Kuyambira paubwenzi ndi mnyamata, asungwana ambiri amaganizira za utali wautali. Ndipotu, m'zaka zaunyamata, atsikana, pamene ali pachibwenzi, sawoneka bwino m'tsogolomu. Koma wamkulu mkazi amakhala, pamene akufunanso kukhala ndi chiyanjano ndi mnyamata adasandulika muukwati ndi kukhala ndi moyo wautali pamodzi. Komabe, kuti mupitirize kukhala ndi ubale wolimba, muyenera kuyamba kukhala ndi khalidwe kotero kuti mwamuna angakonde kukhala ndi inu oposa sabata imodzi kapena mwezi.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi ubale wolimba womwe umabweretsa chimwemwe kwa inu nonse? Funso limeneli silovuta kupeza yankho. Ndikofunikira kuti nthawi zonse muzifufuza mozama, musadzilole nokha kwambiri ndikutha kusokoneza. Koma mwatsoka, siyense amene amamvetsa zomwe ndendende zikutanthauza. Kotero tiyeni tiyankhule mwatsatanetsatane za momwe tingakhalire ubale wamphamvu.
Musadandaule
Kuyambira ubale ndi munthu, amayi ambiri amayesa kudziwonetsera okha kuchokera kumbali yabwino. Amakonda kuchita zinthu zomwe samatsogolera pamoyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, kusewera ndi achinyamata, kudziyesa kuti amagawana zokonda zawo ndi zofuna zawo. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wamphamvu, njira iyi simungathe kuchita. Zowonjezereka, mungathe, koma kokha ngati mutsimikiza kuti mukhoza kuchita mwanjira imeneyi nthawi zonse. Komabe, monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, mwinamwake palibe munthu amene angakhoze kusewera nthawi zonse ndipo sadzilola yekha kukhala yekha. Ndicho chifukwa, kuyamba chiyanjano, ndizowonjezera kuti mudziwonetse nokha weniweni. Zoonadi, izi sizikutanthauza kuti chibwenzi ndi kugonana kwa mtsikana. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, simukuyenera kudziwonetsa nokha ngati dona wosamvetsetseka, ngati mwa inu nokha ndinu "mtsikana wa mnzako" wopanda pake.
Dziwani mmene mungalankhulire zosakhutira
Cholakwika china cha anthu chimayamba kukumana, chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano yowopsya ndi magawano - zosatheka kufotokoza zolakwitsana wina ndi mnzake. Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, ambiri akuwona kuti theka lina silolondola, akuwopsya kumukhumudwitsa ndikubweretsa mkangano. Chotsatira chake, munthu amadziwika kuti amachititsa zinthu zonse bwino komanso pamene wokonda sakhala ndi mitsempha ndi nthawi ndipo amadziwonetsera yekha, mkwiyo ndi kusamvetsetsa zimayamba, zotsutsa kuti chikondi chadutsa. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwinobwino, simuyenera kuopa kunena zoona. Funso liri mu mawonekedwe omwe choonadi ichi chaperekedwa. Sitiyenera kumangokhalira kutsutsa, ndipo mochulukirapo, kumanyoza wokondedwa. Koma ndi bwino kuzindikira kuti simukukonda izi kapena kuti, mutatsimikizira mawu anu momveka bwino ndi momveka bwino - ndizotheka ndi kofunika. Choncho, anthu amaphunzira kumvetsera maganizo a wina ndi mnzake ndikusintha chinachake mwa iwo okha kuti azigwirizana.
Nenani nsanje "ayi"
Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi ubale wathanzi, simuyenera kulola nsanje yambiri ndi chilakolako cholamulira. Kumbukirani kuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosasunthika komanso malo ake. Ngati mukufuna munthu kukhala ndi chibwenzi cholimba, izi zikutanthauza kukhulupilira. Ngati palibe chifukwa chodalira, munthu sayenera kudalira ubale wa nthawi yaitali. Choncho yesetsani kudziletsa nokha osati kuyesa wokondedwa wanu. Kumbukirani kuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu wolemba makalata, nthawi yake ndi maitanidwe. Choncho, musayang'ane nthawi zonse ndi okondedwa anu, yesani kuŵerenga SMS yake kapena kuphunzira mndandanda wa mayitanidwe omwe akubwera komanso otuluka. Choyamba, popanda kudziwa chithunzi chonse, zambiri zingamveke zolakwika. Kuonjezera apo, pamene munthu amamukonda kwenikweni, samavomereza kugonja. Komabe, kupanikizidwa nthawi zonse ndi kusamakhulupirira kungamupangitse kuti achitepo kanthu, osangokhala wolakwa nthawi zonse pamaganizo osakwanira.
Chabwino, chomaliza ndi kulowerera. Mukhoza kuvomereza. Ngakhale kuti ndinu mkazi, sizikutanthauza kuti inu nokha muli wolondola nthawi zonse. Yesetsani kufufuza bwinobwino zomwe zikuchitika ndikuvomereza zolakwa zanu. Mulole munthu wanu adziwe kuti mungathe kupeza njira yothetsera vuto limodzi.