Kodi ndi kusiyana kotani komwe kumatengedwa kukhala kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa abwenzi? Zikuoneka kuti kusiyana kwakukulu mu msinkhu kuli kwinakwake pafupi zaka 15, 25, 35, 45, kusiyana pakati pa tsiku la kubadwa kwa zibwenzi. Zakafupi - zaka 3, 5, 7, 10, 14 ziyenera kuonedwa ngati kusiyana kwa zaka za pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi mu chiyanjano, chifukwa cha chikondi komanso kulumikizana kwa banja.
Komabe, zigawo zilizonse apa ndizovomerezeka, ndipo wina sangaganize poganiza kuti kusiyana pakati pa zaka zapakati paokha kumathandiza kwambiri pa chibwenzi. Apa tikuyenera kulingalira osati kalendala yokha, komanso zaka zapakatikati za ogonana nawo.
Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti mnyamata wazaka 18-19 azatseka chilakolako cha kulingalira, malingaliro, moyo wake, bizinesi yamakampani ndi kusamalira wokondedwa wake wamkulu 35 kapena ngakhale wazaka 55, wooneka ngati wokhwima, koma wodzikonda ndi wodzikonda yekha muzhchinku , kupatula zolakalaka zake, safuna kuona chilichonse ndi kumumvetsera.
Ndipo nthawizina zimakhala kuti mtsikana wamng'ono, zodabwitsa kwa iyemwini, ali m'manja mwa Lovelace wodziwa bwino, ndipo nthawi yomweyo samataya ubwana wake wokha, komanso gawo lake la malingaliro ake, mopanda mpumulo amadzigonjera kwa "mbuye" wake ndi kuvina pamaso pake pamilendo yake yamphongo ngati galu .
Mwamtheradi anthu onse ndi apadera ndipo safanana ndi wina ndi mzake, choncho n'zosatheka kunena chimodzimodzi ngati kusiyana pakati pa mibadwo kumakhala ndi udindo waukulu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Wina anganene motsimikiza kuti anthu ambiri akulakwitsa kuti "Amuna makumi asanu ndi awiri (60) alibe kugonana". Khulupirirani kuti anthu ena achikulire amatha kugonana nthawi zambiri komanso motalika kuposa nkhumba zina.
Inde, ndi kutayika kwa thupi, ndi makwinya otchuka, mu kugonana - osati choletsa. Mumayesedwa ndi zofooka za thupi ndi munthu mwamsanga. Ndipo ngakhale poyamba poyamba akuwonekera, ndiye kuti simukuwazindikira konse. Ndipotu, thupi la mkazi kapena mwamuna ali ndi zaka 50 sali wosiyana kwambiri ndi wazaka 25, makamaka ngati munthuyo akudziyang'ana yekha. Ndipo okondedwa onse a amayi nthawi zambiri amatsatira izi mwatcheru.
Ponena za psychology ya maubwenzi, ngati mwamuna wamkulu kuposa mkazi, ndi wamkulu kwambiri, ndiye ali wapadera. Ngati ali ndi zaka zakubadwa, komanso ndi malingaliro a wothandizana naye, ngati ali ndi khalidwe lolimba, amatha kusewera monga udindo wa bambo kapena mphunzitsi poyerekeza ndi wokondedwa wake.
Ngati ali mtsikana, wokongola komanso wokongola, mtsikana, ndipo ndi wokalamba, koma akudabwa mu kugonana, ndiye kuti ubale pakati pawo ndi wotheka, koma okhawo amapereka chisoni pambali yake ndi masochism - ndi iye.
Amuna a msinkhu ndi abodza kwambiri. Zili choncho kuti mutha kudabwa. Kwa wina wa anzake adangonena momwe angawonekere sakufuna phunziro la N, ndipo phunziro lomwelo H mu masekondi asanu limapangitsa kukhala ndi "anus leasing" khalidwe pa foni. Ndipo, ngati mumamufunsa - "Kodi muli ndi ufulu lero?", Akazi asanu ndi awiri adzalandira mayankho 7 osiyana. Tsoka ilo, amuna ambiri omwe ali achikulire kwambiri kuposa akazi kawirikawiri amakhala ndi zolinga zabwino ndi zabwino.
Azimayi okha omwe akhala kale kale akudziwa momwe mukuponderezedwa ndi inu nokha chifukwa chakuti simunakwatire ndipo osankhidwa anu saganiza ngakhale kukwatira. Ndipo iwe umadzizunza wekha ndi funso - "Ndipo ngati ine ndikufuna kuti ndidzakwatire nkomwe? Ndipo kodi amayi ngati ine amakwatirana, kapena ndingakhale mbuye wanga moyo wanga wonse? "
Ndi malingaliro owawa pa tsogolo labwino? Nchiyani chiti chichitike mu miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, chaka, zaka ziwiri, zisanu kuchokera pano? Kukhala Mayi Wamuyaya? Popanda chiyembekezo, popanda ana, wopanda moyo?
Ngati mukuyang'ana m "mene mzimayi ali wamkulu kuposa mwamuna, ndiye kuti, monga lamulo, nkhani zapadera sizimawuka. Chinthu chachikulu chimene mkazi angathe kuchiwona mwa wosankhidwa wake bwenzi labwino, ndi chithandizo chodalirika.
Vuto lalikulu muukwati, pamene mkazi ali wamkulu kuposa mwamuna, ndikuti ngati ali kale zaka 45, 55, 60, iye kale, sangathe kukhala ndi mwana wake ndi wosankhidwayo sadzatha kukhala ndi chimwemwe cha abambo. Komabe, monga zikuwonetsera kachitidwe ka zamalonda zamakono, osati kuwonetsa bizinesi, achinyamata ambiri nthawi zambiri amasintha kugona usiku ndi vagaries ndi kulira kwa makanda kutchuka ndi kutchuka, koma ngati akhala mu khola la golide.
Choncho, kufotokoza mwachidule, tikuwona kuti, inde, kusiyana kwakukulu kwa zaka, monga chikhalidwe, kumabweretsa mgwirizano wa chikondi chosagwirizana kapena ukwati wosagwirizana, momwe wina wa zibwenzi kapena onse awiri akuvutika ndi chiwerengero, chikhalidwe, zinthu ndi tsankho komanso zoperewera zina. Mulimonsemo, chikondi ndi masewera a Russian roulette. Komabe, ngati mkazi ali wamkulu kwambiri kuposa mwamuna wake, kapena munthu wamkulu kwambiri kuposa wosankhidwa wake, ndiye kuti pangozi yowononga mfutiyo yomwe imathetsa mavuto onse omwe achitika chifukwa cha izi, kuwonjezeka kwa khumi ndilo lamulo la chirengedwe, ndipo sitingathe kukangana naye. Ngakhale kuti pali zosiyana ndi lamulo lililonse.