Kukambirana kulikonse pakati pa amai, mwanjira ina, kumatanthawuza za kukula kwa amuna. Nthawi zina, polankhula mozama, koma ndi nthabwala, asungwanawo amafotokoza zosowa zawo zogonana mofanana kwambiri. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, asungwanawo, adakonzekera usiku womaliza wa njuchi, nthawi zambiri amatsanzira kukhalapo kwa danse, mwamuna yemwe ali ndi mitengo yovuta yosambira, yomwe munthu amene ali ndi kukula kwake amatha kuwona. Ndipo kawirikawiri, sizingatheke kupyolera mu mitengo ikuluikulu yokha kusambira, komanso kukhala ndi moyo, monga otsutsa ambiri-ovina amachititsa kuvina kwachizoloŵezi kwa ulemu wa mkwatibwi. Iye, nayenso, akugwira mpweya wake, akuyamikira kwambiri mtundu uwu, akuganiza zomwe zikanamuyembekezera iye pabedi ndi chimphona chofanana.
Koma oimira zachiwerewere omwe ali ndi mgwirizano weniweni wogonana ndi anthu oterewa amadziwa kuti chirichonse sichiri chophweka komanso chowoneka bwino. Kukhoza kuthana ndi chozizwitsa chotero, inde, ndithudi, mukhoza kukwaniritsa zosangalatsa zodabwitsa. Koma, osadziŵa zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi momwe mungachitire, simungathe kukhala osakhutira, komanso kuwononga ziwalo za mkati. Mungathe kuwononga chiberekero, kupeza mahempha osiyanasiyana, ngakhale kutaya chiberekero kapena anus. Kotero inu mukhoza kulemba zosawerengeka. Kugonana kovuta komanso kovuta ndi wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi kukula kwake, kungawonongeke, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zowawa. Ndipotu, kuvulazidwa kulikonse kumakhala ndi nthawi zosasangalatsa kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, iwo amachiritsidwa motalika kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina opaleshoni ya opaleshoni imafunika. Mwachidule, amuna omwe ali ndi ulemu waukulu kwambiri, omwe sangathe kuugwiritsa ntchito moyenera pa chisangalalo cha mkaziyo, sangatchedwe kuti ndi wokondana naye.
Ndipo ngati munthu yemwe ali ndi miyeso yotereyi amadziika yekha ntchito yaikulu, monga, kukondweretsa wokondedwa wake, yemwe amadziwa momwe angachitire molondola, munthu wotereyo angatchedwe wokonda kwambiri. Padzikoli pali munthu yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe ofanana, John Falcon amene ali ndi chiwerengero cha kukula kwake masentimita makumi atatu ndi anai. Iye ndi nyenyezi ya mafilimu otchuka, ndipo amachotsedwanso m'magazini ngati amenewo. Ndipo ndi zilembo zake zonse, muzithu zonse za mawu awa, ndi wokondedwa weniweni.
Miyeso yokhudza gulu la "lalikulu"
Zimakhulupirira kuti kukula kwake, komwe ndi msinkhu wa masentimita makumi awiri, kumagwirizana ndi ziwerengero zazikulu. Ndi kutalika kotere muyenera kuigwira. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti amuna omwe akufuna kuwombera filimuyo, ayenera kukhala ndi miyeso yotereyi, mosasamala.
Malangizo ogwiritsidwa ntchito
Ndiwe mwini wachimwemwe wa theka lachiwiri, kukula kwakukulu? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti muyenera kuphunzira zofunikira zomwe mukuchita, panthawi ya kugonana, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupewa zovuta ndi zowawa ndikukumana ndi chisangalalo ndikudzikwaniritsa.
Mafuta ayenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito mokwanira. Ikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito monga mafuta opangira, omwe angagulidwe m'masitolo oyenerera, monga masitolo ogonana, kumene kusankha kwakukulu kumaperekedwa. Izi zikutsatiraninso mmene mungathandizire kuti thupi lanu likhale ndi mafuta abwino. Kuti muchite izi, nkofunika kuthera nthawi yochuluka kwambiri pamayambiriro oyamba, musanayambe kuchita zachiwerewere. Ndiyeneranso kuzindikira kuti pakali pano, kuti muthe kupeza zotsatira zabwino, njira yodekha iyenera kupitirira kugonana kwa nthawi. Chofunika ndi chakuti mafutawa amachititsa kuti thupi likhale losasinthasintha komanso lokhazikika. Izi zimathandiza amayi kuti asatenge mawonekedwe oyenera, kulola kukhala membala wa kukula kwakukulu, komanso kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala komanso kuti mukhale osangalala kwambiri.
Ndiyeneranso kuyang'anitsitsa ku mbali zakuthupi. Ndizodziwika bwino kuti pali zochitika zosiyanasiyana za minofu ya abambo yomwe imathandizira kukwaniritsa zinazake, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zotetezeka, pamtundu wina, kuti zikugwiritseni ntchito pa membala wa bwenzi lanu kukwaniritsa zotsatira zabwino zogonana. Komanso, pali zochitika zina zomwe, pophunzitsa minofu ya vaginja, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zotsekemera, zomwe zingathandizenso kupewa zovuta zomwe zingayambitse munthu wodabwitsa kwambiri, wolowera mkati. Ndiponso, mothandizidwa ndi minofu yophunzitsidwa yokhudzana ndi kugonana, mudzapeza zokhudzidwa zatsopano zomwe mungapeze panthawi yogonana.