Koma pa zifukwa zina mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku chirichonse chiri mwanjira ina. Ambiri atatha kugonana amagawana kwamuyaya, ngakhale kuti amawoneka kuti amakondana. Zomwe zimachitika. Kuti chiyanjano choyambirira chinali, ndipo chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi chinali chitapita. Ndipo ngakhale, nthawi yoyamba ikhoza kukhala yangwiro, momwe mungachitire zonse mwabwino ndi mwachikondi.
Mukauzidwa kuti pambuyo pa kugonana koyamba mudzapeza ngati mukugwirizana ndi mnzanu kapena ayi - musakhulupirire. Mwinamwake, padzakhala misonkhano yochuluka yokha, pamene mungathe kumvetsa. Koma osati nthawi yoyamba.
Ndipo chifukwa chomvetsetsa ndi chophweka. Pa nthawi yogonana ndi mnzanu watsopano, chirichonse chikhoza kuchitika. Zinthu si zachilendo ndipo simungathe kumasuka, mumamva kuti mukupanikizika. Mukhoza kusokoneza ndi kusadziwa kwanu zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda. Ndipotu ife tonse ndife osiyana ndipo zikhumbo zathu sizifanana ndi zilakolako za wina ndi mzake. Onse ali pawokha, makamaka pa kugonana. Wina wolimba ndi wofatsa, kapena mosiyana, wosaleza mtima. Winawake amalamulira, ndipo wina amamvera.
Inde, pali kusagwirizana mokwanira. Mwachitsanzo, maganizo a anthu pa kugonana. Pali anthu amene amafuna kugonana ngati mpweya, sangathe kukhala opanda maganizo omwe akuchitika panthawi yogonana. Iwo samaimira miyoyo yawo popanda kugonana. Moyo wawo ndi chilakolako, kuyendetsa galimoto ndi kutengeka. Kugonana ndi moyo wawo ndipo ukhoza kutsatiridwa ngakhale kavalidwe kawo. Anthu oterewa nthawi zonse amanyengerera ndi kulimbikira si awo. Zolemba zawo, monga nyengo, zimatsatizana nthawi zonse.
Koma palinso kugonana kwa conjugal, ndipo mu kugonana, osachepera saturated. Moyo wokwatirana - awa ndi aja okhawo ogonana, komanso chikondi, chilakolako ndi kusagwedezana ndi kukondana kwa wina ndi mzake. Mwamuna ndi mkazi wake adzalandira zaka zambiri pamoto ndi kukondana, kukondweretsa misonkhano komanso nthawi zonse zatsopano. Amadziwitsana bwino komanso amayembekezera zokhumba kale.
Koma pali anthu a mtundu wosiyana kwambiri. Iwo alibe chidwi kwenikweni ndi kugonana. Kwa iwo, m'banja lawo, kugonana ndi chinthu chopanda phindu komanso kosankha. Koma iwo, nawonso, amasangalala m'njira zawo.
Choncho, ngati pali msonkhano wa anthu awiri omwe ali ndi maganizo osiyana zokhudzana ndi kugonana, ndiye zotsatira zonse zosagwirizana. M'mikhalidwe yotereyi, yemwe kugonana ndi ofunika, amayamba kufunafuna ulendo kumbali. Mabanja otero sadzakhala nthawi yaitali pamodzi. Choncho, poyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mukugwirizana patsiku loyambirira, mutha kupeza zokhumudwitsa zambiri pambuyo pake. Tiyenera kuyembekezera, nthawi ndi chinthu chachikulu. Ngati pambuyo poyambirira, mwinamwake ngakhale osati msonkhano wopambana kwambiri, mukufunabe kupitabe patsogolo. Taganizani, bwanji ngati chiri chikondi?
Kawirikawiri, amayi onse amafunsidwa funso limodzi - kaya pomwepo, tsiku loyamba, avomerezana kugonana. Mwinamwake ndi koyenera kuyembekezera, kwa kanthawi. Ndipo ndithudi, aliyense amadzifunsanso funsoli.
Ndipo kodi anthu amaganiza chiyani pankhaniyi? Mu gawo lachimuna la anthu apo pali ziwiri, ndi malingaliro osiyana mosiyana. Gawo loyamba limakhulupirira kuti ngati kugonana kumachitika mofulumira, kuchepetsa chiyanjanocho chidzatha. Gawo lachiwiri la anthu likunena kuti ngati pali malingaliro enieni palibe chifukwa chochedwa ndi kugonana.
Mzere wabwino mu chiyanjano ndi wosavuta kupitako, koma zomwe zimachitika kenako, kawirikawiri palibe amene akudziwa. Akatswiri a zaumulungu amanena kuti amayi ambiri omwe anagonana tsiku loyamba anadandaula. Anthu omwe amagonana pa tsiku loyamba ndi anthu otsimikiza.
Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za zomwe tiyenera kugonana, kuti tisakhumudwe.
Ndipotu, si nthawi zonse kukhala koyambirira kumene kumakhala chochitika chachikulu m'moyo wanu. Zitha kuchitika komanso zosiyana - mantha ndi kulephera. Choyamba, musachite zomwe muyenera kudandaula nazo. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti simungathe kuchita popanda kondomu. Sankhani mphindi yoyenera ndi modekha, koma molimbika, auzeni mnzanuyo za izo. Ngati mukukana, ganizirani. Zoopsa, ndithudi, ndizifukwa zabwino. Koma kodi mukufunikira izi?
Ndipo tsopano za chikondi, chifukwa muyenera kukonzekera ndi kuchita zonse bwino ndi chikondi ... Ndipo kachiwiri timakumbukira kanema. N'chifukwa chiyani mafilimu opusa amakomera kwambiri? Inde, ndizoti chirichonse chili chokongola, monga pachithunzichi, ndipo sichimodzimodzi ndi moyo. Koma chirichonse chiri mmanja mwathu. Mukhoza komanso muyenera kuyanjana ndi kugonana ndikupanga malo abwino. Kugonana pansi pa bulangete ndi chikondi chochepa. Inu simukuwonezana, ndipo kwenikweni si amuna okha omwe ali ndi maso. Inde, mungathe kukangana, kuzizira panyumba komanso osakondana. Ndipo ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito malo ozimitsira moto, mumakhala ndi moto wotentha. Onse okondana ndi ofunda.
Ambiri amachita kugonana kwathunthu maliseche, ndipo akazi amachotsa ngakhale kukongoletsa. Yesani kusunthira kukhala choyambirira, ndipo musati muyambe mumaliseche mukakagona. Koma chofunika kwambiri, chokani zodzikongoletsera thupi lanu, izi zimakondweretsa amuna.
Ndipo musaiwale kuti mu nyumba yamakono, bedi si malo okha ogonana. Zoona, ngati bedi liri kugonana ndi kugona ndilofanana ndi nthawi, ndiye malo omwe mukuyenera kukhala. Kulenga, ndipo kugonana sikudzakumbukika.
Imodzi mwa nthawi zofunika kwambiri pa kugonana. Musaiwale za madandaulo, kuyamirirana. Kambiranani za momwe mumamvera. Timakonda maso athu okha, koma makutu athu, makamaka akazi. Liwu ndilo gawo lofunikira la kugonana kwathu.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti muunikire mtundu wotani. Kugonana kumadzulo, ndi kuwala kwa usiku, kapena bwino ndi makandulo kapena kuwala kwa mwezi, zonsezi, ndithudi, zokongola ndi zachikondi. Sungani. Kuunikira kudzasintha maonekedwe a thupi lanu, madzulo adzapatsani inu mwayi womasula ndi kudzidalira nokha, komanso kuchotsa zovuta za thupi lanu.
Kuphatikizana - kusankha tsiku lapamtima ndi mnzanu watsopano, ndiye ganizirani bwino. Pangani chisankho mosamala. Zindikirani, chifukwa tsopano mukudziwa kuti kugonana koyamba kungapangidwe kukongola ndi chikondi ndikukumbukira za izo ndi moyo wanu.