Paunyamata, nthawi ikafika pa chikondi choyamba, anyamata ndi atsikana amadzidzimutsa mwadzidzidzi kuti ali ndi lingaliro losiyana kwambiri ndi momwe okonda ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo. Mnyamatayu ali wotsimikiza kuti ntchito yawo yaikulu ndi kukhazikitsa moyo wapamtima mwamsanga momwe zingathere komanso nthawi zonse momwe mungathetsere chimwemwe cha kugonana. Msungwanayo amaganiza kuti chinthu chokongola kwambiri mwachidziwitso chimayenda pansi pa mwezi, kukambirana kwapakati pa foni ndi kumpsompsona kokometsa. Ngakhale chikondi chenicheni kwa msilikali wake, iye sali konse, monga akunena, "pita patsogolo." Izi zili choncho chifukwa chakuti chilakolako cha kugonana mu thupi la munthu chimakomana ndi testosterone ya hormone. Amapangidwa kuchokera muzimayi ndi thupi, koma ndalama zake zimadalira zaka za munthu. Kwa anyamata omwe ali ndi zaka 16 mpaka 20 mphepo yamkuntho imakhala ikugwedezeka, pokhala ndi mphamvu zomwe iwo amaganiza nthawi zonse zokhudza kugonana. Ndipo nthawi zambiri samasamala za khalidwe lake, chinthu chachikulu ndizokhakha.
Ndipo mu thupi lachikazi panthawiyi, kupanga testosterone sikula kwambiri ndipo kumakula pang'onopang'ono, choncho maganizo amatha kugwedezeka, ndipo mtsikanayo nthawi zambiri amavomereza kugonana, kumangokwaniritsa zofuna za wokondedwa, ndipo samakhutitsidwa ndi kugonana.
Ndili ndi zaka 25, thupi lamwamuna nthawi zambiri limafika pachimake, chomwe chakhalapo zaka pafupifupi 10. Msungwana nthawi zonse akupitiriza kuwonjezera testosterone ndikupanga kugonana. Choncho, ali ndi zaka 28-32 mu chiyanjano cha maukwati ambiri ogonana amakhazikitsidwa, chifukwa panthawi imeneyo chiberekero chachikazi cha testosterone ndi mzere wochokera pansi pa amuna chikutsutsidwa. Munthu amene anapulumuka nthawi yamkuntho yam'madzi yomwe imamukakamiza kufunafuna malingaliro atsopano ndikumva kuti amakhala wodekha ndi wolekerera, amakhala pa ubwenzi wabwino ndi mnzake. Mtsikanayo amadzutsa chilakolako cha kugonana, ndipo amayamba kusangalala ndi kugonana - pafupifupi 20 peresenti ya kugonana mwachilungamo pokhapokha 30 atayamba kuonongeka.
M'tsogolomu, mzere wa "testosterone mtanda" umasiyana, chifukwa pambuyo pa zaka 30-35 zaka khumi zapitazi zimapangika mofulumira ndi pafupifupi 1% pa chaka (zina zimatha kupititsa patsogolo njirayi, mwachitsanzo, ndi kunenepa kwambiri, "kuchepa" kumatha kufika 10%). Mu moyo wa munthu, kugonana kumasiya kugwira ntchito yofunikira ngati poyamba. Pakalipano, atsikana onse akuzungulira: nthawi zonse chitukuko cha testosterone mu thupi lachikazi chikukula mofulumira ndipo chimakula kufika pa zaka 40. Kugonana kumakhala kofunikira kwa iye, koma anzako sadziwa zosowa zomwe, zomwe, monga momwe adakali aunyamata wake, amafunikira kutentha osati zochitika zowonongeka.
Ndipo thupi la mtsikanayo pakali pano likukonzekera pang'onopang'ono kuti "pindani" mabendera, chifukwa nyengo siili kutali. Zoona, isanayambe kuphulika kwa mahomoni, yomwe inatsimikiziranso mawu akuti "mu 45 mabulosi abambo kachiwiri." Chinthu chomwecho chikhoza kuchitika mwa amuna, kotero "ali ndi tsitsi la ndevu, mdierekezi mu nthiti." Pa msinkhu uno, maukwati okhazikika nthawi zambiri amatha ndipo mabanja osiyana-siyana amabadwa. Ndipo, ngati bamboyu anali wamkulu kuposa mkazi wake, posachedwapa anali ndi chizoloŵezi chowonekera kwa maanja, momwe mkaziyo ali wamkulu kuposa wokondedwa wake, ku Ulaya chiwerengero cha maukwati amenewo ndi pafupifupi 9%.
M'moyo wamakono wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa anthu m'zaka zaposachedwa, nayenso, pakhala kusintha. Ngati sanaganizire kuti ngati munthu ali ndi zaka zambiri, moyo wake wapamtima uyenera kukhala wopanda pake, koma tsopano malingaliro asintha. Masiku ano amakhulupirira kuti patapita nthaŵi munthu amakhala ndi chiwerewere, ndi bwino. Ndipo chiŵerengero cha anthu omwe, ngakhale kuti akutha msinkhu, akupitiriza kusangalala ndi zosangalatsa zazing'ono, akukula mofulumira, oposa theka la amuna mu 60 ali awo (zaka 15 zapitazo anali pafupifupi theka ochuluka). Ndipo madokotala amalandira bwino kwambiri, chifukwa zatsimikiziridwa kale kuti njira za ukalamba ndizo "mantha" a kugonana, ndipo iwo omwe sadzikana okha kwa iwo, amayambanso mtsogolo.