Kotero, kodi mwamuna amafuna chiyani kuchokera kwa mkazi, ndi mawu otani omwe angamveketse khutu lake, kusangalala ndi kulimbikitsa kuzindikira ndi kufunika kwake? Kodi ife, amai, tizitani kwa anyamata athu okondedwa kuti tiwawonetsere chisamaliro chawo, kusonyeza chikondi?
Mawu onsewa, omwe ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa munthu aliyense, amadalira, mbali zambiri, pa zomwe akusowa pamoyo. Kuchokera ku malingaliro amenewo, zolinga, malingaliro ndi zopindulitsa, zomwe iye amavomereza ndi kusangalala nazo. Pano, paliponse, mwachindunji. Pazochitika zonse, munthu angafune kumva chinachake chapadera, koma palinso mfundo zazikulu pamoyo wawo, zomwe zimakulolani kupeza yankho lenileni la funso: "Kodi mwamuna akufuna chiyani kwa mkazi?".
Mwinamwake, chimodzi mwa ubwino waukulu wa munthu ndicho mphamvu ndi kudalirika kwake. Sindikutsutsana - sikuti anthu onse ali choncho, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti wosankhidwa wanu ali ndi makhalidwe abwino awa. Ndiye bwanji osamuuza iye za izo? Bwanji osanena kuti iwe uli kumbuyo kwake - ngati khoma lamwala? Kodi ndizowathandiza, chikhulupiriro chanu chiri ndi tsogolo losangalatsa? Nthawi zina timachita mantha kulankhula mau awa mokweza. Ndipo sizikuwonekera: chifukwa chiyani? Mwina wina wa ife akuwopa "jinxing", ndipo wina akuganiza kuti ndi mawu otere amatha kumasuka ndikusiya kukhala odalirika ndi amphamvu kwambiri? Ine sindikudziwa, ine sindingakhoze kunena. Ndikudziwa molondola ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha: palibe munthu amene amakana kumva kuti akutumikira molimba mtima kwa theka lake lokonda kwambiri. Kotero tiyeni tisamamulepheretsere chisangalalo ichi, makamaka ngati iye ali woyenereradi dzina la "Munthu"!
Kodi mwamuna aliyense akufuna kumva kuchokera kwa chibwenzi chake? Inde, kutamandidwa, kuwunika ndi koyenera (koyenera) kuunika kwa luso lake ndi maluso ake. Simukuganiza kuti ndi ife omwe timafunikira kutamandidwa panthawi yake, ndipo ndi ife okha omwe timalimbikitsidwa kuti tiwongole ndi kusintha? Amuna ali ofanana ndife, chifukwa cha mbali zambiri. Nchifukwa chiyani sakufuna kumva kuchokera kwa inu: "Wow, Vovochka, ndi munthu wabwino bwanji amene uli ndi ine! Choncho mwamsanga ndinayika chipinda cham'mwamba kukhitchini - tsopano sichiyenda. ", Kapena" Yurochka, ndiwe wabwino kwambiri komanso wondimvetsa bwino: Utsogoleri wanu ukutamandidwa, ndipo zonsezi sizothandiza, ndikudziwa nthawi zonse kuti ntchito yabwino ikukuyembekezerani! " . Kulankhula kotsekemera kotere kungathenso kukondompsona ndi kukupsompsonana komwe kumatsimikizira munthu wanu kuti chilichonse chimene akuchita chiri cholondola. Ndipo kuti ndi munthu weniweni amene amadziwa zomwe ayenera kuchita.
Inde, ndi kutamanda kuyenera kukhala, monga akunena, kuchepa. Osachepera chabe chifukwa kunyada ndi nyenyezi yowala pamphumi "sikunakwaniritsidwebe. Iwo ali ophatikizidwa kwambiri mwamsanga pamene akazi amangodzinyoza amuna awo ndi maolivi olemekezeka. Ndipo choipa kwambiri ndi chakuti "anyamata" oterewa amayamba kumva kuti sangasangalale kwambiri ndi kutsutsidwa kulikonse. Ndipo ngati, Mulungu sakuletsa, simudzakonda zomwe adachita: samalani ndi mkuntho! Mwamuna yemwe samamvetsetsa ndi kuyamikiridwa ndi wovuta kwambiri kuposa mkazi wofanana.
Choncho, tiyeni tione chomwecho. Pano iye anachita chinachake chodziwika bwino komanso chosayembekezereka, koma chothandiza kwambiri - anamutamanda, musamangogwiritsa ntchito mawu okoma. Apa akugwira ntchito yowonjezera bwino, amanena kuti ali ndi ubongo weniweni, koma ndiwothamanga kwambiri kuti asangalale, chifukwa ndipamwamba kwambiri pamsinkhu wa ntchito (chabwino, mwinamwake osati patali, koma ndi njira, monga akunena, thotho ndi ). Kapena apa ine ndatsuka nyumba ndekha, yomwe sinali yodziwika kale - ndiyenso munthu wabwino! Muyenera kuganizira nthawi zonse kuti mwazindikira kuti mumayamikira izi. Chabwino, motero, pansi pa phokoso, mumatha kudandaula mwakachetechete, iwo amati, "Ndingatani, wokondedwa, ndatopa ndi kuyeretsa izi: kumbuyo komwe kukuvulaza, ndipo mwendo uli pomwe pano ... ndipo mukusangalala kwambiri!". Nazi chithunzi: mwinamwake chichotsedwa kuchoka pano? Ndipo apa pali chifukwa china choyamikirira: inu munabwera kuchokera kuntchito mukutopa, ndipo inu-chakudya chamadzulo, botolo la vinyo amene mumawakonda ndipo iye, wosauka ndi wofatsa. Amakulepheretsani kukupatsani, kukudyetsani, kukupangitsani minofu yokongola, amaiika m'manja mwanu m'chipinda chogona, ndikuwonetsanso momwe chikondi chake chilili, ndikupita kukasamba mbale ndikuchotsa chikondi. Chabwino, lolani izo zichitike nthawi zambiri - koma ngati izo zichitika, bwanji osamuyang'ana mmawa osati kunong'oneza chikondi: "Zikomo kwambiri madzulo, chikondi changa, ndinu wokongola!". Ndikhulupirire, mawu otero ndi maso anu okondwa ndiwopindulitsa kwambiri kubwereza chikondichi posachedwa! Ndiyeno, nthawi zambiri amai, usiku wonse ndi chilakolako chotere, ataledzera ndi chikondi, m'mawa amakhalanso aang'ono. Ndipo "kuyang'ana" kumayamba: iwo amati, ndipo vinyo anali wowawasa, ndipo mbale zinkasambitsidwa bwino, ndipo pabedi sizinali zabwino ngakhale. Ndiyeno tikudandaula: Amati, kodi chikondi chathu chimachokera kuti, zinthu zonse zapita kuti?
Chabwino, otsiriza mndandanda wathu, koma, mwinamwake, choyamba chofunika ndi nkhani yokhudza chikondi. Inde, poyang'ana, banal ndi sweet sugary: "Ndimakukondani" ndipo "Ndikukufunani", nayenso, palibe amene waletsa. Inu nokha, popanda mawu awa, mumamva bwanji? Saganiziridwanso m'maganizo, amati, ngati sakulankhula, ndiye kuti amayamba chifukwa cha chikondi ndipo sakufuna kundidziwanso, kuti ndiwope basi? Zomwezo ndizofanana kwa amuna: Aloleni iwo apange njerwa za nkhope ndipo akunena kuti ndi "bedi slobber" sali yosangalatsa komanso osakayika, komabe m'mtima mwathu (ndipo mwinamwake osati mozama momwe iwo akufuna kuwonetsera) iwo kotero iwo akufuna kuti amve kuchokera kwa ife momwe ife timawakondera ndi kuwayamikira iwo! Ndipo kuti awapatse iwo kumverera uku mobwerezabwereza ndi zochita zolimbikitsidwa ndi mawu aulemu ndi ntchito yathu yopatulika (komabe, iwo ali nawo ntchito yawo, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri amaiwala za izo).
Mayi ayenera kukhala wanzeru ndi wolimba, ayenera kumuthandiza mosavuta, kumutsogolera, kumutsogolera njira yoyenera. Ayi, sindikuyankhula za kumvera kosamveka - akapolo sakudziwa tsopano, koma nthawizina anthu ali okonzeka kuchita zinthu zonyansa, zomwe timafunikira kuwatsutsa! Ndipo apa padzakhala kofunikira kuti mupeze mawu abwino ndi olondola omwe sangamulepheretse, komanso kumukakamiza kuti asonyeze momwe mukufunira onse awiri.
Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa: chimene mwamuna akufuna kuchokera kwa mkazi, ndi mawu otani omwe angamukakamize mu chinachake, kuima, molunjika. Ndipo mwanjira yomweyi mwamuna wanu amadziwa momwe mungatengere. Ndipo sizoipa, sizowonongeka - ndi moyo wokhudzana, zomwe zimathandiza kuti dziko likhalemo.