Ndi kangati mungathe kuwona chithunzi pamene munthu yemwe ali ndi "imvi" yemwe alibe maonekedwe, malingaliro ovuta, kapena maluso apamwamba akuyendayenda, omwe amai ambiri amangoti "imathamanga". Kodi amachita bwanji izi? Inu mukhoza, ndithudi, mukumuganizira iye za ufiti, koma luso la zamatsenga silikugwirizana nazo izo. Kuti akhale chinthu chothandizira munthu woyenera, monga akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza, mkazi aliyense akhoza. Zina mwa njira zotsimikiziridwa, palibe njira zothetsera maonekedwe, kudzikongoletsa kapena moyo wathanzi. Mkazi wokongola ayenera kukhala wophunzira, osati nkhope yokongola, miyendo yaitali kapena chifuwa chachikulu. Ndi maonekedwe onse, mkazi wolemekezeka aliyense ayenera kuyang'ana chiwerengerocho, akhale wokongola, wonyezimira komanso wokonzekera bwino. Ndizo njira zomwe zingathandize kukhala okongola kuchokera mkati. Ndipo kukongola koteroko kudzakakamiza kuthamanga pa chidendene cha munthu wosakanikizika kwambiri.
Njira 1. Khalani osakwanira komanso osadziwika
Mukadziwana ndi munthu wokondweretsa, n'zovuta kukana chikhumbo chodzaza moyo wake wonse, khalani pafupi nthawi zonse kapena m'deralo lofikira pa intaneti. Koma kukwanira kwathunthu ndi chimodzi mwa zolakwika zazikulu za akazi m'chikondi. Kwa otere musathamange. Palibe chifukwa - amadziyendetsa okha. Lekani kufunafuna amuna omwe akufanana ndi inu, mwamsanga atayankha mauthenga ake, mafoni kapena ayimbire koyamba komanso kawirikawiri. Pangani zosowa za munthu kuti muthe kukwaniritsa. Pitani ku tsiku loyamba, ndipo kuchokera kumapeto kwachiwiri pansi pa chinyengo chokwanira. Pewani kwa kanthawi, kenaka muwoneke mwadzidzidzi ndikumuitanira kumsonkhano, koma muidule pamalo abwino kwambiri. Muuzeni kuti simukudziwiratu ndipo simudzakhalapo nthawi zonse pamene akufuna.
Njira 2: Khalani munthu
Amuna amathamanga okha kwa akazi omwe, popanda maonekedwe, akhoza kutengeka ndi mphamvu ya khalidwe komanso dziko lolemera. Lembani zokondweretsa, khalani ndi zizoloŵezi zanu, zizoloŵezi ndi malingaliro anu, kondani ntchito yanu ndikuchita zomwe mumakonda, phunzirani dziko lozungulira ndi dziko lanu, yongolani, kugawana zomwe mumadziwa ndikukula mu njira yosankhidwa. Kotero iwe umakhala munthu yemwe iwe nthawizonse umamukonda, iwe umafuna kudziwa zakuya kwake ndi kupeza choonadi mwa iwo. Musapusitsidwe ndi nthano kuti anthu amayendetsa zokongola zokha. Kukongola kumapangidwira. Musamukhumudwitse mwamunayo ndi zomwe zili, khalani okondweretsa mwanjira iliyonse, mkazi, ndipo akufuna kukuwululirani mobwerezabwereza, monga mphatso yoyembekezeredwa kwambiri.
Njira 3: Khalani ndikulitsa
Ziri ngati maginito amakopeka kwa amuna omwe samayikira patsogolo, akugonjetsa nsonga zatsopano, kusokoneza maganizo komanso kudziwa zomwe akufuna pamoyo wawo. Ngati mumadziona kuti ndinu munthu wapangidwe kale komanso mkazi wabwino - wabwino kwambiri. Koma kumbukirani, ngati munthu asiya kukula, akuyamba kuwononga. Palibe boma lokhazikika pano. Ngati mwakhala mukukwaniritsa bwino ntchito yanu, zosangalatsa kapena zina zomwe mungapeze, yang'anani atsopano. Koma kupyola malingaliro a ungwiro palibe chofunikira kuti mupite. Samalani mantha anu, makompyuta, makhalidwe oipa. Pano pali gawo lalikulu kwambiri lodzikonzera nokha ndi kukonza makhalidwe abwino. Ndipo kawirikawiri, chitani chilichonse chimene mukufuna, chofunika kwambiri, musasiye kukulitsa ndi kudziŵa luso lanu, zirizonse zomwe ziri.
Njira 4. Khalani moyo wathunthu
Amayi amasiya kuthamanga pambuyo poti amai azikhala tanthauzo la moyo wawo wonse. Mwamuna amanjenjemera, ngati mkazi atseka zofuna zake zonse pa iye, amasungunuka mmenemo ndikusanduka mthunzi wake. Mthunzi wa munthu yemwe kale ali nawo, amafunikira mkazi yemwe akuyenera kumagwirizana, omwe amadzikapo baramwamba ndikudzikonda yekha m'moyo wake. Sikofunikira ngakhale kwa amuna omwe amatha kukhumudwa kwambiri kuti athetse chiyanjano ndi abwenzi awo, kuletsa kulankhulana ndi achibale kapena kupereka ntchito yawo yomwe amaikonda. Mwamunayo sangayamikire nsembeyo, ndipo mwamsanga mudzaidana nayo. Konzani zolinga zoyenera pamoyo wanu. Perekani mwamuna wanu malo ofunikira, koma osati chinthu chachikulu. Musalole kuti icho chikhale chofunika kwambiri kwa inu kuposa inu nokha. Amuna sangathe kukonda ndi kuthamangira amayi omwe amadzikana okha ndi moyo wawo chifukwa cha iwo.
Njira 5: Khalani wokongola
Mphamvu ya mkazi pogonana. Chibadwa ichi chimapangidwa kwambiri mwa munthu, ndipo chidzakhala chopusa kuti sichichigwiritsa ntchito, kufunafuna chidwi chenicheni cha munthu amene iye amamukonda. Kugonana sikukutanthauza kuti ndikhale mkazi wokongola wokhala ndi maonekedwe abwino, ndipo sikutanthauza kusintha kwa zovala zowonjezera zovala. Kugonana kwa mkazi m'maso mwake, kumutu kwa khosi lake, chisangalalo chogwedeza m'chiuno mwake, ngakhale atabvala chovala cha monastic ndi chophimba pa nkhope yake. Uku ndi mphamvu yapadera! Khalani ndi chidziwitso cha umuna wanu, pitani ku masukulu a kuvina, ndikuphunzitseni zomwe zimawulula kugonana kwa amayi, kuchita yoga, kupeza momwe thupi lanu lingakhalire ndi zosangalatsa, kulikonda ndi kusamalira thanzi lawo ndi kukongola. Palibe munthu yemwe angakhoze kukana mkazi yemwe amamvetsa komanso amadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu za kugonana kwake.
Njira 6: Phunzirani luso lokopa
Kuwongolera mwaluso kumatha kutembenuzira munthu aliyense kuchoka kumalo osasamala kupita ku "nyama", kutsata njira. Zovuta, koma kugwiritsira ntchito chilengedwe molakwika kumalimbikitsa mwamuna kuti atengepo kanthu, kuyitana, kuyang'ana misonkhano, kuchita zozizwitsa. Komabe, n'zosatheka kuphunzira kuphunzira mwaluso pogwiritsa ntchito malangizo kapena maphunziro. Mayi aliyense ali ndi mayesero ake. Mvetserani ku chikhalidwe chanu, lolani kuti ikulamulireni mukamayankhula ndi munthu. Intuition imakuwuzani komwe mungamve mawu kuti aziwombera, pamene mungapangitse "kuwombera" momveka bwino ndi maso anu, ndi kuti kukonzekera tsitsi lanu ndi manja anu kapena "mwangozi" kumakhudza pamapewa a munthu. Kwa ife, amayi, mapulogalamu awa opusitsa amaperekedwa pakubalidwa, ndipo ngati sitikuphunzira kuzigwiritsa ntchito bwino, ndiye kuti umunthu udzachitika zomwe zinachitika kwa am'mimba.