Amuna ndi amai ali ofanana pazinthu zambiri koma komabe, kuti athe kuyankha funsoli, m'pofunika kulingalira kusiyana kwawo. Kusiyanasiyana kumayambitsidwa ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana: zamoyo, maganizo, ndi chikhalidwe.
Chipangizo chosiyana cha ziwalo zoberekera chimayambitsa kugonana kosiyana. Mkazi nthawizonse amakhala wachigololo, mwamuna nthawi zina. Mwamuna amalamulira thupi lake la kugonana, mkazi, mosiyana, ali ndi mphamvu zake. Mu chilengedwe, mwamuna wamwamuna ndi mkazi ali mbali yowopsya, yogwira ntchito. Mkazi ndi chinthu chotsutsa.
Popeza munthu amatha kuphatikizapo zachilengedwe ndi chikhalidwe chawo mofananamo, mwamuna wogonana amadziwidwa, ndipo mkazi amatha kupereka. Kusiyanasiyana pakati pa kukula ndi minofu sikuti kumagawaniza amuna ndi akazi kuti akhale okhwima komanso ofooka, komanso kumayambitsa kutsutsana kwakukulu: ntchito - kutaya mtima, mphamvu - kugonjera, malingaliro - chidziwitso, dongosolo - chisokonezo, ndi zina zotero. Chikhalidwe chosiyana cha mahomoni chimangowonjezera kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Matenda ambiri a testosterone amachititsa munthu kukhala wamwano kwambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake akazi amachita zolakwa zochepa kuposa amuna. Komanso, mwazifukwa zosiyana siyana, zimatchulidwa kuti zimadalira thupi lachikazi komanso psyche pa nthawi ya kusamba.
Kukhalapo kwa kusiyana maganizo pakati pa abambo ndi amai ndizosakayikira. Kafukufuku wambiri wachitidwa pa zotsatira zomwe ziganizo zotsatirazi zingagwiritsidwe ntchito. Akazi amapambana mwa luso la mawu, amuna amakhala ndi mwayi pawonekera. Azimayi ali omasuka komanso omveka bwino. Mwamuna amakhala mosamala, mkazi - mosadziwa, amapeza chidziwitso chake kwa mwamuna.
Lingaliro la mkazi limayang'ana pamwamba, mwamuna amagwiritsidwa ntchito polowera kufunika kwa zinthu. Atsikana ndi amayi ali bwino pochita zinthu zowonongeka. Amakhala ovuta kwambiri komanso osadziwika, ali ndi chidziwitso chochepa. Amuna ali ndi luso lapamwamba la masamu, amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chilengedwe. Azimayi ali ndi zolemba zambiri, komanso amuna - malingaliro amodzi (mkazi amakonda makutu, mwamuna - maso). Mwa njira, abambo ndi amai amadziwa mosiyana maonekedwe a munthu: mwamuna "amamuona" mokhulupirika, ndi mkaziyo - mwatsatanetsatane. Ndipo yesetsani kumutsimikizira kuti munthu ndi wokongola, ngati atanena kuti sakonda mphuno kapena tsitsi lake.
Mwamuna ndi anthu sagwirizana. Pokhapokha pagulu limapanga kudzikonda. Kusonkhana kwapakati pa munthu kumapezeka m'banja, chilengedwe, sukulu. Ndipo osati gawo laling'ono losewera ndi wailesi. Mwanayo "amayesera" udindo wake wa chikhalidwe, ndi chinenero, maphunziro, chikhalidwe, chipembedzo chimangowonjezera. Ndipo m'dera lino la mavuto muli zambiri: zosiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi pa ntchito za akazi ndi amuna, tsankho ...
Choncho, funso loti ndilovuta kuti mwamuna amvetse mavuto a amai sangadabwe. Osati mkazi aliyense adzamvedwanso ndi anthu. Amuna samamvetsetsa chikhalidwe cha amai, akazi samamvetsa bwino za amuna. Kuti muyambe kudziyang'ana nokha ndi zomwe muli nazo ndizosatheka, ndipo palibe chofunikira. Mkhalidwe wa mkazi ndi wotero kuti nthawi zambiri amadzibweretsera mavuto. Mavuto a azimayi - "Chovala chiyani?", "Ndine wolemera," "Sindikonda ine," ndi zina zotero. Popanda "mavuto" oterewa moyo wa chiwerewere wamtunduwu ungakhale wodwala wosalekerera.
Mosakayikira, mavuto enieni, ndiko, mavuto mu ubale, pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi samamvetsetsana, nkofunikira kusankha, osati kusonkhanitsa. Chitani ichi, simukusowa "kuchokera ku bell yanu," koma mukuganizira za chikhalidwe cha amuna kapena akazi. Ngati pali kusamvana kwakukulu, kuti aphunzitsenso wina ndi mnzake, ndizoti kwa mwamuna: "Khala mkazi!" Kapena-kwa mkazi: "Khalani mwamuna!"
Ngati muli ndi mavuto ochulukirapo, simungakhale ndi chidziwitso chokwanira pa maganizo opatsirana pogonana kapena luso lokhala pamodzi. Pankhaniyi, zokambirana ndi masemina apadera pa ubale pakati pa abambo ndi amai ndi othandiza kwambiri. Mu chiyanjano, icho chimatuluka, chimakhalanso ndi ufulu wake ndi maudindo a maphwando onse. Kuyendera maphunziro amenewa palimodzi, mungathe kukwaniritsa pafupifupi zotsatira. Ngati mnzanuyo akutsutsana, yambani kusintha. Mukhozanso kuthandizira mabuku apadera, omwe amatanthawuzira kuphunzitsa mkazi kukhala wachikazi, ndi mwamuna kuti akhale wolimba mtima.
Vuto siliyenera kumangika pa zosiyana, kuti mupeze zofanana zambiri ndi mfundo zothandizira momwe zingathere. Amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana, koma sali osiyana wina ndi mzake, amathandizana wina ndi mzake mu chirichonse.