Chikondi ndi masewera, ndipo ndani adayamba kukonda, adataya. Choncho khulupirirani anyamata ena moona mtima, ndipo mubiseni chikondi chawo mwakuya, kuti musamawoneke otayika, ofooka, osatetezeka. Koma kodi izi zimangolepheretsa amuna kutsegula maganizo awo? Ndi zifukwa zinanso ziti zomwe zimawathandiza anyamata kubisala, ndipo ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe zimapereka wokonda chinsinsi?
Zimayambitsa kukakamiza amuna kubisa chikondi chawo
Zifukwa zobisala malingaliro awo pachibwenzi zingakhale zambiri. Chifukwa cha chikhalidwe ichi kapena chikhalidwe cha anthu, kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo sikutheka. Koma kudziwa za zofunikira pa izi kudzatithandiza kumvetsetsa zachinsinsi cha amuna ndipo, ngati mwamunayo akukonda, athandizidwe kuchitapo kanthu kuti amufotokoze momveka bwino:- Kuletsa khalidwe. Munthu woteroyo ndi ovuta kutulutsira malingaliro ndi kulongosola. Amasankha kukhala chete, ndi kufotokoza maganizo ake kwa mtsikanayo ndi zochita zake. Mofanana kwambiri ndi munthu! Kotero posachedwa iye adzayankhula "zochita".
- Mbali za maphunziro. Anyamata ambiri amaphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali ana kuti akhale amphamvu muzonse, komanso kuti amuna enieni sayenera kuloledwa kuthetsa "snot mu shuga", monga msungwana wina wamwano. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kufooka! Choncho mzimayiyo amasunga maganizo ake, chifukwa ali otsimikiza kuti amuna enieni samavina, samalira ndipo samavomereza kuti amakonda.
- Kudzichepetsa. Zopindulitsa za maphunziro ovuta kwambiri, kusonyeza kusakonda kwa mnyamata ali mwana, kukanidwa kwake - zonsezi zimapangitsa kusatsimikizika ndi kusungidwa. Mnyamatayo angakhale wokondwa kuvomereza, koma amaganiza kuti sali woyenera komanso wosayenera kwa mtsikana woteroyo.
- Kuopa kukanidwa. Amuna ena amaopa kuti akutsutsana ndi kunyada kwawo, kuti amangoganiza kuti adzakanidwa kapena kuseka m'maganizo, amalepheretsa kuwonetsa poyera maganizo awo ndi kuvomereza chikondi chawo.
- Chibwenzi cholakwika. Kulephera pa chikondi kungakhalenso kwa nthawi yayitali kukana chilakolako chokhazikitsa ubale watsopano. Kawirikawiri munthu amabisa maganizo ake enieni osati kwa msungwana yemwe amamukonda, komanso kuchokera kwa iyemwini. Kotero psyche ndi yosavuta kuthana ndi ululu.
- Kuopa kutaya ufulu. Kawirikawiri, kudziimira kumayang'aniridwa ndi amuna ngati chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri chomwe ali nacho. Mwachibadwa, palibe aliyense amene angapereke mwaufulu ufulu wawo wamtengo wapatali. Kotero iwo samakhala chete ponena kuti iwo adayamba kukonda makutu, kotero kuti sanafunike kukwatira.
- Sitampu mu pasipoti. Munthu yemwe si mfulu akhoza kutengedwera, koma, poopa vumbulutso, adzabisa maganizo ake. Sizoipa ayi, koma mfundo yakuti anyamata amabisa ukwati wawo kwa mtsikana amene amamukonda, akaganiza zoyambitsa ubale "wamanzere".
Zizindikiro "kulankhula" za chikondi cha mnyamatayo
- Yang'anani ndi mawonekedwe a nkhope. Maso okonda amapereka ngakhale munthu wotetezedwa kwambiri. Mwa iwo, ndi kuya, ndi kutulutsa, ndi chipongwe, ndi manyazi. Maganizo oterewa amawonetsedwa mu nkhope ya nkhope. Zonse zinalembedwa pa nkhope yake. Mnyamatayo amanyalanyaza, kenako amatembenukira pamaso pa mtsikanayo, kumamvetsera iye atatsegula pakamwa pake, akudandaula, akudabwa ndi malingaliro, kapena mosemphana maganizo, akumwetulira mosalekeza.
- Zizindikiro. Thupi ndilo chizindikiro chabwino kwambiri cha choonadi. Manja adzaperekedwa ndi mutu wa mnyamata wachikondi. Zingakhale zachabechabe kapena zowuma muzitsulo, chikhumbo chokhudza "msungwana" wamba, akamamupatsa chinthu kapena kumveka kuvala chovala, osadziŵa kutaya tsitsi lake, ndi zina zotero. Kukopa kwa msungwana kumatha kuchiritsidwa pamene mnyamata akulankhulana, Nthawi zambiri amanyamula manja ake m'chiuno, m'chiuno mwake, amafalikira miyendo yake.
- Mawu ndi kulankhula. Liwu la mnyamata amene akukumana ndi malingaliro, pamayendedwe a mahomoni amakhala ozama, odzazidwa ndi zida zowonongeka ndi zolembera. Koma kulankhula, mmalo mwake, kungapangitse kuwerengera ndi kulemba mawu, mawu osamveka komanso mawu. Ponena za munthu woteroyo amatha kunena kuti sangathe kugwirizanitsa mau awiri. Koma zimachitika kumbali ina, mnyamata yemwe amatha kufotokozedwa ndi mateti okhaokha, amapeza mawu okondedwa kwambiri kwa mtsikana wokondedwa, amamuyitana mayina achikondi ndi maina ake abwino.
- Maonekedwe. Wokhudzidwa ndi mtsikanayo akufuna kuti zinthu zonse zikhale bwino, ndipo maonekedwe sali osiyana. Amalipira kwambiri ukhondo wake, amasankha mosamala zovala, nsapato ndi zonunkhira, nthawi zambiri amayang'ana pagalasi. Kwa amuna ambiri, chikondi chimalimbikitsa kwambiri kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chochotsera zizoloŵezi zoipa monga mowa ndi kusuta.
- Makhalidwe. Anthu okondwa amakonda kuthamanga kwambiri. Ngati mnyamata wotchuka komanso wotchuka pakati pa mtsikana wina amakhala modabwitsa komanso wolekerera, ndipo phokoso limakhala lolimba mtima komanso lokhazikika, pali zifukwa zomveka zowadandaulira kuti akugwera. Komanso, amuna ambiri m'chikondi amatsindikizidwa kusamalira ndi chivalrous mwamphamvu, ndikuganiza zofuna zonse ndikukumbukira zosaiwalika masiku.
- Malo anu. Pokhala ndi chikondi, mwamuna samangowoneka kambirimbiri mu malo a msungwanayo, koma amayesetsanso kumuphatikiza pa malo ake - kudziwitsa abwenzi ake, kuwaitanira kunyumba, kusonyeza makolo ake. Pokambirana ndi mtsikanayo, amacheza zakukhosi, amagawana maloto ake kapena zobisika zinsinsi, alowetsa m'dziko lake, mwinamwake, kwa ena onse, chitseko chatsekedwa mwamphamvu.
- Nsanje. Mnyamata yemwe amakonda, koma ali chete, amatha kuganizira msungwana wake katundu wake mosadziwa. Ndipo ngakhale mtsikanayo sakayikira ngakhale pang'ono za momwe amamvera, ali otsimikiza kuti ali ake. Ndipo chifukwa cha chifundo chake, sangalole kuti aliyense ayang'ane zomwe anganene ponena za kukwatira, kukondana ndi kupereka zizindikiro zina za chidwi. Kupsa mtima kapena kuchitirana nkhanza kwa amuna omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi chibwenzi chake, adzanena za mnyamatayo mwachikondi kuposa momwe angafunire.