Iyeyekha wodwala zamaganizo.
Musanene kuti musanayambe kukwiyitsa mwamuna ndi kusankha njira yoyenera pa izi, muyenera kudziwa bwino chifukwa chake cha mkwiyo wake. Ngati chochitika chachikulu chokwiyitsa ndi choletsedwa cha maganizo osokonezeka m'modzi kapena mwatsatanetsatane, nkofunika kuti tipeze chiwonongekochi ndi kudziletsa kwathunthu. Perekani wokondedwa wanu mwayi wakudzimvetsa yekha ndikudziŵa mavuto omwe amamutsogolera, omwe amachititsa kuti azikhumudwa. Ndipo iwo, akhulupilira ine, akhoza kukhala aakulu kwambiri, pokhapokha ngati mwiniwakeyo sawazindikira, ndi iye palibe lingaliro loyankhula pa nkhaniyi. Mukhoza kungowonjezera mkhalidwewu mwa kumenya "pansi pa kufalitsa ndege" kwake. Mwa njira, kuchokera pakuwona momwe zinthu zilili bwino ndibwino kuti "adzithandizire". Simudzatero priredatsya kutenga chikumbumtima chake chonse chosokonezeka mu moyo wake, ndipo iye, nayenso, adzawotcha ndikubwerera ku chikhalidwe.
"Pansi pa dzanja lotentha."
Chithunzi choyipa kwambiri chimayamba ngati mzimayi akukhumudwa payekha - pamene mwamuna amatha kuchitidwa nkhanza. Izi ndi za detente ndipo amathyola wina wa banja lake, ndipo choyamba, pansi pa "otentha" akugwa okondedwa. Nthawi zovuta zochiritsa ziwawa zaukali ndi kukhumudwa ndizofunikira, zogwirizana ndi zochitika. Ndi bwino kuthetsa vuto ngatilo ndi njira zowonongeka. Ngati mudakali ndi mwamuna uyu ndipo mwakonzeka kupirira mkwiyo wake wonse, yesetsani kumupangitsa kuti asamalire ndikuponyera zoipa zonse pazinthu zina, mwachitsanzo, anzake ogwira nawo ntchito. Ndipo ngati simulandira, apa simungathe kuthandizira konse ndi uphungu wamba. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kufufuza thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo omwe, pamfundo yapamwamba, adzatha kudziwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzi chanu chokhumudwitsa, komanso zomwe mukuchita pa nthawiyo. Kuwonjezera apo, zidzakuthandizani kukhazikitsa njira yanu yopezera chitetezo ku nkhondo ya munthu wokwiya.
Iye samapweteka, koma amalira!
Inde, sikuti aliyense wa amuna amakonda kumenyana ndi kumunyoza mkazi mudziko losokonezeka. Koma ndi kuthandizidwa ndi kufuula ndi mikangano kutsanulira mkwiyo pamkati mwawo - izi ndi zachilendo kwa anthu ambiri ogonana kwambiri. Choncho, kubwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, kunyalanyaza wokondedwa chifukwa cha kukhumudwa kwake kwa amuna kumaonedwa ngati njira yovomerezeka. Nkhani yabwino yokhayo ndi yakuti chinthu choipitsitsa chimene angachite ndi kufuula ndi kuchepetsa. Kuti mumuchitire iye panthawi yomweyi ndi zifukwa zake ndi zotsutsana, ndipo ngakhale zowonjezera, kuti adziwe chifukwa chake cha mkwiyo wake sichiyenera. Izi simungapindule nazo. Ndikofunika kupita "pansi" ndikumusiya yekha, monga momwe akusowa kwambiri. Koma kuyesera kumutsimikizira kuti iyeyo ndi wolakwika ndipo onse angathe kukambirana mwa kukhala mwamtendere kumayambitsa mkwiyo wa munthu. Ndipo ndithudi simukufuna zimenezo!
Kuti apite ngati iye anayamba kulumbira!
Amayi ambiri amadzifunsa kuti: "Mmene mungakhalire mukakwiya mukamuna?". Pambuyo pake, pamodzi ndi iye mumakhala wamantha. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kukondweretsa okhulupirika anu panthawiyi ndipo musapangitse vutoli, chitani chilichonse mwa chete. Mwachitsanzo, tumizani chakudya chamadzulo, mum'kumbatireni kapena mumusambe, osayesa nthawi yomweyo kuti muyankhule naye. Musati mufunse mafunso alionse, osangoyamba kuyamba kumuuza za momwe mwagwiritsira ntchito tsiku lanu kapena kuti bwenzi lanu adzipeza yekha bwenzi lake latsopano. Kukambirana kotereku kuli ngati "bingu kuchokera ku buluu". Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti nkhanizi, ngakhale mu chikhalidwe chokhazikika, zingayambitse "zipsinjo zamanjenje" mwa amuna, ndipo panthawi imeneyo zowonjezera. Dziwani kuti sizothandiza. Iye akadalibe, m'mkhalidwe umenewu ndi chikhalidwe chake, palibe chofuna kuchizindikira. Njira yokhayo ndi yakuti ngati mutatsimikizira kuti mudzatha kumuthandiza, komanso, muzichita bwino kwambiri. Koma panonso, njira yowongoka ndi yolondola ikufunika, yomwe siidzapangitsa vutoli kukhala lovuta.
Vinyo wa akazi ndi olondola .
Chifukwa chodziwika kwambiri cha kukwiyitsa kwa amuna chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi chisokonezo kuchokera kwa mkazi mwiniwake. Njira yabwino komanso yodalirika yomuthandizira munthu wa zizindikiro za kukwiya ndi ngati mkazi amasiya kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ake ndi zochita zake kuti amugwedeze. Koma ngati mumangokhalira kukakamiza bamboyo kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo imangowonjezereka, ngati machesi ochokera ku mawu anu onse, zikutanthauza kuti sangathetsetu msanga. Mwa njira, izi ndizochinyengo kwambiri pa gawo la kugonana kwabwino, choyamba momwe mungagwirire wokondedwa wanu, ndiyeno nkuyamba kufunsa zomwe zinachitika ndi kupeza zomwe sakusangalala nazo podzibisa yekha, monga "sindinanene kanthu!". Mwa mawu, ngati mukufuna kuti mpikisano wanu asakhumudwe, musamukwiyitse, ndiye kuti sadzayenera kuchiritsidwa. Chabwino, ngati mwachita kale gawo lanu, izi ndizo zowonjezera komanso zowonjezera kuti sizidzachitikanso. Pambuyo pake, wina sayenera kubwerera ku funso ili.
Ndipo potsirizira pake, kumbukirani kuti anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana angasonyeze kukwiyitsa kwawo popanda zifukwa zomveka, chifukwa chakuti zimasokoneza moyo ndi zina zotero. Mtundu woterewu umayesedwa ngati chizindikiro chowonekera cha mavuto aakulu okhudzana ndi ubale wanu. Pofuna kupewa izi, muyenera kungosintha momwe zinthu ziliri pa moyo wanu kapena kuti mwayanjanenso ndi mwamuna wanu. Ndikhulupirire, pambuyo pake simudzawona nthawi yayitali yomwe mumakonda kupsa mtima komanso kukwiyitsa. Mbuye wabwino kwa inu!