Kodi kutentha ndi chiyani?
Mavuto omwe amayamba ndi kutuluka kwa detente nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka ndi chiwombankhano chenicheni, pomwe kutentha kwa kugonana sikofala. Kawirikawiri izi zikuphatikizidwa ndi kugonana, kusowa chisangalalo ndi chidwi chilichonse, kusayanjananso ngakhale kukhalapo kwa zambiri. Kuwonjezera apo, palinso kutentha kwa kanthaŵi kochepa, komwe kumathandizidwa bwino.
Mzimayi amene amakondwera, koma osati chiwonongeko, sangatchedwe mvula. Monga n'zosatheka kuziganizira ngati zowonongeka zosaoneka bwino. Chilichonse chili ndi zifukwa zake, nthawi zina chimadalira maganizo, nthawi zina pa wokondedwa, ndipo nthawi zina pazimene zimayambira.
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungagwirire ndi vutoli, muyenera kumvetsetsa zomwe zimakulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo wogonana.
Zomwe zimayambitsa kutentha.
Choyamba ndi chifukwa chodziwitsira kuti ziwonongeko zingathe kunyalanyaza inu ndi thanzi. Zogonana ndi zokopa zimakhudzidwa ndi matenda ambiri a amayi, kulephera kwa mahomoni, kuvutika maganizo, beriberi komanso kumwa mankhwala ena. Choncho, musanamve phokoso ndikuyamba kuthetsa vuto lanu, muyenera kuwona dokotala ndikusiya zonse zomwe zingayambitse ozizira pabedi, zomwe zingagwirizane ndi thanzi.
Chifukwa chachiwiri ndi maganizo. Kuperewera kwa zachiwawa kwa akazi kungakhudzidwe ndi kuleredwa molimbika muunyamata. M'mabanja ena, nkhani zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndizoletsedwa, ndipo kugonana sikungokambilane kapena kukambidwa ngati chinthu chodetsa komanso choipa. Amayi ambiri amawopseza atsikana omwe amachotsa mimba, matenda opatsirana pogonana, ndi ululu wamtundu panthawi yogonana pofuna kupewa kugonana koyambirira. Njira iyi yophunzitsira za kugonana imabweretsa mfundo yakuti atsikana amakula, amasanduka akazi, koma amagona pabedi ndi mwamuna, monga pa nkhondo, pamene ngozi ingachokere kumbali zonse.
Kuonjezera apo, musatengere mbali za psychology. Azimayi amakhala okhumudwa komanso kuti azisangalala, ambiri amafunikira ziwerengero zosatha. Ndi kudalira mnzanu, chilakolako cholimba, mphindi yoyenera ndi mlengalenga, maganizo ndi moyo wabwino. Nthawi zina zinthu zoterezi zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kuti zizigwirizana panthawi yoyenera, nthawizina akazi amalingalira za momwe zinthu zingakhalire zowonongeka. Nzosadabwitsa kuti izi sizichitika - ngati mutapereka mwayi umodzi mwa milioni, ndiye kuti mwina sudzagwa.
Chifukwa chachitatu chikhoza kutchedwa kusagwirizana kwa zibwenzi. Mukhoza kukondana wina ndi mzake, mutha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino, koma moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana ukhoza kusiya zofuna zambiri. Koma vuto ili limathetsedwa mosavuta. Ndikofunikira kuti ukhale womasulidwa, kuti udzipangitse kuti ukhale watsopano, kuika, kulola chinachake chatsopano m'moyo wako, momwe chirichonse chingasinthire modabwitsa. Ngati simukudziwa kuti muli ndi luso komanso kuti mukuchita zonse bwino, ndibwino kuti mutembenuzire kugonana.
Kodi mungatani?
Ngati nthendayi si matenda omwe dokotala watsimikizira, koma ndi mavuto okhaokha, mutha kuthetsa vuto lanu nokha.
Muzogonana, zambiri zimadalira mnzanuyo, kotero musadalire munthu amene sakusangalatsani kapena sakonda izo pazifukwa zina. Ndi munthu wapafupi kuti akwaniritse zosangalatsa zomwe akuzifuna ndizosavuta.
Musakhale chete ponena za mavuto anu, kambiranani za iwo. Palibe chovuta kuti musataye ndi chilakolako, monga atsikana omwe amaonera zolaula. Ngakhale anthu ali ndi zolakwika, ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yoyika mtanda pa moyo wogonana. Kumbukirani kuti kugonana kosagwirizana ndi kusintha kwafupipafupi sikuli njira yabwino yopeza chisangalalo. Ngakhale amayi omwe kawirikawiri samakhala ndi mavuto pokondwera ndi kugonana, sangathe kumasuka kwathunthu ndi mnzanu watsopano.
Musazengereze kugwirizanitsa malingaliro, chifukwa kugonana kwakhala kwaletsedwa kale ndipo palibe chinthu chomwe chingakhale chibwibwi pazochitika zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo. Pezani chomwe mukufuna, mungathe kokha pothandizidwa ndi mayesero.
Yesetsani kuyesa, koma musamangoganizira pamapeto pake, koma pamalingaliro anu, pa zomwe mumakonda. Ndikoyenera kukhala okhulupilika ndi wekha ndi mnzanuyo, ndiye sipadzakhala mavuto ndi kukhala osangalala.
Amayi ambiri amadziona kuti ndi okondwa, koma sakudziwa kuti ndi chiani. Ena amakondwera ndi kugonana popanda kukhuta, ndipo musaganize kuti ndi vuto. Mwinamwake, zolaula ndi cholinga choyenera, chimene chiri choyenera kugwira ntchito, ndipo mwina, kwa inu nthano chabe, yopanda moyo umene uli wabwino kale. Kumbukirani kuti chirichonse chiri payekha pazokhudzana ndi ubale wapamtima, ndipo banja lanu silingagwirizane ndi miyezo iliyonse. Pamapeto pake, palibe amene adzaika chizindikiro cha khalidwe pabedi panu, kupatula nokha.