"Mwachikondi, akazi ndi akatswiri, ndipo amuna ndi okonda. Amafuna-monga, amafuna - ayi! "- anatero mtolankhani wina wa ku France dzina lake Francois Truffaut. Titha kungoganiza: tithandizeni amuna, tilenge maonekedwe a chikondi kapena sitingathe kumverera. Kufikira nzeru ndi kulingalira za kuthekera kwa amuna kukonda kungakhale mpaka nkhaniyo isakhudze mtima wake. Koma zikafika kwa munthu yemwe amachititsa mtima wanu kumenya mofulumira, sitingathe kudziwa bwinobwino. Koma simukufuna kukhala ndi ziwonetsero ndi kumanga nyumba zopanda nyumba.
Bweretsani mwamuna wanu kumadzi ndikupeza ngati akukukondani kapena ayi, yesero losavuta lidzakuthandizani. Zimapangidwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo komanso zotsatira zake zili ndi ndondomeko. Dziwani zoona za zomwe mwamuna wanu akumva mwa kutsatira malangizo awa:
- Yankhani moona mtima mafunso a chiyesocho, posankha zomwe mwasankha zomwe zikufotokozera bwino chiyanjano chanu.
- Lembani nambala ya funso ndi kusiyana kwa yankho lanu pa pepala.
- Gwiritsani ntchito tebulo ili m'munsi kuti muwerenge zomwe mumapeza ndikupeza zotsatirapo mwazowerengera zanu.
Mafunso oyesa
- Ndani mwa banja lanu omwe amasankha bwino kwambiri?
A. Inu nonse mukukambirana ndi kupanga zosankha zofunika pamodzi. Mawu otsiriza nthawizonse amasiyidwa kwa mwamuna.
Mu . Zosankha zazikulu nthawi zambiri zimapangidwa ndi inu.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amachitanji pazochita zanu, mapambano, kupambana?
A. Nthawi zambiri munthu amangokhala chete, ndipo zomwe amamva zimakhala zovuta kumvetsa.
B. Sakufuna kuzindikira zotsatira zanu ndikuyesera kuwatsutsa ndi kutsutsa.
Mu . Nthawi zonse amakondwera ndi chigonjetso chanu chonse ndipo samatsamira pamtamando.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amakukondani moona mtima?
A. Iye sali wachikondi chokhazikika. Mukuganiza kuti ali ndi ubale wofanana.
B. Mukutsimikiza kuti zinthu zonse zachikondi za munthu wanu zili kale kwambiri. Palibe amene amafunikira iye kupatula iwe.
Mu . Mwamuna sangakhoze kuiwala chikondi chake chotsiriza.
- Ngati muli ndi maganizo oipa kapena mumamva chisoni, kodi munthu wanu amachita chiyani?
A. Munthu amakwiya ndi matenda anu, ndipo saona kuti ndi kofunika kuti asamapse mtima, kukwiyitsa kapena mkwiyo.
B. Kumvetsetsa kumatanthauzira kumverera kwanu, kumakhala kochepetsetsa komanso kosavuta.
B. Nthawi zambiri nthawi zoterezi, sungani kutali, kuyesa kusasokoneza mazunzo anu, ndipo sayesa kusokoneza thanzi lanu mwanjira iliyonse.
- Kodi mungathetse bwanji mavuto azachuma mu ubale wanu?
A. Mukufika mosavuta mgwirizanowo pokambirana za ndalama zomwe zikubwera.
B. Nthaŵi zambiri mumakangana pa zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kufunika kodula.
Mu . Mwamunayu akukutsutsani za kuwonjezereka komanso kusakhoza kuyendetsa bwino ndalama.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amachitira bwanji abwenzi anu ndi achibale anu?
A. Mzimu sumalekerera abwenzi anu, abwenzi kapena achibale anu.
B. Amakonda mukakusonkhanitsa anzanu, mabwenzi anu. Amakonda kulankhula ndi anthu pafupi ndi inu.
Mu . Mwamunthu amalekerera ndi malo anu oyandikana nawo, koma chisangalalo chapadera polankhula nawo sichimverera.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amalemekeza malo anu enieni?
A. Mwamuna ndi wotsimikiza kuti ali ndi ufulu wowononga gawo lanu. Amatsegula masamba anu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, amayang'ana kudzera pa foni, amawerenga makalata.
B. Malo anu enieni ndi kachisi yemwe sangaswe popanda chilolezo chanu.
Mu . Iye akukhudzidwa ndi chidwi ndi zochitika zanu, ndipo nthawi zina amakufunsani kuti mumusonyeze zomwe mukuganiza kuti sizikumukhudza.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amamva bwanji akamagwira ntchito kunyumba?
A. Amaganiza kuti ntchito zapakhomo zimakhala za akazi okhaokha.
B. Kumvetsetsa zovuta zonse za ntchito ya kusukulu ndipo ndi wokonzeka kukuthandizani kukwaniritsa ntchito iliyonse yapakhomo.
Mu . Mapewa amphamvu kwambiri amagawira ntchito yaikulu yachuma.
- Kodi mwamuna wanu amadziwonetsera bwanji pa chibwenzi?
A. Mwamunayo ndi wodzikonda. Chikondwerero chake chimabwera nthawi zonse.
B. Kwa munthu, zosangalatsa zanu ndi zofunikira kuposa zake.
Mu . Mwamuna amachoka pa zolaula zanu, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala wokonzeka kukukondweretsani popanda kuumirira kuti akwaniritse.
- Ndi machitidwe ati omwe amachititsa munthu wanu kusankha pakati pa amai ena?
A. Kulikonse kumene munthu angawoneke, iye ndi wolimba mtima ndipo amakondweretsa akazi onse.
B. Mwamunayo si wokongola basi. Amakhala ngati munthu weniweni wamwamuna.
Mu . Mwamunayo amatseka, amasiya, ndipo, kawirikawiri, amayesetsa kupeŵa makampani a akazi.
Zotsatira za mayesero
Kuyambira 46 mpaka 60 mfundo. Inu mukhoza kokha kaduka. Mwamuna wanu amakukondani mopanda malire, moona mtima ndi mokhulupirika. Amuna ena ayenera kutengera kalasi yayikulu kuchokera kwa iye. Ngati mumadziwanso momwe mungamukondere, ndi nthawi yolemba nthano za ubale wanu, kulemba ma buku, kulemba nyimbo ndi kupanga mafilimu. Samalani chikondi ichi. Ndizovuta kwambiri.
Kuchokera pa mfundo 31 mpaka 47. Mwamuna wanu amakukondani. Mwina ndi chikondi chake, osati modzikonda monga momwe mungafunire, koma amayamikira ubale wanu kwambiri. Ngati mumalota kuti amakukondani kwambiri, onetsani chitsanzo chanu momwe muyenera kukondera: moona mtima, popanda kuumirira kuti mutenge nawo, popanda kudzinenera ndi kufunsa. Chikondi basi. Zimakhala zokondweretsa kwambiri ndipo zimachititsa kuti munthu amve bwino.
Kuyambira pa 24 mpaka 30. Kumverera kuti munthu akumverera chifukwa cha iwe ndi kovuta kutcha chikondi. Mwinamwake, zochitika zina zimangomusunga iye pafupi. Chiyanjano chanu chimafuna kufufuza mwamsanga. Ndipo musanayambe kufunafuna chifukwa mwa mwamuna, ganiziraninso zoyenera zanu ndikudziyankha nokha: Kodi mumadzikonda nokha? Ngati yankho liri lothandiza, ndipo simukudziwa, muthamangitse ngakhale kuti munthuyu ndi theka lanu.
Zolemba zosakwana 24. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwamuna amakukondani, ndiye amakuda bwanji? Ali ndi chikondi choposa TV kuposa inu. Imaiyani. Siyani! Kuthamangitsani! Perekani kwa bwenzi lanu lapamtima! Chitani pakali pano chomwe chingakupulumutseni ku manyazi, kupweteka ndi chisoni chomwe "chikondi" ichi chikubweretsa nacho. Munthu uyu sali woyenera iwe!