Chimene amuna amayembekezera kuchokera kugonana

Kawirikawiri munthu amadziwa zomwe amayembekeza kuti azitha kugonana, koma nthawi zina mkazi samadziwa za izo, ndipo amalakwitsa, osakhumba. Maganizo a abwenzi kawirikawiri samagwirizana ndi zenizeni, ndipo kufunsa wokondedwa wanu mwachindunji, kodi iye angakonde, osati aliyense amene angasankhe. Chifukwa chake, amayi ambiri adzakhala ndi chidwi ndi zomwe amuna amayembekezera kuchokera ku kugonana, ndipo pafupifupi aliyense amaphunzira chinachake chatsopano. Kumbukirani kuti anthu onse ndi osiyana, ndipo sikuli kofunika kuti chirichonse chomwe chiti chidzatchulidwe mu nkhaniyi chidzanenedwa kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa munthu ndi kudziimira payekha payekha. Ndikhulupirire, kugonana "Lachisanu ndi Loweruka kuyambira pa 9 mpaka 10 koloko madzulo ndi magetsi ndi pansi pa bulangeti" - izi sizirizonse zomwe iye amakonda. Ngakhalenso ngati mwamuna wanu ali wodzitetezera, ndipo akunena kuti sakuyembekeza zodabwitsa zilizonse zogonana, iye akudandaula za chinthu chachilendo m'mtima mwake. Musathamangire msangamsanga kupita kuzinthu zoopsa, kuchepetsa nyumba yanu. Nchiyani, mwachitsanzo, sichiyenerera mpando kapena tebulo pomwe adachoka kuntchito?

Pafupifupi anthu onse amadana pamene mkazi amayesera kulankhula pa nthawi yogonana. Chowonadi n'chakuti amuna sagwira ntchito zambiri nthawi imodzi, ndipo ichi ndi chimodzi mwa kusiyana kwawo kwa amayi. Timatha kumasangalala ndi kugonana nthawi yomweyo ndikuuza wokondedwa kuti filimu yosangalatsa yomwe tinaiwona ndi mnzathu. Amuna sangathe kuchita izi, ndipo pamene tiyamba kuyankhulana nawo pa nthawi yogonana, mwina sangathe kutsatila zokambiranazo kapena amasokonezedwa ndi "vutoli". Zonsezi zimakhumudwitsa - zomwe ndi zachirengedwe.

Amuna ambiri amayembekezera kuti pa nthawi yogonana mkazi adzakhala wokonzeka kuyankhula momveka bwino, zomwe ndizo zomwe zimakhala zokondweretsa kwambiri.

Palibe amene amafuna kupondereza yekha, ndipo iwo ndi amuna ambiri pa nthawi yogonana. Ngati ali ndi chidwi ndi izi, msiyeni akhale wotanganidwa, amphamvu, ayambe kuyambitsa masewerawo. Koma ngati panthawiyi sakaganizira za kugonana, palibe chomwe chingakulepheretseni kumunyengerera. Amuna ambiri amayembekezera izi kwa wokondedwa wawo pogonana, koma amanyazi kunena choncho.

Ndipo munthu aliyense amafuna kwenikweni kukondweretsa wokondedwa wake. Bwerezerani kwa iye nthawi zambiri kuti kugonana ndi iye ndi kofunikira kwa inu - munthu wamba samayembekezera mawu awa.

Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti mkazi pa nthawi yogonana amapeza mphamvu, ndipo munthu amapereka. Ndicho chifukwa chake, titatha kupanga chikondi, ndife okonzeka kuwuluka, ngati mapiko, kutembenuka ndikukumbatira dziko lonse ndikupangitsa wokondedwa wanu kuti afe. Koma munthu amene ali ndi vuto, amagona tulo, kapena amayamba kuchita zinthu zina. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sakukukondani, kapena kuti sakusangalala nazo lero. Zimatanthawuza ndendende kuti iye ali ndi chiganizo. Mwamuna amayang'ana mwachinsinsi kwa inu kuti mutatha kugonana kosangalatsa, mudzamupsompsona mokoma mtima, ndipo musayese kumangirira m'manja mwanu. Chifukwa chiyani sakuyankhula za izo? Mwinamwake, akuwopseza wokondedwa wake, chifukwa amadziwa kuti mkaziyo ndi wofunika kwambiri.

Koma mwamunayo sakuyembekeza chikondi choterocho. Iye sakusowa iye panthawi ino. Zomwezo zimapita patsogolo. Kwa mkazi, ndikofunikira kwambiri, koma munthu, kuti azikhala osangalala, pafupifupi masekondi 30.

Zonsezi zimayembekezeka kugonana, munthu wamba. Komabe, nkofunika kukumbukira kuti palibe anthu apakati - tonse ndife osiyana. Ndicho chifukwa chake njira yabwino yodziwira chomwe chomwe mwamuna wanu wokondedwa amayembekeza kugonana ndiko kulankhula momasuka ndi iye pa mutu uwu. Kuwonjezera apo, zokambiranazi zili ndi phindu lina - munthu adziwa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kugonana. Ndiye mudzatha kukwaniritsa mgwirizano weniweni mu ubale wachikondi.