiri.
Kukhala kapena osakhala?
Uthenga wabwino kwa iwo omwe sadziwa ngati kuli koyenera kuyesa kachiwiri kuti ayambe chiyanjano: molingana ndi akatswiri ambiri a maganizo, ngati mukufunadi, ndiye kuti mutha kutenga mwayi. Anzanu apamtima angakukopereni ngati mumakonda kwenikweni kapena ngati chinachake mu chiyanjano chanu sichinathetsedwe, sichikuuzidwa. Yang'anani mkati mwanu ndikuyesera kuyankha funsolo - mukuyendetsa galimoto yanji? Ngati anthu amathyola, koma sananene kanthu kwa wina ndi mzake, sanazindikire zonse zomwe angathe kuzivumbula mwa iwo eni, ndiye kuti chikhumbo chobwerera chidzatsala. Maganizo anga - ngati simungathe kuchotsa munthu pamtima, ndizomveka kuyesa kachiwiri. Osangoyamba kumene, koma m'njira yatsopano. Mwinamwake, kuti muwone mosiyana ubale kapena munthuyo mwiniwake. Muyenera kumvetsetsa ngati zolakwa zomwe mwaswa, malingaliro anu oposa, ngati mwakonzeka kuvomereza mnzanuyo momwe aliri. Ngati muli ndi chilakolako chachikulu, muyenera kukonda wokondedwa wanu ndi "zolakwa" zake zonse. Ndipo atenge udindo pa kusankha: "Ndimadzichitira ndekha, osati kwa iye, ukwati, ndi zina zotero". Ngati kumverera kumbali zonse ziwiri kumasungidwa, kupatukana kuyenera kuonedwa kuti ndi nthawi yopitilira zochitikazo. Pamene anthu awiri mwaufulu akusankha kukhala mwapadera, ndiyeno nkuzindikira kuti sangathe kuchita popanda wina ndi mzake, zikutanthauza kuti pali maulendo atsopano a maukwati okhwima kwambiri omwe ali patsogolo. Iwo akuyesera kumvetsa yemwe ndi cholakwika. Kupita kuyanjanitso popanda kuganiza ndizosatheka. Kotero ife timakhala okhwima kwambiri ndi anzeru. Ngati malingaliro amasungidwa - ubale suli wathunthu. Izi zimatsogolera kuwonongeka kwa mphamvu mwa kuganizira za mnzanuyo, ndipo pambali pake, kumawonjezera mwayi wa kubwerekanso kwa mavuto ngati amenewa mu ubale wam'tsogolo. Choncho, ndikofunika kapena kukonza kukwaniritsa chiyanjano ichi, ndiko kuti, kuyamika mnzanuyo chifukwa cha zinthu zabwino zomwe zinachitika pakati panu ndi kubwereranso kapena kubwerezanso mwa kukambirana mavuto omwe sanathetsepo kale.
Musabwereze zolakwa
Kotero, cholinga chiri chodziwika: kudzilemekeza nokha ndi mgwirizano ndi wekha ndi dziko lozungulira iwe. Koma momwe mungakwaniritsire izi? Aliyense wa akatswiri ali ndi njira zake komanso njira zomwe amagawana nazo. Ngati mutasweka, tsatirani malangizo angapo. Sambani chithunzicho ndi chinthu cha chikondi chanu. Musalole nokha kukambirana maubwenzi awa. Pitani ku maphunziro a chinenero, pitani kukavina, yoga, khalani otanganidwa. Yambani ulendo. Chinthu chachikulu ndikulowa mu "zibwenzi zatsopano" osati cholinga chobwezera, koma ndi cholinga chozindikira chinachake mwa inu nokha. Mukaika cholinga chozindikiritsa zomwe wapatsidwa kwa munthuyu, komanso inu, ndiye kuti mutha kukhala ndi mwayi "wakula." Ndiyeno zimakhala zomveka ngati mukufunikira wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo, ndithudi, musapatukane ndi okondedwa anu. Ngati mumakonda ndikukondedwa kwenikweni. Chilakolako chobwezeretsa maubwenzi omwe adakhumudwitsidwa, chingakhale chokhudzana ndi phindu lachiwiri kuchokera ku zowawa zomwe zakhalapo. Mwachitsanzo, anthu akufuna kukhalabe ndi chifaniziro chawo: Ndine wokoma mtima kwambiri moti ndinamukhululukira ... Pambuyo pake, pangakhale mantha. Mwachitsanzo, mukuwopa kusagwira ntchito ndikulingalira kuti simukuyenera kusamalira mwamuna wanu ndi ana anu. Ngati mutasweka kwa kanthawi ndikuganiza zobwereranso, ndikulimbikitsanso kuti mnzanuyo avomereze monga momwe alili. Zizolowezi zonse zoyipa za gawo lanu lachiwiri ndi ma beacons omwe amakugwirizanitsani ndi chinthu cha chikondi chanu. Ngati mumaphunzira kuti musamazindikire zinthu zazing'ono, mgwirizano wanu udzakhala wautali komanso wodalirika. Kukonzanso ubwenzi, muyenera kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo:
- ndi chiyani changa (ndi changa chokha!) Chothandizira kuti pakhale mavuto athu;
- zomwe ndikulonjeza kuti ndikuchita komanso sindidzachita m'tsogolo muno;
- Ndi chithandizo chamtundu wanji chimene ine ndikuchifuna kuchokera kwa wokondedwa?
- kuti ndimve (ndiyenso kuwuza mnzanga za momwe ndimamvera);
- Pezani chithunzi cha tsogolo logwirizana, kulimbikitsa onse (kuonetsetsa kuti kutsutsana sikukusokoneza chilengedwechi);
- kunena zomwe ine ndikufuna kuti ndilipire pofuna kukwaniritsa fano ili. Ndipo musapemphe kalikonse kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo mobwezera!