Mitundu yeniyeni ya maubwenzi pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana nthawi zina imakhalabe pa chibwenzi - kenako nkukhala mmenemo, kapena kukhala paubale weniweni, kapena kutha, kapena kukhala mtundu wothandizana ndi chikondi. Ambiri amakangana ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kukhala mabwenzi. Inde, angathe. Koma pokhapokha ngati alibe chibwenzi pakati pawo. Vomerezani, chifukwa ndizoti mukadziwana ndi mnyamata, mukudziwa: iye ali ngati m'bale wanga. Lingaliro lirilonse kuti iye angakhoze kukhala chinachake chochuluka, ndi lokwiyitsa komanso lachinyansa. Ubwenzi wamtundu uwu, mwinamwake, udzakhala moyo wonse osati peretechet muzinthu zina. Ndipo kusowa kwa kukopa sikukutanthauza kuti mnyamatayu alibe chifundo kapena amachita ngati mtsikana. Mwachidule, m'moyo wathu nthawi zina pali anthu omwe sali a mtundu wathu. Koma panthawi yomweyi, iwo ali pafupi ndi ife. Apa ndi pamene kumverera kwa ubale, ubale wa uzimu, womwe sumafika ku chilakolako chakuthupi, ukuwuka. Mwatsoka, sikuti amayi onse ali ndi mwayi ndi ichi. Ena samakumana ndi anyamata awa, ndipo anyamata ena samangozindikira ngati bwenzi. Ndipotu, ubwenzi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali. Ndi munthu wina yemwe amapereka mphatso izi kuchokera ku cornucopia, ndipo wina pafupifupi samawalandira, ndicho chifukwa chake samakhulupirira kuti izi zingakhale.
Ngati mnyamata ndi mtsikana alidi abwenzi, ubale wawo ukhoza kukhala wamphamvu kuposa abwenzi awiri, abwenzi, kapena ngakhale angapo. Mwachidule, iwo sawonana wina ndi mzake mpikisano ndipo alibe chogawana. Kuwonjezera apo, anyamata omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse kusunga chizindikiro mu kampani yamwamuna, abwenzi awo apamtima asanathe kuchotsa maskiti ndikuchita moona mtima, omwe amayamikira kwambiri. Ndipo atsikanawo, nthawi zonse, amatha kufunsa malangizo okhudza anthu ena ogonana kwambiri. Ndi anzanga, nthawi zambiri amalankhula za zomwe atsikana sangathe kuziuza. Zimangowoneka kuti chibwenzicho, nthawi zambiri, amamvetsa zambiri ndikupanga zifukwa zochepa. Choncho tinagwiritsidwa ntchito pofuna kukonzekeretsa anyamata athu okondedwa, choncho timayesetsa kuwamasulira, kuwamasulira kuti akhale abwino. Koma abwenzi abwino amadziwa zonse monga momwe zilili. Ndicho chifukwa chake abwenzi angakhale odalirika ndi zinsinsi zamtundu uliwonse, funsani malangizo ndipo nthawizonse mverani maganizo ake. Atsikana amathandizanso anzawo. Maganizo amenewa, kawirikawiri, ndiwo mtundu weniweni waubwenzi, popeza palibe munthu wodzitama ndi wonyada. Mu ubale umenewu, aliyense amakhalabe chomwe ali, m'malo moyesera kusonyeza mnzako kuti ali bwino, wochenjera kapena wokongola kwambiri. Ngati abwenzi ali ndi zibwenzi zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, iwo ndi ofanana kwambiri kuposa kale lonse, chifukwa aliyense wa iwo ali bwino mwa njira yakeyo ndipo amangokhala opanda nzeru zodzikweza ndi kupikisana. Ubwenzi mu mawonekedwe awa ndi ubale wabwino ndi mgwirizano pakati pa oimira azimayi osiyanasiyana.
Koma, kuwonjezera pa ubwenzi mu chikhalidwe chake chokha, palinso ubwenzi ndi mwayi. Mu ubale wotero, ubwenzi umaphatikizidwa ndi kugonana. Pankhani imeneyi, anthu amakopeka, komabe alibe zokwanira komanso zofunikanso. Kapena, ena mwa iwo amangokonda ndikusankha ubale woterewa.
Kawirikawiri, mabwenzi oterewa amakhala ofanana kwambiri, koma samawawonetsa pagulu mosavuta komanso momasuka ngati mabwenzi enieni. Kwenikweni, okonda amzanga otere amadziyesa kuti pakati pawo palibenso kanthu koma ubwenzi. Inde, amadziwa kuti n'chabechabe kubisala, koma akupitirizabe kugwira ntchito zawo. Mu ubale wotere, chinthu chachikulu sichikupweteka munthu. Ngati magwiridwe onsewa ali pamtunda, ndiye kuti zonse zimakhala bwino. Mabwenzi oterewa akhoza kusewera masewera masana, ndipo amagonana usiku ndipo zidzakhala kwa iwo mu dongosolo la zinthu. Ngati wina wochokera kwa awiriwa atapeza mnyamata kapena chibwenzi, ndiye kuti wachiwiri adzakondwera naye ndikukhala bwenzi lapamtima.
Choipa kwambiri, pamene mnzanu wina amakonda yachiwiri. Pachifukwa ichi, iye amangogwira ntchito yokha basi, ndipo, nthawi zambiri, munthuyu samachichita yekha, koma chifukwa wokondedwayo ndi wofunika kwambiri.
Ngati mumakamba za munthu amene mumamukonda, ndiye kuti akhoza kupita naye pachibwenzi chotero, chifukwa amamvera chisoni chibwenzi chake, koma sakonda, kuchoka pamtima kapena kukhumudwa. Kawirikawiri, ubwenzi umenewu umatha m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Choyamba - wina amapeza chikondi chenicheni. Pankhaniyi, yachiwiri ikuyamba kuvutika ndikuvutika ndi kuyesa kubwezeretsa zonse. Koma popeza palibe choti abwerere, mazunzo amakhala amphamvu kwambiri. Izi sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa chinyengo chimathyoledwa, ndipo, tsopano, ndikofunika kukhala ndi kuzindikira kuti munthuyo adzinyenga yekha. Zikatero, kuyankhulana kumatha kapena kuchepetsedwa kukhala osachepera. Mwinamwake, ndithudi, osati kwanthawizonse, koma kwa nthawi imeneyo, pamene wokonda samakhala chete, ndipo malingaliro ake sangakhale ozizira.
Njira yachiwiri ndikuti chikondi chimadutsa pochita ubwenzi. Pachifukwa ichi, ubalewu ukupitilira mwa mawonekedwe omwewo, koma palibe amene akuvutika, kapena, amasiya ndipo anthu amakhala mabwenzi okha. Ubale weniweni wamtunduwu umatheka ndithu pambuyo pa kugonana. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti palibe amene ayenera kumverera chikondi kwa wina ndi mzake.
Njira yachitatu ndi, pambuyo pake, ndi chikondi. Pachifukwa ichi, munthu yemwe akuumirira kuti akhale paubwenzi amadziwanso kuti ali ndi malingaliro. Mwinamwake iwo anali naye poyamba, koma iye sankakhoza kuvomereza kwa iyeyekha, bwenzi lake, apite bwenzi, kawirikawiri, pamaso pa onse. Zochitika zoterozo, ndipo nthawi zambiri zokwanira. Anthu amabisala kumbuyo kwa kugonana pofuna kubisa chilakolako chokhala ndi chiyanjano. Inde, njira iyi ndi yabwino kwambiri ndi yolandiridwa kumbali zonsezo.
Kotero, tingathe kunena kuti pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya maubwenzi pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana. Kungakhale ubale weniweni, chikondi chenicheni ndi kukopa komwe kumachitika pakati pa mfundozi. Ndikumverera kotere ndikumakangana ndikukudandaulirani ngati pali chikondi popanda ubwenzi, komanso ubwenzi wopanda chikondi.