Nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi maziko a ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, chomwe chimatchedwa maziko a maubwenzi. Koma kumbukirani, kugonana kumayenera kuthandizira maubwenzi, osati m'malo mwake. Nanga bwanji ngati palibe kugonana m'banja, momwe mungakhalire? Kodi pali maubwenzi otero? Kodi ali ndi ufulu wokhalapo?
Ubale wopanda kugonana uli ndi ufulu wokhalapo, koma ngati onse awiri akumva kuti ali omasuka muzochitika zotere, ndiko kuti, izi zikugwirizana ndi mbali zonse ziwiri.
Ambiri amakhala ndi mgwirizano wabwino popanda kugonana. Iwo ali okonzeka kukondana wina ndi mnzake, chikondi, kutentha, chidwi ndi chisamaliro. Kugonana kwa iwo sikuli kofunikira pa ubale wawo, mukumeneko, kusowa kwa kugonana sikumakhala vuto, abwenzi amapeza malo ogonana omwe amawafuna, ndipo amakhala osangalala kwambiri. Ndipo ndizodabwitsa!
Mwachidziwikire, kumbukirani kuti musapitirize kunena zazomwezo: Ngati palibe kugonana mu ubale, ndiye kuti pali chinachake cholakwika. Khalani ndi malingaliro anu ndi kumverera kwanu! Munthu aliyense ali ndi zofunikira zosiyana zogonana. Ndipo mwinamwake, mfundo yakuti imodzi ndi kusowa kwa kugonana, pakuti wina, mosiyana, akuwoneka kukhala moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwambiri! Ife tonse ndife osiyana - kumbukirani izi. Choncho, nkhani yaikulu sayenera kukhala "Chifukwa chiyani palibe kugonana?", Koma "Ndikumva bwanji popanda izo?"
Mwatsoka, m'moyo nthawi zambiri mumakhala zosiyana, pamene kusowa kwa kugonana kumakhala kovuta. Chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kugonana, ubale umachepa. Nthawi zambiri abwenzi amakhulupirira: popeza palibe kugonana, ndiye chikondi chadutsa! Zomwe mungachite ngati palibe kugonana muukwati, koma simukukonda kwenikweni. Ndizo zomwe muyenera kumvetsa! Choyamba, musadandaule! Yesetsani kumvetsetsa zifukwa za kusagonana ndikuganiza kuti ndi ndani amene amatsutsa kuti palibe kugonana m'banja. Zifukwa za kusagonana zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri. Mwinamwake muli ndi matenda osokoneza maganizo, koma katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito (katswiri wa zamaganizo, wogonana, etc.) akhoza kukuthandizani kangapo ndipo mumamvanso!
Zifukwa za kusagonana zingakhale: zaka, maganizo oipa, kusakhutira ndi moyo, thanzi (makamaka, kusakhalapo), chiwembu, mkwiyo.
Kuonjezerapo, chimodzi mwa zifukwa zikhoza kukhala chomwe chimatchedwa "kugonana kowopsa" Mukadziwiratu. Kodi ndi motani momwe ziti zidzachitikire, mu dongosolo liti. Pankhaniyi, sizosangalatsa kupanga chikondi. Kawirikawiri zimapezeka mu zibwenzi omwe akhala akugwirizana kale.
N'zotheka kufotokoza zifukwa zosayambira kugonana kwa nthawi yaitali, koma n'zotheka kuthetsa vutoli. Osagonana, muthetseni! Chirichonse chiri mmanja mwanu! Gwiritsani ntchito khama lanu ndi malingaliro anu onse kuti mubwezeretse moyo wathanzi wachibadwa.
Yesetsani kulankhula momasuka ndi mnzanuyo, nenani kuti simukukonda, kambiranani za mavuto anu ndi zikhumbo zanu. Uwu ndiwo thandizo loyamba pa mavuto alionse. Musatseke nokha! Khalani womasuka kutsegula kukambirana, osadziwa kuyamba-kuwerenga mabuku apadera, ayenera kuthandizira. Ingoyesani kusankha nthawi yoyenera yokambirana ndi zolondola. Musapite ku maankhulidwe okweza ndipo musayese kudzudzula wokondedwa wanu. M'njira iyi, onsewa amakhala ndi mlandu. Mukamanena mosapita m'mbali, zidzakhala zosavuta kwa inu m'tsogolomu.
Bweretsani zosiyana mu moyo wanu wa kugonana, kuti nthawi iliyonse mu njira yatsopano. Yang'anani wina ndi mzake, yesetsani kulemekeza zofuna ndi zofuna za mnzanuyo. Chikondi chokomera mtima. Khalani zozizwitsa kwambiri komanso zowopsya kwa mnzanuyo. Mwina izi zingakuthandizeni kusewera masewero, malo atsopano kapena malo atsopano. Mungathe ngakhale kumangotha mlungu umodzi pokhapokha, pereka nthawi kwa wina ndi mzake ndipo kenako chilakolako chanu chidzabwerera. Koma musaiwale kuti zokopa zimachitika kwa munthu wokonzekera bwino amene akuyang'ana maonekedwe ake!
Ngati mnzanu akufuna zochepa zogonana kusiyana ndi iwe, yesetsani kupanga nthawiyi kuti ikhale yosakumbukika kuti zowawa zidzatha kwa nthawi yaitali.
Ngati simukufuna kugonana kuchoka pa moyo wanu, yesetsani kukhala osayankhula pamutu, kutopa ndi ntchito. Mutha kupeza nthawi kwa wokondedwa wanu.
Kawirikawiri, kusowa kwa kugonana kumawombola nthawi yochuluka, mphamvu ndi mphamvu, zomwe zingatumizedwe m'njira ina! Choncho, mukhoza kuchita ntchito zokhudzana ndi ntchito, zomwe akhala akulakalaka kuti achite, koma panalibe nthawi yokwanira, kulowerera mu ntchito ndikukwera mmwamba, ndikuyendetsa bwino ntchito yawo. Koma musakhale wokwiya mpaka kalekale, wamantha komanso wodekha, chifukwa m'tsogolomu mungasokoneze kugonana kwanu. Ndipo nsonga imodzi yina sidziiwala nokha!