M'maganizo a mkazi aliyense amasungidwa "nthano yamatsenga." Timatengera mkaka wake ndi mkaka wa amayi, momwe "chiphunzitso cha chipatso "chi chimakhazikitsanso, ndipo paunyamata timayamba kugawanitsa dziko mu maufumu, akazi ku mafumukazi ndi mfiti zoipa, ndi amuna kwa akalonga ndi opemphapempha. Kwa ife, ndithudi, ife timapereka udindo wa wokongola kwambiri wamkazi, yemwe chikondi chake makamu ndi opemphapempha ndi akalonga amenyana, koma kulumikiza kwa moyo ndi thupi kudzalandira woyenera kwambiri woyenera. Ndipo pambuyo pa ukwati wachifumu wokongola, kalonga ndi mfumukazi adzakhala moyo wautali ndi mokondwa, monga mwa nkhaniyi. Koma kodi pali nkhani yamatsenga pambuyo pa mwambo?
Mwamwayi, palibe ndondomeko yamatsenga yomwe inalembedwa kuti banja lokondweretsa mkwatibwi linatha kukhala "lalitali ndi losangalala" ndi "kufa tsiku limodzi." Iwo samanena momwe okonda anagonjetsera mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, mavuto a m'banja, momwe iwo amatetezera chikondi chawo chifukwa cha nsanje, kudzikonda ndi mkwiyo. Ngakhale, ndi chiyani chomwe chimachita tchimo pa nkhani zamatsenga? Sitinaphunzitsidwe izi zowonjezera zowona. Makolo, sukulu, kapena anthu samasamala kuti, tikamakula, timachoka malingaliro osangalatsa kumene ayenera kukhala - ali mwana. Ndipo kulenga banja, motsogoleredwa ndi chidziwitso cha maganizo a amuna ndi akazi, iwo amadziwa kukhululukira ndi kupempha chikhululukiro, kufunafuna kuyanjana ndi kupeza kumvetsetsa. Iyi ndi njira yopita ku ubale wanzeru ndi chikondi chokhwima. Kotero ndikuti ndikuti kuti ndiyambe kumanga maubwenzi, kotero kuti ali amphamvu ndi moyo?Iwo anamanga, anamanga ndipo pomaliza anamanga!
Maziko a ubale uliwonse - maziko olimba, omwe amaikidwa pachiyambi cha chikondi. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe izo zimamvekera mwano ndi wopanda tsankhu, koma chikondi chimakhala chiwerengero chokhwima. Momwemo, monga pomanga nyumba, payenera kukhala ndondomeko yoyenera, mapangidwe ndi zojambula. Ndizodzitukumula kwambiri kukhulupirira kuti chinthu chachikulu m'chikondi ndikumverera, zina zonse zidzawonjezedwa. Adzalumikizidwa, koma pokhapokha ngati atakhala. Ndipo sizongoganizira zokhazokha. Zidzakhalanso zolimba ngati maziko a chikondi ndi kulemekeza malamulo a dziko la mkati mwa munthu, zomwe amavomereza ndikudalira, ndi chilakolako chosayika malamulo ake, koma kugwirizana pa mgwirizano wopindulitsa. Inde, inde! Kugwirizana! Chifukwa chikondi ndi ntchito. Zovuta, koma zokondweretsa komanso zopindulitsa. Inde, mawu oti "mgwirizano", "phindu", "mgwirizano" adula makutu a okonda. Koma popanda iwo, palibe paliponse, ngati cholinga chake ndi kumanga ubale wa nthawi yaitali ndi wachimwemwe. Nanga ndi omanga bwanji chikondi chaukwati? Ndiko kulondola, ayi! Omanga zidakwa ndi omanga owopsa. Okonda sakaganizira za maziko a nyumba yawo, okhala ndi zida ndi mauthenga. Iwo, pakumverera kosasunthika, akumanga makoma a konkire kuchokera ku ziyembekezo ndi nthano, malumbiro mu chikondi chosatha ndi malonjezano a swan. Ndipo pamene kumverera kosalimba sikulimbana ndi katundu wotere, iwo amadabwa kwambiri: bwanji makoma akugwa? Fufuzani olakwa. Ndipo omanga ali ndi mlandu, ndipo onse awiri nthawi yomweyo. Choncho, musanayambe kulenga banja, tengani vuto kuti mutsirize "bungwe lakumanga banja".Kodi mungayambe bwanji kumanga ubale?
- Kuphunzira kuvomereza. Pa gawo loyamba la maubwenzi, nkofunika kumvetsetsa kuti ndife anthu onse - kuchokera kwa anthu, maimidwe, mitsempha ndi mahomoni. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala yekha, popanda kuphwanya ufulu ndi kumasuka kwa wokondedwa. Musalole kuti wina ndi mnzake asadzipangire ndipo asavale maski. Dziwani zofooka zanu ndi zofooka zanu, koma muzisankha kuti zikhale nazo. Ndipo kuti mumvetse ngati mungathe kukonda zolemba zake, yesani yesero. Gawani pepala pagawo, mbali imodzi, lembani makhalidwe onse omwe amukwiyitsa munthuyo, ndipo pamzake - zomwe mumamukonda. Yerekezerani ndi zipilala ziwiri, ndipo muyankhe moona mtima: kodi mwakonzeka kulandira minuses yake chifukwa cha kuphatikiza? Ganizirani zomwe mungasinthe. Koma osati mwa wokondedwa, koma mwa inu nokha. Ndipotu, pokhapokha ngati mankhwala osakanizidwa a mankhwala opuma amatha kukukhumudwitsani, ndipo simudzangoganizira nazo, zidzasokonezedwa ndi zozizwitsa zokha. Amuna akhoza kusintha popanda chiwonongeko.
- Phunzirani kukambirana. Yambani mgwirizano ndi mgwirizano ndi mtundu wanji wa mikwingwirima yothamanga mu khalidwe la wina ndi mzake ndibwino kudutsa, kudikira kapena kusamvetsera. Pachifukwa ichi, poyendetsa chikho cha tiyi kapena khofi, tumizani wina ndi mzake za zida zanu ndi "maphwando". Ndipo lembani bwino - mu ndodo imodzi, zomwe mumakonda kuchita, mzake, ndiye zomwe zimakhumudwitsa. Lankhulani popanda zodandaula ndi mawu owoneka. Ndipo kwenikweni. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndimakonda mukandipsompsona mu spout ndikuitcha mbewa." Kapena mosiyana: "Sindimakonda kukhala slobbered ndipo amatchedwa mayina a nyama zazing'ono." Vomerezani kuti simungakhumudwitse ngati mndandanda ukuwonekera zomwe mwinamwake zanenedwa kale kale: "Sindimakonda kukacheza ndi anzanu. Izo zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti iwo sali odzipereka. Chonde, chonde, popanda ine. " Ntchito yaikulu ndikulowetsa muyeso wa kudziwonetsera, kukhala woona mtima ndi kuvomereza choonadi.
- Phunzirani kudalira. Palibe chifukwa mu ubale ngati palibe kukhulupirira mwa iwo. Musati muike "njerwa" iyi mu maziko a chikondi chanu, simungathe kumanga ubale wamphamvu umene sumawonongeka chifukwa cha nsanje, kaduka ndi miseche. Kumbukirani! Chilolezo cha munthu kuti azikhala ndi inu kapena sitampu mu pasipoti yake sikumakupangitsani kukhala yanu. Mufunseni chithandizo musanayang'ane matumba ake musanayambe kutsuka, mukugwira ntchito pa kompyuta kapena mukuimbira foni yake. Kotero inu simukungosonyeza kulemekeza malo ake okha, komanso kusonyeza chitsanzo cha momwe muyenera kulemekeza gawo lanu. Ngati mukuganiza kuti maulendo angakuthandizeni kudziwa bwino zolinga za munthu wanu, mukulakwitsa. Palibenso munthu amene akufuna "nashodit," sangathe kuphimba mwaluso njira zake. Ndipo ngakhale kamodzi atakugwira iwe pa mthunzi, iwe sudzadalira konse.
- Phunzirani kukhazikitsa miyambo. Ubale uliwonse ndi miyambo ndi miyambo yolimba. Timakondanso kubwera kwa makolo athu, kumene banja lonse limasonkhana Lamlungu masana ndi mbale ya amayi. Kapena Lachisanu lirilonse, banja lonse litengera ana ku dziwe, zoo kapena pizzeria. Mabanja amphamvu ali ndi miyambo yawo, ndipo izi zimawapangitsa kukhala ogwirizana ndi ogwirizana. Lolani ndipo mudzakhala ndi miyambo ya banja. Pitani mwezi uliwonse kupita ku kanema, kukonzekera mapikiniki achikhalidwe mu chikhalidwe ndi disco, kusonkhanitsa masiku ena ndi abwenzi ndikusewera nawo mu "Chiwonetsero". Kapena zikhale zikhalidwe zanu zazing'ono zomwe zingakuthandizeni kudziwana. Mwachitsanzo, konzani sabata la chiyamiko, sabata lakupatsa, sabata popanda madandaulo, ndi zina zotero. Mulole kuti likhale sabata la dziko lina. Masiku asanu ndi awiri, sungani mawu osangalatsa kuchokera ku lilime lake kapena mukonzeke mbale 7 zakutchire kuchokera kukhitchini yake. Khalani okonzeka ndikupanga ubale wanu kukhala wosangalatsa ndi wolimba.