Kusokonezeka maganizo kumakhudza kugonana

Ponena za ubwino wa kugonana amalemba zambiri: kumaonjezera chitetezo chokwanira, amachepetsa ululu, kutopa, amathandiza kuthetsa nkhawa, koma ... pankhondoyi, kugonana, maola, nthawi zambiri amavutika kugonjetsedwa.

Choyamba, tiyeni tiwamasulire mawu akuti: bwanji za nkhawa? (Pafupi ndi kugonana kwanji, mafunso, sitikuyembekeza). Mawu omwewo mu Chingerezi amatanthauza "kupweteka, kupanikizika, kupanikizika." Mavuto akunja kapena zobvuta za mkati zimakakamizidwa - komanso thupi limayesedwa ndi zolefuka zamaganizo ndi zakuthupi. Kugona ndi njala, kapena, kugona ndi kulakalaka kudya maswiti a maswiti, kukhumudwa, nkhawa, kukwiya, kapena kusokoneza - zonsezi ndizochitika pa zovuta. Ndipo monga lamulo, pansi pa nkhawa anthu ambiri, mwatsoka, musagonana. Koma pafupifupi 9 peresenti ya anthu akuyesetsabe kuthetsa mikwingwirima yopanda chithandizo basi. Olemba masewerawa akuyesetsa kuti akhale chete. Ndi bwino kuyesa ndi zochitika.
Komabe, n'zodabwitsa kuti nkhawa "yabwino" yomwe imayambitsidwa ndi maganizo osokoneza maganizo imangowonjezera kuchuluka kwa mahomoni ogonana, choncho, kugonana kumakhudza kwambiri. "Zoipa" zimabweretsa mavuto ochulukirapo pa kugonana, koma mwa amuna ndi akazi iwo amadziwonetsera okha m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Choncho, matenda opatsirana pogonana.

Ngati nkhawa ya munthu

Nchiyani chikuchitika?
Amuna ambiri amasunga mavuto mkati. Iwo samayankhula kwa maola pafoni pazochitikira, samatsanulira mikangano mwa amatsenga, ndipo amadzipangira okha katundu wonse wa mavuto osathetsedwa. Chifukwa chake, pamene munthu ali m'mavuto, amadzikakamiza kwambiri. Kufunsana kapena kukakamizidwa kulikonse kumamukwiyitsa. Pankhani ya kugonana, pali njira ziwiri zothetsera vutoli.

Ngati vutoli silili lolimba komanso losakhala lozama, lingathe kuwonjezereka kanthawi kochepa: malinga ndi akatswiri, kugonana kwa amuna kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi chiwawa, chilakolako chogonjetsa, kupambana, kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake ndi ulamuliro. Koma mwatsoka, kupumula kwa thupi sikumagwirizana ndi khalidwe labwino, ndipo ngati chifukwa cha kupsinjika ndi chakuya kusiyana ndi kutopa ndi tsiku lovuta kuntchito, sichidzapangitsa kugonana koteroko. Komanso, imatha kuphulika ndi kuyambitsa matenda ena.

Chinthu chachiwiri chokhazikitsa chitukuko - kusayanjanitsika kwa mnzanuyo, kukhumudwa ndi chilakolako komanso ngakhale vuto la kukonzekera. Pankhaniyi, mwamunayo amadzikakamiza kwambiri ndipo amayamba kupeŵa mnzanuyo, kuti asagwidwe mosakhulupirika, amatanthauza kutopa ndi ntchito yambiri.

Mmene mungakhalire?
Nkhondo, ndithudi, choyamba ndi chachikulu chifukwa cha vuto, osati ndi kufufuza. Ponena za wokondedwa, wokondedwayo ayenera kusonyeza nzeru komanso kuleza mtima. Zinyozo zilizonse kapena, zoipitsitsa, nthabwala, zinyodola, ngakhale mwinamwake lilime likusokoneza mosalekeza, siloyenera. Pambuyo pa zonse, amafunikira kuthandizidwa ndi kutsimikizira kufunika kwake, osati mosiyana.

Ngati mwamuna sakhala ndi chigonere pabedi, ndiye kuti chida chatsopano chofiira ndi lace, makandulo ndi makina osakanikirana, mwinamwake, ndi opanda pake. Kuitana koteroko kungachititse mantha othetsa mantha kapena kukwiya. Monga kulimbikitsa njira zabwino kwambiri zopanda ubongo - chakudya chamadzulo chokhala ndi aphrodisiacs, kusisita. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri: wokondedwa ayenera kumverera kuti iye amamuyamikira osati pa nkhani ya kugonana kwa bedi.

Ngati nkhawa ya mkazi
Nchiyani chikuchitika?
Mosiyana ndi amuna, amai amagwiritsidwa ntchito poyesa zochitika zawo kunja. Koma za kukhumudwa kwa chilakolako cha kugonana sikuchokera ku funsoli, makamaka pazovuta, oimira chiwerewere mwachilungamo amafuna mpumulo, mtendere ndi chifundo. Kuyankhulana kwachangu - kukwapula, kunyalanyaza bwino ndi kusamalira pa nthawi ngati zimenezi n'kofunikira. Koma ngati munthu akusowa chosowa pofuna kugonana mofulumira komanso mwamsanga, mavuto ndi zovuta zimatheka, chifukwa pakali pano pali kusamvana. Chotsatira chake, munthu akhoza kumverera kuti sakanidwa ndi wosafunidwa, amadziwerengera yekha zochitika zake (chifukwa cha chikhalidwe chokhazikika), kutseka, kukhumudwa kapena kuwotchedwa konse chifukwa cha kusowa kwaukwati komanso ambiri ... Inde, zonsezi sizithandiza kapena kugwirizana mu maubwenzi, kapena kugonjetsa vuto lopweteka. Komabe, wokondedwa wachifundo malinga ndi momwemo, ndithudi, amatha kusinthana ndi wokondedwayo ndi zomwe akumana nazo kuti akonde.

Mmene mungakhalire?
Musamadzikakamize kugonana, koma kuti musakhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu, sikudzakondweretsa inu kapena iye. Pambuyo pa chilolezo chotere, mkazi adzawoneka kuti akugwiritsidwa ntchito, mwamuna adzamva kuti sakhumudwa ndi iyemwini, chifukwa adzamva kuti sakukondweretsa wokondedwayo. Choncho, ndi bwino kunena mofatsa kuti: "Ayi, nthawi ina", kuposa apo kugona pansi ndikukhumudwitsana ndi mnzanuyo chifukwa cha kusagwirizana ndi zosayenera. Ngati chinthu chokhacho mukufuna pambuyo pa tsiku lovuta - khalani osamba ndikugona, dzipatseni kuti mupumule ndi kupumula. Chinthu chachikulu - yesetsani kufotokozera kwa wokondedwa wanu kuti siziri mwa iye, koma muzochitika zanu. Ndipo onetsetsani kupereka chitsogozo chochitapo kanthu, momveka bwino ndi momveka bwino, popanda ndemanga: "Ndikufuna iwe ungondikumbatira ndi kumvetsera."

Ngati vutoli likutha msinkhu ndipo lingaliro lirilonse lokhudza kugonana limayambitsa kukana, muyenera kuyesa kusintha mtima. Timadziwanso kuti munthu wamkulu wa nkhawa ndikutopa. Yesetsani kugona ndikugona, ndipo mwinamwake posachedwa muli m'chipinda chogona simufuna kugona tulo.

Yesetsani kukonda chilakolako cha chikondi: kukoma kumabwera ndi kudya, ndipo mwinamwake mwa kuyamba choyamba, inu nokha mukufuna kupitiriza.

Ndipo ndithudi, pamene mavuto akusiyidwa ndipo zonse zimabwerera kuzinthu zachilendo, musaiwale za nthawi zonse zotsutsana ndi kupanikizika. Ndipotu, kugonana, ngati si nthawi zonse kumatha kukhala mankhwala othetsera nkhawa, ndiye kuti njira yothetsera vuto ndi yodabwitsa kwambiri! Amapatsa mpumulo wathunthu komanso kumasuka, kumadzutsa maganizo komanso kudzidalira. Chitani nthawi zonse momwe zingathere, pamene zonse ziri bwino, ndiyeno mudzapambana mosavuta wopambana kuvuto lililonse.