Ndipo akudandaula kwambiri kuti "phunziro" la malingaliro ake silinadziwike pakubwereza. Ndipo ine ndinaganiza kachiwiri: ndi akazi otani ngati amuna enieni?
Zimadziwika bwino kuti malingaliro a kukongola ndi osiyana kwambiri m'mayiko osiyanasiyana komanso nthawi zosiyana, atsikana omwe anali kugonana zaka makumi angapo zapitazo tsopano akuonedwa kuti ndi opanda nzeru. Ndipo zimadziwikanso kuti kukongola sikutanthauza chidwi cha amuna. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kukongola kokha kumangokhala nokha, ndipo "imvi" imakhala yosangalala m'banja ndipo ili pafupi ndi amuna. Wolemekezeka kwambiri "90-60-90" amakopeka malingaliro a amuna, koma mantha ndi zolinga zazikulu.
Kuyang'ana atsikana okongola kwambiri mumakampani akukweza, mungaganize kuti akazi ngati amuna. Koma moyo umatsutsa lingaliro ili. Pakapita nthawi, zimakhala zomveka kuti ndi abwenzi osweka omwe anyamatawa "akudziŵa". Ndipo kukwatirana, monga lamulo, mwamtheradi pa ena.
Nanga ndi akazi otani omwe amakondweretsa amuna? Kwa amuna enieni omwe ali okongola kwambiri kwa ife, atsikana okhawo omwe ali ndi usinkhu wautali ndi msinkhu. Komabe, pakuyamba ndi kofunikira kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la "munthu weniweni". Poyang'ana zotsatira za kufufuza kosiyanasiyana (ndi akazi ndi amuna), munthu uyu:
- wopambana ndi wodzidalira;
- amatha kutenga udindo ndikupanga zisankho;
- ali ndi lingaliro lake lomwe, amayesetsa kukhala wangwiro;
- zolinga, amadziwa momwe angakhalire ntchito ndikuzikwaniritsa;
- wanzeru, woganizira, olimbika.
Kukongola pa nthawi yomweyo kunali kotsiriza m'ndandanda, ndipo palibe m'badwo uliwonse. Ndipo ngati lingaliro la mwamuna weniweni lidawonekera bwino, limakhalabe kuti lidziwe kumvetsa kwawo "mkazi weniweni".
Kafukufuku wambiri wasonyeza kuti amuna enieni amayamikira akazi ngati iwowo. Amakonda akazi abwino, odzidalira okha, okhudzidwa ndi anzeru. Okhazikika mtima omwe angathe kukhala wokondedwa weniweni mu bizinesi iliyonse ali odziimira okha ndipo samafuna chisamaliro chachikulu kuchokera kwa amuna. Akazi oterewa ndi achibadwa, samadziwika ndi zofuna zawo kapena kudzipweteka, kukhumudwa, hysteria ndi infantilism.
Koma pa nthawi yomweyi mkazi ayenera kukhala mkazi. Mwamuna ayenera kumverera wamphamvu, kuti akhale mtsogoleri. Zikondwerero zakale izi sizisintha. Ndicho chifukwa chake palibe kukopeka kwa chibwibwi chomwe nthawi zonse chimayesa kupondereza mnzake. Ngakhale ngati mkazi ali ndi bizinezi yabwino, udindo wa mkazi ndi amayi amayembekezeredwa kuchokera kwa iye m'banja: wosamalira mosamala. Amuna enieni ngati adipatimenti azimayi omwe angathe kuchita molingana ndi zochitikazo. Iwo amatha kukhala abambo kuti akwaniritse zolinga, malonda ndi aluso pantchito yawo, koma kunyumba amapereka ufulu wovota kwa mwamuna wokondedwa. Kuti akhale wokongola chotero, mkazi amafunikira kuleza mtima ndi nzeru.
Mwachiwonekere, makhalidwe amenewa amadza ndi ukalamba ndi chidziwitso. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti asungwana aang'ono ataya akazi okhwima. Ukazi, chithunzithunzi cha kuthamanga, kugwirizana kwa mkati ndi kutseguka, kuphatikizapo chilakolako cha kudzikonda, ndicho chinsinsi cha kupambana. Kotero, ngakhale inu muli dona wamng'ono, inu mukhoza kulangabe mitima ya anthu kuposa akazi aakulu.
Ndipo kudziŵa mtundu wa mkazi ali ngati amuna enieni kudzakuthandizani posankha chitsogozo chokonzekera.