Nanga bwanji ngati mnzako wapamtima akung'ung'udza komanso akudandaula? Kuthandizira kapena, m'malo mwake, yesetsani kuphunzitsanso? Ndithudi pali chikondi, chikondi komanso udindo, koma nthawi zonse zimapanda chilichonse ndi vuto lake loipa. Chochita ndi cholakwika? Kodi n'zotheka kusintha munthu woteroyo?
Kodi chiwonetsero cha kudandaula ndi chiyani?
Anthu osakondwa ndi anthu omwe angathe kuthana ndi chiwonongeko nthawi yomweyo. Dziko lawo limangokhala lopanda malire, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, iwo amati amadziwa chifukwa chake sadzalandira zomwe akufuna. Iwo amangokhalira kudandaula za moyo, ndipo maganizo awo oipa amapita kwa okondedwa. Otsutsa, pa msinkhu wosadziwika, sankhani moyo uno musanafike poyerekeza izi kapena kuti kulephera pasadakhale ndikukhala pansi ndikuchita kanthu. Nchifukwa chiyani mukuyenera kudetsa manja anu kapena kuganiza ndi mutu wanu ngati simukuupeza?
Mantha onse amaopa kugawana ndi ena chimwemwe chake ndi chimwemwe, akuganiza kuti kuchokera pa izi chimwemwe chake chidzakhala chochepa ndipo kamphindi kamakula - sipadzakhalanso chilichonse. Iye akuwoneka kuti akudzipangitsa yekha. Anthu osakhulupirira amakhulupirira zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, "ngati mumaseka kwambiri madzulo, mawa mukhala mukulira," "ngati mutagawana zolinga zanu ndi zolinga zanu, zonse zidzasokonekera ndipo palibe chomwe chidzachitike mwamsanga." Ndi chifukwa chake amagawana ndi anthu oyandikana nawo osasangalala, chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe, koma ndi "zilonda", akulira ndi kulephera.
Kawirikawiri anthu ovutika maganizo amalankhula ndi anthu abwino kuti atenge mphamvu kuchokera kwa iwo. Komabe, munthu wabwino ndi munthu wabwino. Zomwe simungatenge kuchokera kwa iye, sangakhale zochepa zhizneredostnym komanso zosautsa, koma osowa mtendere sangawonjezere chimwemwe, chifukwa moyo uli wodzaza ndi zosayenera ndipo palibe chomwe chingasinthe. Wokhumudwa yemwe ali ndi mkazi kapena mkazi wokondedwa, zolinga zonse, zolinga ndi malingaliro a theka lachiwiri zidzangoyamba, kuswa ndi kupaka utoto wakuda!
Pali, ndithudi, kuphatikiza kwa anthu otero, iwo ali m'moyo wa banja mokhulupirika kwambiri, mokhazikika komanso nthawi zonse okonzekera mavuto. Komabe, kuti mukhale ndi moyo wamwamuna wamantha, mumayenera kukhala ndi luso lapadera: kuti musatengeke ndi zizoloŵezi zoipa, koma mosiyana, kuti musamamve kwinakwake, panthawi ina, kuthandizira, kulimbikitsa, komanso mwinamwake kulekanitsa kwinakwake. Ngati simungathe kuchita izi kapena kungoganiza kuti simungathe kukhala moyo umenewu, musayese bwino, mwinamwake kudandaula kudzakuchititsani.
Kodi pali milomo yamphongo yamwamuna?
Kuda nkhawa ndi vampire ya mphamvu. Komabe, zinthu zabwino zimapezekanso. Iwo okhawo amatha kugawira chisoni cha wina, ndiko kuti, akhoza kukhala movutikira mofanana. Iwo amavomereza mosavuta zolephera za theka lachiwiri, chifukwa amadziwa kuti zonse sizingwiro kapena mwina amaganiza kuti moyo wawo ndi chisoni chokhalitsa, ndipo ndiwo abwino kwambiri osayenera. Osauka samakonda kusintha ndikusiya mabanja awo. Iwo ndi owona, oganizira, ogwira ntchito mwakhama, kudziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mfundo, ndikuganiza moyenera. Iwo samayesa kuthawa mavuto, poganiza kuti ziyenera kukhala choncho, samayamba kuyang'ana njira yotulukira, komwe angakhale bwino komanso "okoma". Otsutsa ndi olemba bwino komanso a lawyers. Nthawi zambiri amadzipangira okha miyambo yapadera ndi kuwagwira. Izi ndi zothandiza komanso zofunika kwa iwo.
Komabe, kuti adziwe momwe angakhalire naye, munthu ayenera kudziwa mtundu wake.
Kodi anthu odwala matendawa ndi otani?
Wokwiya
Iwo amakhumudwa ndi kuseka, kumwetulira kapena ngakhale malingaliro a chikondi. Iwo ali otsimikiza kuti izi zonse siziri zenizeni, masewera chabe. Maloto onse ndi ziyembekezo kwa iwo - ndilo loto basi, "palibe chomwecho," iwo adzanena. Mtundu uliwonse wachangu amuna oterewa akhoza kumasulira mawu awo ndi chidebe cha madzi machesi. Inde, iwo ali odzaza mphamvu, koma ndi mphamvu izi amawononga zosangalatsa, chiyembekezo, zolinga, maloto, chimwemwe. Mwina ngakhalenso kusonyeza kunyoza ndi kukwiya. Anthu oterewa, monga lamulo, amatha kukhala ndi vuto lalikulu m'moyo.
Osasamala
Amuna amenewa ali opsinjika mtima, odandaula ndi okhumudwa muzonse komanso nkomwe. Iwo samaika maganizo awo ndi malingaliro awo pa dziko, anthu ndi mikhalidwe, koma ngati mukufuna kugawana malingaliro anu ndi maloto ndi munthu wotere, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi maganizo olakwika, osakayika mofulumira ndikukuuzani chifukwa chake palibe chomwe chingatheke. Iwo amangokhalira kung'ung'udza ndi kung'ung'udza! Iwo samapanga zosankha okha, chifukwa iwo sakudziwa momwe, iwo amadikira mpaka wina atatero kwa iwo. Osauka amaganiza kuti ali ndi mphamvu zochepa, kotero amayesa kudya kuchokera kwa anthu ena. Kawirikawiri izi zimachokera kulamulo lofooka la maganizo.
Malamulo
Zimakhulupirira kuti zonse zomwe zimakhala zosayembekezereka komanso zosaganizira kwenikweni zimadalira momwe ziwalo zimagwirira ntchito. Kusowa mtima ndi thupi lofooka lamanjenje, pomwe njira zowonongeka ndi serotonin yochepa zimayambira. Anthu awa aberedwa kale ndipo sangathe kuthandizidwa ndi izi. Iwo amaganiza kuti moyo sungamvetsetse, ndipo ngati uwononga chinachake, nthawi yomweyo udzalowa m'mavuto, osati imodzi yokha. Ichi ndi cholowa.
Chilengedwe
Kuti apange fano linalake, amafunika kuvutika. Muza amawachezera pokhapokha atakhala ndi zolephera zakukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa m'maganizo. Amadziika okha kukhala ndi zolinga zosatheka. Zimene amachita: nyimbo, zithunzi, nyimbo zimapangitsa anthu kuyendera dziko lawo lodzaza ndi maganizo. Inde, ntchito yawo ndi yodabwitsa, koma, mwatsoka, sasamala. Mwinamwake akusowa matsenga, chifukwa cha zomwe adzabwezeretsedwe ndikuyamba kulenga phokoso labwino.
Otaika
Oimira anthu oterewa amakhulupirira kuti dzikoli ndi lopanda chilungamo kwambiri. Maganizo awo aumwini amalepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo. Panthawi ina iwo adzizira okha kuti ali otayika, ndipo tsopano kuikidwa uku kukuwononga miyoyo yawo pang'onopang'ono. Monga lamulo, amuna oterewa amalola kuti anthu amvetse kuti akuyenera kuchitiridwa zoipa. Komabe, zomwe zimaganizira za iwo okha, zimakhala zoona nthawi zonse. Kuti azikhala mwachizolowezi, oimira mtundu umenewu ayenera kusintha zikhulupiriro zawo.
Zokhudzana ndi zaka
Kwa zaka zambiri, ntchito ya mantha imachepetsanso, amuna ochuluka amakhala osowa. Iwo sadziwa kanthu kena katsopano, kotero nthawi yomweyo amathetsa kuthekera konse kwa kusintha kwa moyo ndi kufunafuna mosavuta pa zomwe ziri. Kawirikawiri nthumwi za mtundu umenewu zimayamba kugwira ntchito poyikira zaka 40-45 ndipo izi zimachitika ngati munthu sawona zofunikira pamoyo wake, sankatha kudziyika yekha zolinga, sanapeze mwayi watsopano. Mungathe kuthandiza munthu woteroyo ngati mwaulemu, mwamunthu mumamuthandiza kupeza zatsopano komanso mwayi.
Koma amayi atatha zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu (45), monga lamulo, amalembedwa. Iwo amayamba kudzikhalira okha, amakhala otseguka komanso osadziŵa. Mwinamwake mwamva mawu awa: 45 - mkazi kachiwiri!
Kukhala ndi munthu-wamantha? Momwe mungalankhulire naye?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti ndizosatheka kusintha anthu oterewa. Komabe, ngati mumamukonda ndi mtima wanu wonse, ndipo mukufuna kukongoletsa moyo wake - mtsogolo.
- Phunzitsani osayamika za zomwe muyenera kukhala lero, osaganiza kuti mawa kapena mwezi ukhoza kukhala zoipa. Yesetsani kuphunzitsa mwa iye chisangalalo cha zing'onozing'ono za moyo - kukongola kwa chirengedwe, chisangalalo cha kulankhulana ndi kuthandizira.
- Kawirikawiri amuna otere amaonera mafilimu oopsa komanso amawerenga mabuku omwewo. Lembani kuti muwone zokondweretsa, muyike m'mabuku otchuka kwambiri, omwe ali odzaza kwambiri.
- Muphunzitseni kuti wopusa amafuna zomwe angathe, ndipo munthu woyembekezera akhoza kuchita zomwe akufuna. Ngati iye mwini amalola zozizwitsa kuti zichitike, ndiye zidzachitika. N'zotheka, chofunikira koposa kufuna.
- Nthawi zonse amaseka. Ngati akuyamba kukuuzani kuti chirichonse chikulakwitsa, ndipo pomwepo simunachiyimitse ndipo simunaphike pano, mutanthauzira kuti nthabwala.
- Pezani zinthu zoipa zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo: kusamba m'nyanja, mkate wopangidwa ndi zokometsera, nyimbo zamakono, atakhala pabedi ndi sesemchkami. Tsopano uwu ndi moyo wanu, chitani zonse pamodzi ndi iye komanso nthawi zonse. Tsindikani kuti mumalemekeza mfundo zake komanso nthawi yomweyo mumatsegula zatsopano.