Pafupifupi amayi onse amafuna kukhala amayi. Kawirikawiri amene amasankha ntchito ya banja. Kusinkhasinkha ndi mwana wamng'ono, kumusamalira, kuphunzitsa ndi kuphunzitsa - zonsezi posachedwa zimakonda akazi ambiri. Koma chokha cholerera mwana ndi chovuta, ndipo akatswiri a maganizo amagwirizana wina ndi mzake ponena kuti abambo ndi ofunikira kwambiri kuti mwana aphunzitsidwe bwino. Koma funso ndilo: Kodi ana amafunikira maganizo a amuna? Kodi anthu amaganiza chiyani izi?
Ana ndi anthu aang'ono. Ndife, akuluakulu, kokha m'mbuyomo. Ana athu ndi kupitiriza kwathu pa dziko lapansi. Kodi aliyense amafunikira kupitiriza uku? Kwa ena, ana ndi "maluŵa a moyo," ndipo kwa ena, "zolengedwa zosayamika." Mulimonsemo, ana, kuyambira pakuwona kwa amuna, amafunanso funso lomwe silikufuna yankho losadziwika.
Ndipo panthawiyi, chiwerengero cha anthu omwe amadzipangitsa kudzidalira okha chisangalalo cha amayi ndi abambo akukula padziko lonse lapansi - awa ndiwo otchedwa ana opanda ana (opanda ana). Ku Russia, nawonso, pali chizolowezi choterocho. Kawirikawiri, kusankha kumeneku kumapangidwa ndi anthu ophunzira omwe ali ndi ndalama zowonjezera, zomwe zingawonekere, ndizofunika kuyambira ndi kuphunzitsa olowa m'malo awo. Amuna ndi amai omwe amasankha ngati akufuna ana, malinga ndi lamulo mpaka pano palibe chiopsezo. Koma, mwachitsanzo, ku Belarus amalingalira kale lamulo lomwe lingalimbikitse anthu opanda ana kubweza misonkho "pa kusowa ana".
Nchifukwa chiyani ali ndi thanzi labwino, mwamakhalidwe ndi mwamakhalidwe abwino, omwe sali kufuna ana? Kodi anthu awa alibe makolo achibadwa? Kodi simungafune bwanji kukhala ndi ana? Kwa ambiri zingakhale zomveka. Koma, ngati mumaganizira za izi, munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala momwe akufunira, osamvera malamulo omwe amavomereza.
Malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, khalidwe ili likhoza kufotokozedwa ndi kukhumudwa maganizo mu ubwana. Anthu awa sanamve okondedwa ndi okondedwa kuyambira ali mwana kapena, ngakhale choipa kwambiri, iwo ankamva mwano nthawi zonse kuchokera kwa makolo awo kuti chifukwa cha iwo makolo awo analibe moyo waumwini, ntchito, china.
Gawo lina ndi anthu amene akufuna kusunga miyoyo yawo. ndi anthu awa omwe amadabwa ngati akusowa ana, chifukwa kuyambira amuna ndi akazi omwe amachitika m'njira zambiri, ana amawopseza. N'zachidziŵikire kuti safuna kutenga udindo wina. Zimakhala zosavuta kumadzikonda nokha kusiyana ndi kusamalira ana anu nthawi zonse. Ndipo palibe yemwe ali ndi ufulu woweruza munthu mwa kusankha kwake.
Komabe, kuyang'ana ana ndi makolo awo, mosaganizira mozama, chifukwa chiyani anthuwa amafunikira ana ambiri, ngati sawakonda? Ndichifukwa chiyani ndinaganiza kuti sakonda ana awo? Chifukwa ndikuganiza ngati mumakonda mwana, simudzakweza mawu anu pamsewu, mutengapo, simudzanyoza mwana ndi alendo. Ndipo momwe mungamuchitire mwana uyu kunyumba, mungathe kungoganiza.
Chiwawa m'banja chimakhala chizoloŵezi, mwatsoka. Ana amawalangidwa chifukwa cha zolakwa zochepa chabe, chifukwa cholephera maphunziro, kusamvera, chirichonse ... Ndipo pamene ana akukula, zimakhala kuti sizikugwirizana ndi ziyembekezo za makolo awo, njira ndi mphamvu zomwe zimayendetsedwa mwa iwo, ndi zina zotero. Ndibwino kuti musakhale ndi ana, kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi ana, ndikuwatsutsa moyo wawo wonse chifukwa cha zomwe iwo ali ...
Kodi ife ndi izi kapena kuti moyo uli wankhanza kwambiri? Palibe amene amatsutsa, kulera ana ndi ntchito yovuta, yaumakhalidwe abwino komanso yapamwamba. Chabwino, ngati inu, akulu, muli ndi mwana, bwanji mukulolera kunyozedwa? Mnyamatayo amayamba kuganizira zochitika izi, samadziwa zomwe zimachitika mosiyana, amakonda makolo ake, ziribe kanthu momwe amamuchitira. Ndipo, koposa zonse, amatsatira chitsanzo chawo cha khalidwe - amawachitira ana awo mwanjira yomweyo.
Zili ndi mphamvu zathu komanso zofuna zathu kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi ana kuyambira ali mwana. Mwana ndi membala wofanana wa banja ndipo ayenera kuchitidwa moyenera. Sungaganizidwe kuti ndiwe wamkulu chifukwa ndi mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Mwatsoka, kusowa chikondi ndi kumvetsa m'banja kumakhala kofala ...
Kodi anthu ataya chikondi? Ndipo kumatanthauza chiyani kukonda? Kukonda ndiko kuchitira ulemu ndi munthu, kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza ndi zofooka zake zonse.
- Chibadwa cha amayi ndi chimodzi mwa zamphamvu kwambiri. Mayiyo ali wokonzeka kupereka moyo wake chifukwa cha mwana wake, osasiya nthawi, kukanika, kutanthauza.
- Nzeru za atate zimakhala zochepa kwambiri, koma kwa amuna ambiri oposa 40-45 ali ndi zaka zakubadwa "amadzuka," ndipo amakumana ndi zosangalatsa, mpaka pano, osamvetsetsa kwa zidzukulu zawo kapena ana awo ang'onoang'ono.
Nchifukwa chiani chimapangidwa mwa amayi ndi abambo ena, ndipo ena alibe chidziwitso chomwe chiri? Ngati simukukonda ana anu, ndiye kuti anawo adzakuchitirani bwino pamene akukula. Ndikofunika kuti muthe kukambirana ndi ana anu kuti mukwanitse kumvetsetsa. Anthu achikulire omwe ali ndi zochitika zina pamoyo akhoza kukula amzanga kuchokera kwa ana awo. Ndi ndani yemwe tikuyenera kumuwerengera, bwanji osati ana athu? Ndani angatithandize ngati mukufuna? Ndipo kodi anawo angakuthandizeni ngati mulibe chibwenzi?
Kodi ana kuchokera kumbali ya anthu - funso lovuta. Koma iye ali pafupi mofanana ndi kwa mkazi yemwe amagwira ntchito mwakhama, wopambana, amapeza ntchito yake ndipo amapanga ntchito. Komabe, aliyense, ngakhale munthu wopambana kwambiri - si wofunika kwambiri, mwamuna kapena mkazi, nthawizina ndi zokwanira kukumbukira ana ngati ntchito imodzi yapadziko lonse ... Ndipo musasokonezedwe ndi mtundu wina wa "makina" kapena chinachake chonga ichi. Pambuyo pa zonse, Mzimu udzatsata kulikonse kumene kukonzekeretsa, makamaka pankhani ya munthu woganiza ndi woganiza bwino.
Zikupezeka kuti nthawi zambiri kuchokera kwa ana aamuna amafunika, koma amakumbukira za izi pokhapokha ukalamba wosakanizika, ndipo m'mawa chinachake chimadula pambali, ndipo madzulo masaya mtima ... Thandizani munthu wanu kuti azindikire kuti palibe chimwemwe chokhalira amayi, komanso abambo, ndipo adzasankha ngati akufuna ana.