Chifukwa chiyani simunathe kupeza munthu wa maloto anu mpaka pano?
Malingana ndi akatswiri a maganizo, mtundu wa kusungulumwa ndi vuto la khalidwe ndi khalidwe kwa amuna. Kawirikawiri amai safuna iwo omwe amawafuna kwenikweni. Mwina izi zimaperekedwa ndi anthu amasiku ano kapena ndizolembedwa za malangizo a makolo. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wamagulu a anthu, atsikana ambiri anayankha mosakayikira kuti akufuna kuti awone pambali pawo mwamuna wamtundu wa minofu, chifukwa chikondi chake ndi zomwe zimamuchitikira ndizopanda pake. Inde, kungakhale kozizira, koma kokha koyamba. Mundikhulupirire ine, chifukwa cha moyo wa banja anyamata awa sagwirizane nkomwe, ndipo iwo eniwo samangopita mwamsanga. Mabaibulo omwewo sadzasamala zomwe kutentha kwanu kuli, ngati simukukhala bwino, zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera m'tsogolomu sizidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa iye. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti amuna amtundu wa alpha amangofuna zokondweretsa okha komanso amakhala okhaokha. Kotero musadabwe ngati "chipatso" chomwecho mutangoyamba kudziwana popanda chikumbumtima chidzanyalanyaza maitanidwe anu ndi mauthenga.
Palinso lingaliro lopambana limene amayi ambiri aang'ono amakhala nalo chidwi makamaka pa umoyo wabwino wa munthu, kukula kwake kwa ntchito. Inde, pambali imodzi - chilakolako chimenechi ndi choyenera chifukwa chakuti mtsikana aliyense amafuna kuti banja lake ndi ana ake asasowe zofunika kwambiri. Kuonjezera apo, kupezeka kwa ndalama kumatitsimikizira moyo wochuluka komanso wosangalatsa kuposa momwe iwo alibe. Koma ziribe kanthu momwe izi zingachitire chipongwe, amuna olemera, mochuluka kuposa osati, amasankha awo ofanana. Inde, pali nkhani zambiri zokhudza Cinderella, koma maubwenzi amenewa ndi ofooka kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri munthu amamukumbutsa zomwe wasankha. Ndikhulupirire, nthawi zina kuchokera kwa munthu wolemera, koma wochenjera komanso wodalitsika, mukhoza kumusamalira mfumu yamphamvu, yemwe mudzakhala chikondi komanso musere. Pambuyo pake, monga akunena, kumbuyo kwa munthu aliyense wopambana ndi mkazi wanzeru amene amakhulupirira mwa iye.
Kuti musapangitse zolakwika ndi kusankha zosankha zamtsogolo, zimalimbikitsidwa kuti muthe mayesero amtundu wa anthu ndikupeza maganizo anu ndi awiri anu. Njira iyi ikuwatsimikizira kuti mudzawoneka mosiyana ndi omwe angapeze njira yanu m'moyo. Chitsimikiziro cha maubwenzi okondwa ndi olingalira ndi kugwirizana kwa anthu ndi miyoyo, zolinga zofanana ndi malingaliro pa moyo.
Kodi mumachotsa bwanji kusungulumwa ndikupeza mnzanuyo m'moyo?
Choyamba, muyenera kuchotsa vuto la maganizo lomwe limakulepheretsani kuzindikira anthu nthawi zonse, kuti muwone yemwe alidi. Kwa ichi muyenera, choyamba, kuchotsa nokha masks ofunika ndi kunyada, kuti mukhale nokha, osakhala ndi mantha kuti muzitha kufunsa munthu amene mumamukonda. Ngati uyu ndi mnzanu wapamtima, adzakhalanso wokondwa kukukondani. Lolani nokha kukhala wokondwa kunena zomwe ziri mu malingaliro anu, zomwe inu mukufuna kuchokera mu moyo. Ndikhulupirire, iwo omwe sali pamsewu ndi inu - adzachoka mwakamodzi, izi siziyenera kudandaula. Amene ali ndi inu pamsinkhu womwewo-akhalabe kwa zaka zambiri.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musadziike nokha ngati cholinga chachikulu - kupeza munthu pachibwenzi. Khalani ndi moyo, mukulankhulana, muyankhulane ndi anzanu, phunzirani chinachake chatsopano ndipo simudzazindikira kuti chikondi chidzalowa m'moyo wanu. Ndipotu, monga momwe buku lakale la Shakespeare limanenera kuti: "Chikondi chimathawa omwe amachichita, koma kwa iwo omwe amathawa, amathamangira ku khosi ..." Tikuyembekeza kwambiri kuti mukumvetsa - palibe zikwama zonse ndi matupi osungunuka sadzalowetsa chimwemwe cha munthu kukhala chikondi ndi kukondedwa. Tikufuna kupeza munthu wa maloto anu kanthawi kochepa!