Mkazi wopanda chikondi, ngati duwa wopanda dzuwa: posakhalitsa amafota, osadziwululidwa kwathunthu. Ndi chikondi chimene chimatipatsa ife, amai, mphamvu zopanda malire, timalimbikitsa, timalimbikitsa komanso timapanga zokongola. Inde, amasintha anthu ndikukhala bwino. Koma ndi theka labwino la umunthu kuti chikondi ndicho chimodzi mwa zofunika zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wosangalala. M'nkhani ino, tiyesa kupeza momwe tingakhalire okondedwa, osasinthika komanso omwe timafunidwa kwa theka lachiwiri.
Ndimakonda, ndipo, ndikukhala moyo!
Mzerewu wochokera ku ndakatulo yotchuka ya V.Vysotsky ukuwonetseratu kufunikira kwa kukhalapo kwa chikondi chimodzi pa moyo wa mkazi aliyense. Ndizofupika, koma ndizokwanira kufotokoza chifukwa chachikulu chomwe ife tonse timayesera chikondi.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti chifukwa chakuti maganizo ena amamveka munthu pokhapokha amadzimva kuti ndi munthu wothandizira komanso wogwirizana, pamene m'moyo wake muli munthu wina amene amamukonda ndikumulandira. Monga mwana, gawo ili likuchitidwa ndi amayi, komanso mu moyo wachikulire - wokondedwa. Inde, mungatsutse kuti munthuyo mwiniyo ndi munthu wokonzeka, ndipo safuna zoonjezera, koma izi siziri zoona. Tonsefe timafunikira chitetezo, kutamanda, kuyamikira, chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro, chomwe chingakhoze kulandiridwa kwathunthu kuchokera kwa munthu wina. Ndipo ichi ndicho chiwonetsero chachikulu cha chikondi - umodzi wogwirizana ndi kuvomereza kwathunthu.
Ndikufuna kukondedwa ndikusowa!
Ngati pangakhale malamulo amtendere m'moyo wathu, zingakhale zokwanira kupeza wandolo wamatsenga kapena kufunsa Nsomba za Golide ndipo voila - "chikondi kumanda" akutsimikiziridwa! Koma, taonani, zenizeni zathu sizomwe zimachokera kudziko laling'ono ndipo m'moyo uno nkofunika kuti tipeze zonse pandekha. Kuphatikiza chikondi chimodzi. Zimangokhala m'nthano komanso mafilimu aakazi omwe amamuwona, maso awo anakumana ndi chikondi chosagwirizana pakati pawo. Amuna amasiku ano, ngati amachotsa maso awo pa foni yamakono kapena piritsi, amakhala oyenera "kukumana ndi diso" ndi khosi lanu lamtundu, komanso kuti asayang'ane "zakuya kwanu". Inde, mukhoza kupitiriza kukhulupirira kuti kwinakwake pali chikondi chenicheni ndi akalonga. Koma dikirani mpaka zamoyo izi zowopsa kuchokera ku Bukhu Lachiwiri zikupezani inu ndipo mumakondweretsa chikondi chanu, zopusa! Choyamba, mpikisano wa "akazi anzeru ndi okongola" ndi okwera kwambiri. Chachiwiri, zingatenge nthawi yambiri kuti mawu akuti "kumanda" adzakhala enieni. Kotero, ngati mukufuna kuti mukhale okondwa komanso osangalala tsopano, osati kamodzi apo, ndiye mutengeretu mmanja mwanu!
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa?
Kotero ife tinafika ku funso lofunika kwambiri, tikuzunza akazi padziko lonse, momwe tingakhalire okondedwa ndi okhumba. Yambani posungitsa zomwe simungakonde, ndipo simungathe kumanga chisangalalo pa chisoni cha wina. Mawu awa ndi odzala ndi nzeru zakudziko ndipo akuchokera ku zowawa za makolo athu. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kukhala okondedwa, mukukhumba ndi osangalala, ndiye musiye kuyesera kulimbikitsa ndi kumuchotsa m'banja. Ngati mwamuna sali womasuka kapena wosayanjanitsika ndi inu, si mwamuna wanu. Sangathe kukukondweretsa, ziribe kanthu momwe mukufunira.
Ndi nkhani ina ngati muli omasuka komanso okongola kwa wina ndi mzake, koma imakhala ndi chidziwitso cha chikondi. Zikatero, n'zotheka, ndipo nthawi zina nkofunika, kutenga choyamba pa ubale ndi wekha. Ingochita izo modekha ndi modekha. Chifukwa chakuti anthu ambiri, monga mahatchi akunja, amangodabwa ndi "chikwama" cha kugonana kwakukulu, mwamsanga kuthamanga, mitu kumutu. Choncho, kuti musokoneze "Mustang" yanu muyenera kuimvera modekha, pang'onopang'ono.
Choyamba, pangani misonkhano yanu kwa nthawi yabwino kwambiri ya tsiku. Sizowoneka ngati zovuta monga momwe zingayesere poyamba:
- Lembani wokondedwa wanu mosamala ndi kusamala, khalani ndi chidwi ndi zomwe akukumana nazo ndi mavuto ake, muzipanga zodabwitsa komanso zopatsa mphatso.
- Musakane kugawana nawo mpumulo, ngakhale atapereka kampeni ya mpira kapena kutulutsidwa ndi abwenzi ake. Kulumikizana, mumamuwonetsa munthuyo kuti amakondwera naye, ndipo zochita zake ndizofunika kwa inu. Chonde, chonde, chitani moona mtima osati kusewera mokwanira!
- lemekeza achibale anu ndi abwenzi anu, ngakhale kuti sali okongola kwambiri kwa inu. Mwina, pamene simukuwadziwa bwino. Apatseni mwayi.
Koma chofunika kwambiri - musapange munthu wa malo ake. Musayese kuthetsa vuto lake lonse ndi mafunso opanda pake ndi mayitanidwe. Mukachita zonse bwino, adzakuuzani komwe anali komanso zomwe adachita masana. Musakhale ndi nsanje kuchokera pachiyambi ndipo musagwiritse ntchito - ndizovuta kwambiri kugonana mwamphamvu. Ngati mukudandaula za mlembi wake watsopano, yesetsani kulankhula naye momasuka za izo, popanda kuthamanga amatsenga. Phunzirani kudalira wokondedwa wanu komanso mkazi wozizwitsa monga inu, sangapite kwa wina!
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wokondedwa?
Tsoka, izo zimachitika chotero kuti pamene inu mudziwa chozizwitsa chachikulu cha chikondi chofanana, potsiriza anthu amataye. Moyo, mavuto, kusowa ndalama, ntchito yamuyaya, ana ... Zonsezi zimawononga chikondi mu chiyanjano. Ndipo ndiyomwe ikusowa ndi chikhumbo chokhala pafupi, kusangalatsa wina ndi mzake ndi kumvetsera, kusamala. Mwamwayi, ngati chikondi cha okwatirana ndi chenicheni, ndiye kosavuta kuwutsitsimutsa.
Ndipo muyenera kuyamba ndi kukumbukira mwachikondi. Chikumbutso chathu n'chosiyana! Ndipo ngakhale ngati zikuwoneka kuti maganizo anu akale akhala akuiwalika, yesetsani kuwatsitsimutsa ndi zithunzi, zonunkhira, nyimbo. Mwachitsanzo, kodi mukukumbukira momwe munayambira ndi mwamuna wanu komanso zomwe mumakhalidwe ake, mawonekedwe anu, makhalidwe anu ankakufikitsani ku kuya kwa moyo wake? Ndipo ndizinthu zotani zomwe adakupangitsani pa tsiku? Ndi nyimbo iti imene mumakonda kuvina? Ngati mumakumbukira, mungapeze zingwe zambiri zomwe zingabwezeretsetsedwe kumtima. Ngakhale kununkhira kwa mafuta onunkhira, omwe munagwiritsa ntchito panthawi yomwe mumawachezera, kungakumbutse wokondedwa wanu wa chilakolako chakale.
Konzani madzulo omwe mumakonda kwambiri chakudya chamasitomala, kugonjera kukumbukira komweku, ndikumbukira mavuto onse kwa kanthawi. Akumbutseni mwamuna wa kukongola kumene iye amatsogolera pansi pa korona zaka zambiri zapitazo. Ndipo ngakhale maonekedwe anu asintha kwambiri, kavalidwe kabwino ndi maonekedwe abwino zingakuthandizeni kukondweretsa wokondedwa wanu.
Kumbukirani kuti nkofunikira kubwezeretsa chizoloŵezi chakumverera pamayendedwe ndi sitepe, pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo kusankhidwa kumodzi sikutuluka kwapadera. Yesetsani kumvetsera kwambiri mwamuna wanu, kusagwirizana kwambiri ndi kukwiya, kuyankhula zambiri ndikukambirana mavuto omwe mumakhala nawo tsiku liri lonse. Podziwa zoyesayesa zanu, munthu wokondedwa ndithu adzakuthandizani ndipo mwamsanga mudzakhalanso ndi chibwenzi chachiŵiri palimodzi!
Dzikondeni nokha ndipo muzikonda zomwe mumakonda
Ndipo pomalizira ife tikuwonjezera lingaliro lofunika: ngati simudzikonda nokha ndi kudzilemekeza, musayembekezere kuti wina adzakukondani. Kotero, ngati mu moyo wanu mulibe kumverera koyera ndi koona mtima, ndiye yambani ndi chikondi nokha. Musati musokoneze chikondi chenicheni ndi kudzipereka, kudzikonda ndi kunyoza. Kudzikonda ndiko kuvomerezana ndi kuvomerezedwa, kugwirizana mkati ndi kugwirizana.
Limbikitseni ntchito zabwino ndi zofunikira. Phunzirani kutsutsa molakwika zolakwa zanu. Yesetsani kudzikuza ndi kukula kwauzimu. Pezani nthawi yophunzira nkhope yatsopano ya umunthu wanu. Ndipo posachedwapa mudzazindikira kuti moyo wanu ukusintha bwino, ndipo mavuto ambiri amachokera kwamuyaya. Khalani okoma mtima nokha ndi ena. Lemekezani thupi lanu ndipo muzisamalira. Zindikirani zolinga zanu ndi maloto anu. Phunzirani mgwirizano! Ndipo iye, ngati maginito, adzalowetsa m'moyo wako chidziwitso cha momwe angakhalire wokondedwa!
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wokondwa kwambiri, werengani apa .