Koma kodi n'chiyani chimayambitsa vutoli? Ndipo nchifukwa ninji amayi ambiri akupitiriza kudabwa kuti: "Kodi mungakambirane bwanji ndi mwamuna wanu, pa nkhani ziti?"
Kukambirana ndikofunikira kwa munthu aliyense, zoyenera tsiku ndi tsiku. Ziribe kanthu ngati zili pamlomo, zolembedwa kapena zina; koma anthu opanda kuyankhulana amayamba kukhala ndi maganizo okhumudwa, osasangalala kapena kutaya maganizo awo. Mwachidziwikire, mkazi amene salankhulana ndi mwamuna wake amatha kudzimva kuti ndi wopanda pake kapena amasiyidwa.
Musaiwale kuti ubalewu ndi nthawi yambiri, tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso mofulumira, ntchito iliyonse ya miniti. Ndipo ngati awiriwa adalemba maubwenzi awo, atha kukhazikika mwa iwo, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ntchitoyo yatha. M'malo mwake, zinthu zochititsa chidwi kwambiri zikuyembekezera. Kuonetsetsa kuti patapita nthaŵi yaitali chikondi cha chikondi sichinachoke pachibwenzicho, ndikofunikira kukhala wodalirika, chidwi, chikhalidwe. Koma, nthawi zambiri mumamva kuti pakati pa anthu omwe akhala pamodzi kwa nthawi yayitali, palibe zatsopano, zokondwa, kulankhula momveka bwino. Pali kuthekera kuti izi ndi chifukwa chakuti akukumba ntchitoyo kuti athe kukhulupirirana kuti amaiwala za "zinthu zazing'ono" zomwe poyamba zinapangitsa kuti azigwirizana.
N'zotheka kuti, malinga ndi mwamuna wake, chikondi chaukwati chiyenera kuphedwa kuntchito kuti apindule ndi banja lake. Ndipo ichi si chigawenga. Komabe, pali chinachake choyenera kuganizira. Ngati zikuwoneka kuti izi ziri za iwe, ndiye apa pali malangizo abwino - muyenera kutsitsimutsa zomwe zikuchitika nthawi yayitali, komanso makamaka, mutakhala nthawi pamodzi ndikusangalala nazo. Ndizofunikira nthawi iliyonse yachisangalalo pakuyendetsa njinga pamapaki musanapite ku masewero a mpira. Chitani izo, inu nokha ndi mwamuna wanu. Kumbukirani lero za ntchito, mwana, agogo aamuna; za nkhani zonse za chizoloŵezi. Musamayembekezere kusintha kosavuta, kukhala kosasinthasintha. Pambuyo pake mukhoza kumudziwitsa mwamuna wanu za momwe mumamukondera komanso momwe mumasangalalira atatha masiku ngati amenewo. Sankhani mawu anu, koma musakhale odzichepetsa kwambiri, mumusangalatse.
Kulankhulana musanapange chikondi ndi njira ina yotsitsimutsa. Izi, ndithudi, ndi nkhani ya kulawa, koma ndizofunikira kuyesa. Mukhoza kukambirana zokhumba zanu ndi maganizo anu panthawiyi - izi zidzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa bwino komanso kukhutira. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala woonamtima komanso wotseguka kwambiri, mwinamwake mukhoza kuphunzira chinachake chatsopano kwa inu nokha kapena kuwuka pamlingo wina.
Yesetsani kungolankhula, komanso kumvetsera. Ndipo pambali pake, kumbukirani zomwe mwamva. Munthu aliyense amasangalala kudziwa kuti amamvetsera. Kotero inu simungakhoze kusonyeza kokha kuti mwamuna ndi wofunikira ndipo inu mumamufuna iye; Mumapeza kuti iye ali ndi chidwi ndi zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri mndandanda wa zosangalatsa zake. Tengani bwino pamanja ndikugonjetsa mwamuna wanu mobwerezabwereza, kumudabwa ndi kuchuluka kwa chidziwitso ndi kuzindikira kwanu pa zochitika zatsopano zomwe zikuchitika pazinthu zake. Mukamaphunzira kumvetsera, muphunziranso, mwina kuchokera m'mawu osweka, omwe akusowa mbali zina za moyo wanu wa banja, ndipo motero mungathe kulipiritsa zovutazo.
Ganiziraninso za moyo wanu. Onjezerani zosangalatsa ndi zosayembekezereka ku dziko la tsiku ndi tsiku. Pangani tsiku lanu ndi zojambula ndipo mutha kukhala ndi zomwe munganene. Kulenga, maganizo anu adzasintha, ndipo maso anu adzawala. Musayitane ku ofesi ya mwamuna wanu katatu patsiku kuti mumuuze nkhani zatsopano, ndibwino kuti muzisungire madzulo - ndiye adzakhala ndi nthawi yovuta ndikuyembekezera kukumana nanu. Kulankhula za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, mukhoza kulimbikitsidwa ndi malingaliro otsatirawa: yesetsani kukonzanso zinthu zapakhomo mwanu kuti musamangokhalira kukambirana (kapena kufotokozera mgwirizanowo) nthawi zosautsa za tsiku ndi tsiku. Choncho, munthu wochapa zovala kapena akaunti ku banki, yomwe mwezi uliwonse umagwiritsira ntchito ngongole, amachotsa kufunika kokhala ndi nthawi ndi khama kuti apeze yemwe ayenera kusamba mbale kapena kuchita nawo ngongole.
Musamufunse kuti "Kodi mukufuna kukambirana ndi mwamuna wanu?"; Kumbukirani kuti kugwirizanana ndi ubale weniweni, wapamtima, pamene onse awiri amaperekedwa ndikuchitidwa mopanda dyera. Yesetsani kusunga chikondi chotere pamutu wanu, ndipo padzakhala nkhani zambiri zokambirana!