Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira - tilibe mapaundi owonjezera. Timayamba kujambula zosasangalatsa chifukwa cha zovuta, monga, ndi anthu ozungulira ife. Ndipo makamaka mwa anthu athunthu, zovuta zogonana zowonekera. Kodi ndi zovuta zotani, chifukwa zimawoneka bwanji ndi momwe angachitire ndi iwo?
Kawirikawiri, mavuto omwe ali nawo pamtundu wapamtima wa anthu odzala amayamba chifukwa cha zovuta kwambiri zochepa. Zolinga zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi mtima, monga lamulo, zimakhala ndi mtundu wosasangalatsa. Maganizo, omwe amachokera kumodzi pa lingaliro la kugonana, amachititsa mantha, chisokonezo, kusonkhana ndi kusakhutira ndi uchimo. Chifukwa cha zovutazi, munthu akhoza kukhumudwa osati mchitidwe wogonana - chikoka chingaperekedwe pa moyo wake wonse.
Kawirikawiri zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana zimapezeka mwa anthu omwe ali olemera kwambiri. Ndipo palibe chodabwitsa pa izi: ngati simukutsatira miyezo yolandiridwa pakati pa anthu, ikhoza kuyankhulana momasuka. Pankhaniyi, pali njira ziwiri zokha: kaya mutakhala pa chakudya ndikudziyendetsa nokha ndi thupi lanu ku chimbudzi chosayenera, kapena dzilandirireni nokha monga momwe muliri panopa.
Inde, zimakhala zabwino ngati munthu akumva bwino ndi chiwerengero chachikulu ndipo sasamala za izo. Komabe, kwa nthawi yaitali izi sizingapitirire ndipo zovuta pakuyankhulana ndi amuna kapena akazi sizidzachitikabe. Pamene mukupanga chikondi pabedi, simudzakhala awiri, koma atatu: mnzanuyo, inu ndi kulemera kwanu kochulukirapo, mukupanga zinthu zosasangalatsa ndikupangitsani chiyanjano mu ubale wapamtima. Mungoyerekezera momwe zimakhalira zovuta kuti mutenge vuto lililonse ngati phazi lanu liri lalikulu kuposa chiuno cha msungwana. Ndipo pamene phiri la mafuta limakugwetsani inu, ngakhale mu bedi lofewa - zosangalatsa sizosangalatsa.
Kuchokera pazochitika zogonana zingathe kuvutika ndi oimira onse awiri. Koma nthawi zambiri zimachitika, pamene chifukwa cha zovuta za munthu zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kumapita kwa mnzake. Zovuta zoterezi zinasankhidwa ndi kutchulidwa mayina a otchuka otchuka komanso mbiri yakale.
Zambiri za Don Quixote
Munthu angadziyerekeze kuti ali ndi luso lolemekezeka ndi zida zonyezimira, amene amakomera dona wokondedwa wa mtima. Choyamba, kwa mkazi wathunthu, izi zikhonza kuphatikizapo, ngati atakhala chinthu cholambirira. Mwamunayo samayang'anitsitsa zolephera zake, akuwonetsa mayiyo ndi mayamiko okha. Koma kawirikawiri maganizo ake kwa mkazi amasintha kwambiri: mwadzidzidzi amadziwa kuti mkazi wake sali woyenera ndipo palibe chikondi choyambirira. Zotsatira zake n'zakuti, mbuyeyo samangokhumudwa (ndiye yekha amene amamuimba mlandu: amayenera kuyang'ana mkaziyo poyang'ana mwachidwi kuyambira pachiyambi), komanso amachititsa mantha kwa omwe kale ankakonda - sanasinthe, koma pazifukwa zina anasiya kulakalaka kupereka zothokozo. Kotero, motsutsana ndi chikhalidwe ichi, pafupifupi mazana ochuluka a milandu azimayi angakhale ovuta kwambiri, ngakhale atakhala alibe kale.
Don Juan Complex (Don Juanism)
Donorism imapezeka mwa amuna omwe sali otsimikiza muzochita zawo zogonana. Koma kuti achitike ndi kumverera ngati munthu weniweni, amayesa kukopa akazi ambiri momwe angathere. Cholinga chachikulu kwa iye ndi kugonana ndi mayi, ndipo patatha usiku wokonda chikondi, chidwi chake kwa mnzanu chimatha. Mkaziyo samvetsa zomwe zinachitika, chifukwa chake mwamuna wake atakhazikika kwambiri ndikuyamba kufunafuna zifukwa mwa iwo okha, akudzifunira yekha ndipo pamapeto pake amachititsa kuti asamadziwe bwinobwino komanso maofesi omwe amawonekera.
Kawirikawiri, zovuta za Don Juan zikuwonekera mwa amuna olemera, chifukwa mapaundi owonjezera ndi thupi losungunuka sizimapangitsa kuti amayi aziwoneka bwino kwa munthuyo. Amuna olemera samawoneka okongola pamaso pa akazi. Ndipo izi, mwa njira, ndizofotokozera bwino za sayansi: mafuta ochuluka amaletsa kukula kwa mahomoni ogonana. Ndipo ngati pali mahomoni ochepa chabe, ndiye kuti khalidwe la munthu woterewu ndi mwamuna wamphamvu. Ndiko kuyesa "bongo" koteroko ngati atsikana ambiri kuti athe kutsimikizira kuti ndi "mwamuna".
Macho Complex
Izi zimakhala zofanana kwambiri ndi zomwe zapitazo. Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi mawonekedwe akuyesetsanso kusonyeza kwa aliyense kuti iye ndi "mwamuna weniweni, mwamuna wachiwawa", kotero akhoza kukhala mwamwano mwadala, pa bizinesi ndipo osagwiritsira ntchito mawu osiyana pachabe, kusonyeza maonekedwe ake aamuna ndi mawonekedwe ake onse. Theka lachiwiri la munthu wotero si lokoma. Ayeneranso kukhala wangwiro kwa iye, kuvulaza fumbi particles ndi kukhala atatu mwa mmodzi: mbuye ali pabedi, mzimayi m'nyumba ndi msilikali mnzawo. Ndipo ngati mkazi ali ndi zofooka mu chifaniziro (mwachitsanzo, wapulumuka kwambiri atatha kubala), ndiye kuti kukambirana kosavomerezeka komanso kukhumudwa kwa munthu kungakambidwe. Munthu yemweyo yemwe ali ndi mawonekedwe a maso akhoza kuzindikira kuti akulephera pa bedi (ndipo monga tazitchula kale, akhoza kugwirizanitsidwa ndi kulemera kwakukulu), zomwe, ndithudi, zimangowononga moyo wa aliyense.
Romeo Complex
Pamene munthu wa Romao wolimba amayamba kukonda (kawirikawiri pang'onopang'ono), amayamba kukondweretsa Juliet wake ndipo sazindikira zolakwa zake. Ngati msungwana wake mwadzidzidzi akuchira, ndiye kuti akhoza kuthana nazo zonsezi. Mwachidziwikire, mkazi adzamva zopweteka kwambiri kuti atenge mpumulo wotere ndikukonzekera maofesi kwa iye.
Pali mitundu ingapo ya zochepa zovuta muzochitika zogonana amuna.
- zovuta za mamembala ang'onoang'ono (mwa njira, zikhoza kuwoneka chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa pakati pa abwenzi). Pankhaniyi, mwamunayo amaopa kuti adzasekedwa, ndipo sadzakumana ndi akazi;
- Quasimodo ovuta. Mwamuna amadziona ngati wosakondweretsa kwambiri kwa akazi (ndi zoona, ngati akuwoneka ngati mvuu, n'zovuta kulankhula za kukongola). Kawirikawiri, chirichonse chimene anganene, ndi kusintha kapena kukonza moyo wa kugonana, nkofunikira kuthana ndi chidziwitso ndi kulemera kwakukulu.