Kodi chikwati cha boma ndi chiyani kwa mwamuna: Chenjezo, ndizoopsa kwa atsikana!

Banja lachikwati, kumvetsetsa kwa Wikipedia, ndi mgwirizano waukwati womwe umalembedwa ndi kulembedwa m'mabungwe amphamvu a boma, ndipo pagulu (kukambirana) mbali zonse, maubwenzi osayina amatchedwa kukwatirana ndi boma. Kuchotsa anthu m'madzi oyera, tidzakambirana za ukwati wokhazikika ngati osadziwika, "osasunthika" maubwenzi.

Kodi chikwati cha boma ndi chiani kwa mwamuna?

Mkhalidwe wa malingaliro athu, nthawi zambiri, ukwati wa chikhalidwe umakhala wabwino kwa amayi omwe ali odzichepetsa komanso amuna omwe sakhala ndi udindo waukulu. Nchifukwa chiani izi zimachitika pogwiritsa ntchito maganizo? Mzimayi amene amavomereza zochitika zaukwati, a priori amavomereza kukhala okhutira ndi ang'onoang'ono. Ndipo ngati sagwirizana, iye ayenera kulimbikitsa kapena, kutero, kulengeza chosowacho. Mwamunayo amadziwa kuti awa ndiwo masomphenya ake a banja, ndipo amalemekeza malo omwe wokondedwayo amamukwatira ndi kukwatira kapena kuthetsa chiyanjanocho. Ngati mkazi akulekerera moleza mtima ndikudikirira, mwamuna akadzipempha kuti amuitanire ku korona, ndiye kuopa kutayika ndipo osakonzeka kukana. Kwa amuna amene amasankha kukhala osangalala, koma opanda ntchito, ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti wina sangathe kupirira, ndipo chidzatha ngati mkazi alola yekha kuchita izi kwa iyemwini.

Mwamuna wotero amayendetsa zonse. Nchifukwa chiyani ayenera kudzivutitsa ndi chikwati chaukwati ichi ndikulankhulana ndi manja ndi mapazi ngati:

1. Mzimayi amavomereza kuti akhale ndi moyo wake.
2. Anthu amachepetsa makhalidwe abwino ndipo amakhala okhulupirika kwa mabanja osaloledwa.
3. Kugonana, chakudya, zovala zoyera ndi nyumba yabwino kumaphatikizapo ndi bonasi yabwino nthawi zonse.
4. Kulephera kwa maudindo ndi ufulu kumakhalabe kovomerezeka, ngati chinachake chikuyenda bwino kapena chimatopa.

Ichi ndi lingaliro la amuna omwe sali mwamsanga kutanthauzira mgwirizano waukwati kukhala udindo wa boma. Ndipo mwa ichi palibe chowopsya, ngati chikwati cha boma popanda ntchito ndizokonzekera kumbali zonse ziwiri.

Amuna amaganiza bwanji ndi chidziwitso chaukwati wa chikhalidwe?

Eugene, wazaka 21, wophunzira, ukwati wazaka khumi ndi anayi.

"Ndili ndi chibwenzi changa choyamba, tinayamba kukhala limodzi pamene tinali ndi zaka 17. Iwo anali ophunzira, iwo ankakhala mu nyumba yanga, iwo anakhazikitsa moyo ndipo amadzitcha okha banja. Chilichonse chinali chatsopano, ndimachikonda kwambiri, anzanga anandikwiyira. Ndipo kwa iwo, anzathu, izo zinali zachilendo. Komano anyamata ochokera kumbali yathu, kusintha asungwana pafupifupi sabata iliyonse, anayamba kufunsa ngati ndidavutikanso chimodzimodzi? Kodi simukufuna kuyenda ndi kulawa ufulu wa kugonana? Inenso, ndinadabwa ndi funso ili, ndipo tsopano ndinayamba kudana ndi ufulu wa anzanga. Kawirikawiri, ubale umene ndimakhulupirira mwapabanja, unatopa mwamsanga. "

Ndemanga yamaganizo: Kwa mnyamata, ndi zachibadwa kuti mudziwe bwino ndikuphunzira za inu nokha mu chiyanjano, phunzirani kugawa malo ndi kulemekeza zofuna za wina. Chizoloŵezi cha moyo wa banja ndi chamtengo wapatali, komabe ambiri a mabanja achichepere amachitcha chidziwitso chowawa.

Pavel, wazaka 25, wolemba mapulogalamu, ukwati wazaka zisanu ndi zisanu.

"Ubwenzi wathu ndi chifukwa cha chipiriro changa. Ine ndinamenya chibwenzi changa kuchokera kwa mnyamata wina. Anamugonjetsa ndi chikondi, anamusamalira bwino komanso molimbika. Makolo anga anatipatsa ife nyumba yawo, koma iwo sanamuzindikire kuti mtsikanayo anali mbuye wawo ndipo sanamulole kuti athetse mavuto akuluakulu a banja. Patapita nthawi, anatha kuthetseratu kukayikira kwa ine, ngakhale kuti mkazi wa boma anali kuyesera kale m'dzina langa. Ndinayamba kuchita mantha kuti adzatenga mimba ndipo ndidzakwatirana. Inenso ndinali woyambitsa magawano. Iye anavutika, ndipo ine "ndinangokhala mfulu." Patapita chaka ndinakwatira mtsikana wina. Ine sindinkafuna ufulu. "

Ndemanga yamaganizo: Ufulu ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri chomwe munthu ali nacho. Koma ngati mwamunayo amakonda mkazi, amaopa kutaya komanso kumvetsa kuti pamene akuyesa, munthu wonyansa amamupeza ndikukwatirana, ndiye ayi, ngakhale mphamvu yowongoka kunja, sangathe kumuletsa.

Sergei, wazaka 40, wakonza magalimoto, wakwatira.

"Ine ndi chibwenzi changa tinakwatirana mwana wathu atabadwa, osati chifukwa choti mwanayo akule bwino, koma chifukwa sitampu ya pasipoti inamulola kuti alowe nawo mu" Banja la Achinyamata ". Panalibenso chinthu china chofunikira pa ine kapena mkazi wanga. Mfundo yakuti ndikufuna kumusamalira ndi ana athu, ndinamvetsa kuyambira tsiku loyamba. Ndipo ngati mwamuna sakufuna kukhala ndi udindo pa banja ndikugwira ntchito, ndiye kuti palibe kulembetsa kwa izo kudzachita zimenezo. "

Ndemanga ya akatswiri a maganizo: Zoonadi, sitampu ya pasipoti siipereka chilichonse chotsimikizirika, koma imakonza zovuta zina. Komabe, monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, ngakhale amuna omwe ali okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi ubale wa nthawi yaitali amasiya chidwi kwa banja losalongosoka ngati kulembetsa kwa ukwati sikuchitika mkati mwa zaka 2-3.

Zotsatira

Zifukwa zonse zomwe zimawunikira kuti banja likhale lovomerezeka zingakhale zovuta:

• Ndikofunika kuyang'anitsitsa kugwirizana (mu kugonana, moyo, kukhulupirika). Ngakhale anthu ovomerezeka m'zinthu zonse amakangana. Popanda iwo, n'zosatheka kumanga banja lamphamvu.
• Tiyenera kuyamba "kuimirira", kenako tikwatirane. Ziwerengero zimatsimikizira kuti maubwenzi apabanja amapereka maziko olimba (kuthandizira, kutenga nawo mbali, kuthandizira, kuwathandiza) kuti apambane, kusiyana ndi kusamukira yekha.
• Sitampu ya pasipoti ndi msonkhano. Mwinamwake, koma ndizowonjezereka, imalangiza ndi kuphunzitsa udindo. Ndipo kwa atsikana ambiri, sitimayi ndi njira yokha yolandirira banja.
• Achibale samavomereza kusankha. Lingaliro la achibale ndilofunika nthawi zonse, koma ngati munthu sangathe kuteteza chikondi chake, kodi zingatheke kuti athe kuteteza banja lake patsogolo pa mavuto ena?
• Chiwonongeko chakwati chikondi. Amuna ena amaganiza kuti mwamsanga pambuyo pa ukwatiwo, mfumukazi idzakhala ngati "chule", chifukwa cholinga chake chikukwaniritsidwa, iye amavomereza ndipo amakondwera tsopano sikofunika. Komabe, ngati Tsarevich sali Wopusa, ndiye kuti pambali pake mfumuyo ifuna kukhala mfumukazi.

Izi ndi zifukwa zina zambiri zimawonekera pamene munthu sadziwa zowona. Ngati amamukonda, ndiye kuti alibe chifukwa chokhalira kupewa udindo wake. Kukhala mwamuna wabwino ndi wolemekezeka! Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kupeza amene mukufuna kuvala dzina lodzikuza.