Koposa kamodzi kunanenedwa kuti oimira maukwati amphamvu ngati maso. Pano ndi mkhalidwe uno, malingaliro awa adapeza tsatanetsatane. Mwamuna sangayambe ubale wabwino ndi mtsikana amene sakonda iye. Kwa mwamuna mu ubale uliwonse, mkazi ayenera kukhala wokongola ndipo ayenera kukondedwa ndi iye. Koma atsikana ambiri, poyankha funsoli: "Kodi mukuganiza kuti pali kugonana kwaubwenzi? "Kutsetsereka kumatsimikizira kuti ambiri a iwo amakhulupirira kukhala paubwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe angayambe kukopa kugonana. Koma nthawi zambiri, ubwenzi pakati pa amuna kapena akazi amayamba kugonana popanda chiwonongeko pochita chizindikiro cha "wokoma mtima". Mwa njirayi, simungaganize bwanji izi, koma maubwenzi oterowa ndi othandiza, nthawi zina, kuti aswetse ubwenzi weniweni ndi wowona mtima ndi kutsogolera kugwirizana.
Koma anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi abwenzi ndi kugonana popanda kudzipereka. Palibe malamulo, ntchito komanso zofunikira kuti mupitirizebe kugwirizana. Anangokhala "abwenzi" ophweka chabe, omwe anali ndi malingaliro, omwe anawathandiza kukhala pabedi limodzi.
Nenani ayi ku zoletsedwa.
Njira yaikulu ya kugonana ndi abwenzi ndizosavuta kugwirizana. Mumangom'peza mnzanuyo ndikugonana naye momasuka, kumene kulibe mavuto ndi zoletsedwa. Koma izi n'zotheka kokha ngati mtsikanayo ndi mnyamatayo angathe kuyesa bwino momwe zilili panopo, kumvetsetsa ndikuvomereza zonse. Mwa njira, ngati mutakhala ndi chibwenzi chotero wina ali ndi malingaliro a tsogolo, izi zikhoza kuthetsa. Pachifukwa ichi, pali umboni wochuluka kuti nthawi zambiri, kugonana kwaubwenzi kumaphatikizapo ubale weniweni, kapena kuti kusintha kwa iwo.
Zosangalatsa komanso zosavuta.
Kulankhulana kwapafupi koteroko kuli kosavuta. Zonsezi zimasowa zonse zomwe zimachitika "maluwa". Pano simukuyenera kupita kumadzulo, kudzaza mphatso wina ndi mnzake ndikupeza munthu watsopano, podziwa dziko lake la mkati. Mabwenzi okha amadziwa bwino zolakwa zawo, amagwiritsana ntchito ndipo amakhala okonzeka pamodzi. Nthawi zonse amatha kuseka zolakwitsa zawo, komanso kugawana nawo nkhani zawo zachikondi. Mwa njira, maubwenzi oterewa ndi abwino kwa anthu omwe sagwirizana ndi chibwenzi ndi chilichonse chomwe chikuyenda.
Misonkhano Yachinsinsi.
Mwa njira, ngati mwamangiriza maubwenzi oterewa komanso kuti ndinu ogwirizana osati ndi chibwenzi komanso kugonana, musayime kumanzere ndi kulengeza izi. Mulole chirichonse chikhalebe pakati pa anthu awiri okha. Mofanana ndi mnyamata ndi mtsikana, munthu sayenera kuitanitsa misonkhano yambiri, kusamala, kuimbira foni kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake. Choyamba, ganizirani, kuti mukugwirizana ndi anzanu, ndipo pokhapokha mutagonana.
Tsogolo Labwino.
Kawirikawiri m'mutu mungathe kudutsa mu lingaliro lakuti kugonana kochezeka kungakhale chiyambi cha chinachake. Kawirikawiri, amakhulupirira oimira zachiwerewere. Amayamba kukonzekera zam'tsogolo ndikudikirira kuti akwaniritsidwe. Koma, monga lamulo, nthawi zambiri chilakolako chazimayi chikhoza kukhala chosagwirizana ndi mwamuna. Chifukwa cha ichi, pangakhale kusiyana ndi kusamvetsetsana. Choncho, muubwenzi wokondana ndikumvetsetsa lamulo limodzi kuti maganizo ndi adani a chiyanjano. Kotero, ngati muli otsimikiza za ubale wapamtima ndi bwenzi, muyenera kuiwala zolinga zanu ndi ziyembekezo zanu. Komanso, ngati ndinu mwini mwa chilengedwe, ndiye kuti izi siziri zanu.
Kugonana kuli ngati njira yotaya mnzanu.
Nthawi zonse kuyendayenda kuchokera kugonana kupita kuubwenzi, pamapeto pake kumatha kusokoneza ubwenzi wonse. Ndipo izi zingachititse kuti abwenzi awo asalankhulane. Mwatsoka, ubale umenewu umatha. Chifukwa kugonana kumatha kusokoneza zonse zomwe ubwenzi unakhazikitsidwa. Eya, ngati mumamuyamikira kwambiri ngati mnzanuyo, ndiye kofunikira kufikira mutachedwa kuti muyese ndikuyesa chirichonse chimene chinatembenuzidwa kukhala bwenzi lanu.
Chikondi ndi ubwenzi: chidzapambana chiyani?
Nthawi zina mabwenzi amakonda kupanga chikondi ndikupitiriza kugawana wina ndi mzake momasuka komanso moona mtima, monga amzanga omwewo. Kaŵirikaŵiri, mwamuna ndi mkazi, maganizo oterewa amakakamizidwa ndi chidziwitso chofuna kumudziwa ngati bwenzi lawo. Koma, zilizonse zomwe zikanakhalapo, koma kuwonjezera pa ubwenzi wapamtima, ubale umenewu sungakhale chikondi. Bwenzi lakale likhoza kutha tsiku limodzi ndipo mnyamata ndi mtsikana adzakumbukira chilichonse chomwe chinawachitikira ndi kumwetulira nkhope zawo.
Kusokonezeka mwa bwenzi.
Kuchokera kukhumudwa kwa mnzanu, palibe yemwe ali ndi chitetezo, ngakhale abwenzi, okondedwa. Choncho, pokhala m'busa mmodzi amatha kuzindikira kuti ubwenzi ndi wofunika kwambiri kwa iwo. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mukuzindikira kuti zimakhala zomasuka kwambiri kuti mukhale abwenzi kusiyana ndi kugonana, ndipo ubwenzi ndi chibwenzi chanu. Mwa njira, kuti abise izi zovuta, abwenzi onsewo ayesa kuchita ngati kuti palibe chirichonse pakati pawo.
Kuwoneka kwa amuna.
Amuna, monga amayi, amakhulupirira kuti pali kugonana kwaubwenzi. Ndipo mochulukirapo, amaona kuti izi ndizochitika zachilendo. Pambuyo pake, mwa lingaliro lawo, ubale uliwonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ukhoza kupita ku chilakolako. Mnyamatayo ndi chodabwitsa chotchedwa "anapatsa slabinka" ndikuyang'ana mzake - mtsikana wosiyana kwambiri ndi maso. Kawirikawiri, amuna amakhulupirira kuti pambuyo pa kugonana koteroko, mungathe kupitirizabe ubwenzi wanu mosalekeza popanda kukhumudwa ndi kulakwa.
Ndiwe bwenzi langa, wokondedwa komanso mnzanga wapamtima ...
Chimene sichiyenera kunena, komabe pali kugonana pansi pa lingaliro la "ochezeka". Ndipo akhoza kuthetsa ndi zomwe adayamba - ubwenzi. Chinthu chachikulu muzochitika izi ndikuti abwenzi adziphunzirana mosiyana. Chilakolako chimenechi chingathe ngati wina wa abwenzi sapeza chikondi chenicheni mmoyo yekha, kubwezeretsa chirichonse chomwe chinali mmalo mwake. Kumbukirani kuti chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsetsa, ndipo ndiye kuti bwenzi lanu lidzatha kulimbana ndi mayesero.