Zotsatira za Moyo
Pamene mukulemedwa ndi zodandaula za tsiku ndi tsiku, pamene mutu umaphatikizidwa ndi momwe mungapangire chakudya cham'mawa, chamasana ndi chakudya chamadzulo, kutsuka, kuyeretsa mnyumba, kuthamanga ku sitolo, kunyamula mwanayo ku sukulu ya sukulu kapena sukulu, ndipo ngakhale kukumana ndi mamembala anu okondedwa ndi kumwetulira, Zimakhala zovuta kulingalira mayi ndi mkazi wokondwa komanso wokondwa. Kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi cha moyo, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku umakhudza kwambiri ubale pakati pa mamembala, kupanga mikangano ndi mikangano. Kumbali ina, kukondana nthawi zonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, komanso pakati pa amayi ndi ana, kuchotserani nkhawa zina zapakati pazimayi. Kukhala mkazi wabwino ndi amayi - choyamba, khalani nokha, koma musaiwale kuti ndinu mkazi wofooka - wachifundo, wofatsa, wachikondi. Moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, mosayika, sungakhale wowononga chimwemwe ndi mtendere wa chinyumba chokhazikika.
Elena, wa zaka 26 (mayi wamng'ono wa mwana wazaka chimodzi):
- Ndinasanduka makina "kusamba-kusamba," Ndatopa kwambiri, ndimayenda monga zombie, chifukwa chosowa tulo. Tsiku lonse langa ndikudzipereka kuti ndikuyesa ntchito zonse zapakhomo pamene mwana akupuma, ndipo akadzuka, ndimakhala naye nthawi.
Mkhalidwe wa Elena ndi wa amayi ambiri aang'ono. Moyo ndi nkhawa za tsiku ndi tsiku siziyenera kukukhumudwitsani, chifukwa kubadwa kwa moyo watsopano kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri. Kukhala mayi wabwino ndikusangalala ndi ana anu ndikuthokoza kuti ali ndi inu. Pakatha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kuchokera pamene mwanayo wabadwa, mudzazindikira kuti zimakhala zophweka, chaka chimodzi mutha kulowa m'moyo watsopano, ndipo pambuyo pa zaka ziwiri, mungafunenso kubwereza m'banja. Ngati kuli kovuta, funsani mwamuna wanu kuti athandize kuthetsa mavuto apakhomo. Ndi njira yabwino, ndikukayikira kuti adzakana iwe.
Golidi amatanthawuza
Golidi amatanthawuza, zoyenera za maubwenzi apabanja ndizo, poyamba, zogwirizana. Ubale wabwino siubwenzi popanda mikangano, iwo ndi maubwenzi omwe ali ndi kumvetsetsa, kulemekeza, ndipo, motero, chisankho chofanana.
Kuti tipewe kumasula mgwirizano chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana kwazing'ono tsiku ndi tsiku, ndikofunikira kuti ugawane udindo wa banja pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, komanso pakati pa ana. Kwa aliyense m'banja, payenera kukhala gawo lapadera la mavuto ndi mabanja. Koma kumanga kwa mtundu uwu wa chiyanjano kumadalira makamaka kuthekera kwa amayi kuti azikonzekera ndi kukhazikitsa "njira ya banja". Izi mwina si talente, koma chikhumbo chokhala mu chikondi ndi mgwirizano. Koma, chifukwa ichi, ndithudi, muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama. Kupsa moto, kukwiya ndi kukhumudwa ndi owononga mbewu za ubale osati njira ina.
Khalani ofooka ndi olimba
Choonadi chimanenedwa kuti mkazi ayenera kukhala wojambula mu moyo. Tangolingalirani, tiyeni tinene kuti mulibe maganizo, mwamuna amachokera kuntchito, ndipo mumamuyang'ana ndi maonekedwe oipa kapena ayi, musayambe. Kodi tingayembekezere chiyani poyankha? Amuna amakondanso chidwi, komanso ngati amuna onse, amuna anu amavomereza kuti amakonda. Kodi mukusowa mtima umenewu kwa inu, dzifunseni nokha. Kusangalala ndi kuyang'ana mokondwera, ngakhale, mwinamwake, kunyoza pang'ono, kungakulimbikitseni. Chifukwa chaichi nthawi zina timayendera komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Komabe, mwamuna ndi ana ayenera kudziwa za zofooka zanu, kumvetsetsa kuti mukutopa, kudwala, kapena kungodzipereka kwa ola kapena awiri. Pokhala ndi ubale wotere ndi achibale, simudzapweteka chifukwa cha zomwe mumapereka, koma simungapindule kanthu.
Alina, wa zaka 23:
- Ndimakumbukira momwe amayi athu "masiku ovuta" "adakhalira" pabedi, ndipo ife tinkamvetsa bwino ntchito zonse zapakhomo ndipo tinayenda, pafupi ndi tiptoe, kuti tisasokoneze mtendere ndi mtendere wa wokondedwa wanga.
Kodi ndikofunikira kukhala wangwiro?
Poganizira za momwe mungakhalire mayi wabwino, musayese kukhala wangwiro. Choyamba, khalanibe nokha. Mayi wabwino si amayi abwino, ndi amayi omwe amakonda ana awo komanso amasamalira moyo wawo. Mkazi wabwino ndi mkazi wachikondi ndi wokondedwa, mnzake wokhulupirika ndi wodalirika wa moyo. Kwa iye pali chinachake chokambirana, nthawizonse n'zotheka kupeza uphungu wanzeru kuchokera kwa iye. Bedi? Mkazi wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa sadzakhala ndi vuto mu ubale wapamtima. Munthu wokondedwa nthawi zonse ndi munthu wofunika, alibe zofooka - ndizobwino, ngakhale atatopa, osameta ndevu ndipo alibe nthawi yoti asambe.
Mayi wabwino ndi bwenzi lodalirika
Musayese kumanga maubwenzi ndi ana pogwiritsira ntchito "karoti ndi kumamatira" njira. Maphunziro mu mantha sangayambitse ubale weniweni. Mwana wanu ayenera kukhala wotsimikiza kuti ziribe kanthu, akhoza kukubwera nthawi zonse ndikuyankhula momveka bwino za zinthu zonse zapadziko lapansi, kuti musamunyoze ndi kumulanga, koma yesetsani kuthandizira pa zovuta. Osati abwenzi ayenera kukhala oyamba kudziwa zinsinsi ndi mavuto a mwana wanu, ndipo ndinu mayi wachifundo, wachikondi, womvetsetsa komanso wodalirika. Kuyambira kubadwa kwa ana anu, pangani mgwirizano wodalirika pakati pawo ndi inu, musanyengedwe, ndiye mutha kuyembekezera ndikufuniranso izi.
Choyenera chimapezeka - Ndiyenera kuyesetsa chiyani?
Ngakhale mutaganizira kuti ndinu mayi wabwino, sizikutanthauza kuti izi zidzakhala ngati izi. Ana amakula, timasintha, nthawi iliyonse timafunika kusintha zinthu zatsopano m'njira yatsopano. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale ndi mavuto a banja, nthawi yachinyamata, ana awo, akukwera. Ndipo iwe, ndithudi, udzakhala wokhoza kuthetsa zonsezi, popanda mavuto omwe ungakhale mayi wabwino wa ana ako ndi mkazi wabwino kwambiri, kutanthauza_kuti akhale wopambana mu masewera a moyo!