Kudzidalira ndizo khalidwe lomwe ambiri mwaife timasowa. Makamaka amai omwe, malinga ndi kafukufuku wamaganizo, amakopeka ndi chisonkhezero choipa cha kutsutsidwa kuchokera kunja ndi kudziimira okha kuposa amuna. Momwe mungakhalire wodzidalira nokha, dzipangeni nokha kudzikonda nokha, werengani m'nkhani yathu ya lero.
Mzere wabwino: kodi chidaliro ndi kudzidalira ndi chiyani?
Musanayambe malangizo othandiza, muyenera kumvetsetsa - kudzidalira. Mu psychology, lingaliro la chidaliro limawonekera kuchokera pa khalidwe laumwini ndipo limatanthauzira kuyang'ana bwino kwa luso lake ndi luso lake. Chidaliro chimayamba kupanga ubwana, pamene mwanayo ayamba kuyerekezera zochepa zomwe wapindula nazo ndikukhutira ndi khalidwe. Ngati panthawiyi makolo ndi chilengedwe cha mwanayo amamuthandiza, akusangalala ndi kutamandidwa, ndiye mwanayo amakula ndi mphamvu zake. Choncho, kutsutsidwa, makamaka mwakhama komanso mopanda ulemu, ndi kusowa chithandizo kumapangitsa njira zamakono komanso kusakhulupirira mwa iwo okha.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, kutamandidwa kosamveka komanso chisamaliro chokwanira ndizoopsa pakupanga umunthu wa mwanayo, monga kudandaula kwambiri ndi kuuma. Kutamanda kwa nthawi ndi nthawi ndi matamando popanda chifukwa kumakhala chifukwa choyesa kudziyesa kwayeso, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti akhale ndi makhalidwe monga kudzidalira ndi kudzikuza. Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa chidaliro ndi kudzidalira ndiko kuchuluka kwakwanira kuyesa mphamvu zanu ndi mapindu anu. Munthu wodalirika amatha kuzindikira bwino luso lawo ndi ntchito zawo kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo. Munthu wodzidalira sangakwanitse kuchita izi: Alibe kudzudzula, samawona zoopseza, nthawi zambiri zoopsa popanda zofunikira. Ponena za anthu odzidalira nthawi zambiri amauzidwa kuti zilakolako zawo zimakhala zochepa kwambiri ndipo amadzikweza okha kumalo ozunguza. Monga lamulo, kudzidalira ndizolakwika za maphunziro, ndipo pokhapokha zida za khalidwe.
Kotero, kudzidalira ndiko maziko a khalidwe loyenera laumunthu, lonjezo la kupambana ndi kupambana kwa zomwe apindula. Kudzidalira kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi lingaliro lina lalingaliro - kudzidalira, komwe kumatanthawuza lingaliro laumunthu la kufunikira kwawo, zoyenera zawo ndi zofooka zawo. Kudzidalira mopambanitsa kumaphatikizapo kudzidalira kwambiri, ndipo kumatsitsimutsa, motero, wodziwika kuti ndi wosatetezeka mu luso lawo. Choyenera - kudzidalira kokwanira, pamene munthu akudzidalira yekha, ndipo pambuyo pa chidaliro chimenechi sizithumba zopanda pake, koma zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri payekha ndi makhalidwe ake.
Zifukwa zazikulu zokhala ndi kukayikira
Cholinga chachikulu, koma kutali ndi chifukwa chokha chokhalira osadzidalira, tazitchula kale pamwamba pake ndizo zikhalidwe za kulera ndi ubale wosayenera m'banja. Koma ngati banja ndilolokha lokhazikitsa, sizingatheke kuti mbiri yakale imadziwa zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri za anthu opambana kuchokera ku mabanja osayenera amene, amati, "adzipanga okha". Zitsanzo zomwezo ndi umboni weniweni wakuti zinthu zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa kusatetezeka zili mwa ife eni. Kodi n'chiyani chimayambitsa mfundo izi?
Kusadziwa kwanga kweni "Ine"
Choyamba, kudzidzimva nokha ndi kusadzidzimva nokha. Kuti timvetse zomwe zili pangozi tidzakupatsani chitsanzo chophweka. Tonsefe tikukhala mu ntchito ya maudindo ambiri omwe timadzizindikiritsa tokha. Kwa amai, maudindo ambiri nthawi zambiri amakhala: Mwana wamkazi, Mkazi, Sukulu, Mkazi, Wophunzira, Wokondedwa, Mkazi, Wothandizana Naye, Mayi, Amayi, Amayi ... Malinga ndi moyo ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri, dongosolo, chiwerengero ndi ntchito za maudindowa zikhoza kusiyana. Koma chofunikacho chimakhala chimodzimodzi: timadziwika kuti timadziwika tokha ndi maudindo athu onse ndipo sitikudziwa chomwe chiri kumbuyo masks awa. Koma ngati mutaya makonzedwe onse ndi makanema, ndiye kuti pali "wamaliseche" ine, kukhalapo komwe timakonda kuiwala kawirikawiri. Choncho, ngati mkazi wadzidziwitsa yekha, mwachitsanzo, ndi mphamvu yake komanso udindo wake, ndiye kuti kudzidalira kwake kudzatha pamene ataya bizinesi yake. Zomwezo zikuyembekezeranso ndipo mayi, yemwe amasungunuka kwathunthu mwa ana ake ndi moyo wake, amakhala ndi zosowa za ana komanso zosowa zawo. Ana akangokula, mkazi wotero amasiya kudzidalira ndipo amasiya kusangalala ndi moyo.
Kupanda cholinga chenicheni cha moyo
Chachiwiri, kudzidalira makamaka kumadalira kudziwa bwino za tanthauzo la moyo wanu. Kubwereranso ku chitsanzo cha amayi, zikhoza kunenedwa kuti ana akulu amaletsa amayi a chinthu chachikulu mu moyo wake - kuwasamalira. Szosadabwitsa kuti pokhala ndi moyo zaka zambiri ndikutsimikiza kuti ana ali tanthauzo la kukhalapo, mkazi watayika ndipo sakudziwa momwe angapitirire. Iye sakhala wotetezeka, kuti amatha kudzizindikira yekha mu njira ina ndipo sakudziwa momwe angapitirire. Chotsani zolinga zanu, kukhalapo kwa ndondomeko ya moyo kuphatikiza ndi kudzidziwitsa kumathandiza kupewa cholakwika ichi.
Kulephera kunena "Ayi"
Ndipo, chachitatu, iwo omwe sakudziwa kufotokoza momveka bwino malire awo ndi omwe amakhala nawo pafupi nthawi zambiri amavutika ndi kusatetezeka. Ngati kuli kovuta kunena "Ayi" kwa munthu yemwe sakumvetserani, kapena nthawi zambiri mumamugwiritsira ntchito mokoma mtima, ndiye kuti mumadalira kwambiri maganizo a ena. Ndi kudalira uku kumene kumachititsa kudzikayikira. Azimayi, chifukwa cha zenizeni za maganizo awo, amatsimikiziridwa ndi "kuyanjana" ndi ena. Chitsanzo chodziwikiratu ndi kudzizindikiritsa nokha ndi khanda m'zaka zoyambirira za moyo wake. Kugwirizana koteroko ndi njira yachilengedwe yomwe imathandiza kuti mwana apulumuke. Muzochitika zina zonse, kusowa kwa malire omveka bwino kumabweretsa kusintha kwa maganizo a munthu ndi chisokonezo chake. Kotero, ndithudi, sipangakhale nkhani iliyonse yodzidalira.
Momwe mungakhalire ndi chidaliro kwa mkazi wamphamvu: Malangizo othandiza
Tiyeni tifotokoze mwatsatanetsatane chinthu chimodzi chofunika kwambiri: kupanga kapangidwe kumatenga nthawi ndikudzigwira ntchito. Musanayambe kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro athu, dziwani nthawi yoti mukwaniritse zotsatira zomwe mukufuna. Ayenera kukhalanso enieni, sipangakhale zoyenera "kukhala odzidalira pa sabata". Ndifunikanso kulingalira momveka bwino lomwe lingaliro lanu la "zowona" zidzaphatikizapo. Ndibwino kuti alembetse mndandanda wa makhalidwe omwe mukuganiza kuti mkazi wamphamvu ndi wolimba omwe mukufuna kukhala nawo. Mndandandanda ndi mawuwo sikudzakuthandizani kuti mudziwe nokha, koma mutha kukhazikitsa zolinga zanu. Monga akunenera, njovu iyenera kudyedwa pa magawo.
Kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti mukwaniritse ntchitoyi, timapereka mndandanda wa makhalidwe omwe, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, anthu omwe ali ndi chidaliro. Mungathe kutenga izo monga maziko ndi kuwonjezera ndi zinthu zanu. Choncho, mkazi wodalirika ndi wosiyana:
- zolinga
- adzakhala wamphamvu
- kusagwirizana
- kutsimikiza
- luso
- maganizo abwino
- tsitsani malire anu
- kudzifufuza bwinobwino
- maganizo otsutsa
- kumvetsa zosowa zawo
- luso lolamulira maganizo anu
- kuzindikira za zofooka zawo
- mkulu wogwira ntchito
- chilakolako chodzikwaniritsa
Atatulutsa mndandanda wamakhalidwe anu, yesani ndikuyika chizindikiro chachitsulo pafupi ndi zinthu zomwe mukugwirizana nazo pakanthawi. Makhalidwe osayenerera adzakhala malingaliro anu apakati, omwe mudzaphunzire pang'onopang'ono.
Ponena za nthawi, nthawi zambiri, munthu amatenga pafupifupi chaka kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zowonjezera payekha. Choncho, nkofunika kukhala woleza mtima ndikuyamba kupita patsogolo pa cholinga.
Momwe mungakhalire ndi chidaliro ndikudzidalira nokha: machitidwe abwino kwambiri
Choncho, pofotokozera ndondomekoyi, muyenera kupitabe patsogolo. Thandizo muzochita zathu zapadera zapadera zomwe zimalimbikitsa kuchita zofooka zanu.
Nenani: "Imani!"
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukukumana ndi malire osadziwika bwino, ndiye kuti muyenera kugwira ntchito kuti muteteze zofuna zanu. Chothandiza kwambiri pankhani imeneyi ndi ntchito yotchedwa "Stop": nthawi iliyonse munthu wina wa achibale anu, abwenzi kapena anzanu akukufunsani ntchito ina yomwe imathandiza zokhuza zanu, mumuzeni momveka bwino "Ayi". Poyambira, mukhoza kuchita pamaso pa galasi kapena ndi mnzanu, mutayika zofanana ndizo. Phunzirani kukana mwamphamvu, koma mwakachetechete, motsogoleredwa ndi luntha, osati malingaliro. Ndipo pamene inu mukutsimikiza za ufulu wanu ku 100%. Zochita zapadera zofananazi zingapezeke pa khalidwe lirilonse kuchokera mndandanda wanu wodalirika, umene muyenera kugwira ntchito.
Ganizirani nokha ngati fano la mkazi wopambana
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kutsanzira kupambana kunja kumathandiza kwambiri kumanga kudzidalira. Ndizochitika za makhalidwe abwino omwe ali ndi anthu opambana komanso odalirika. Dzifunseni nokha miyezo ya mkazi wamphamvu, wodalirika. Ikhoza kukhala wotchuka, bwenzi lanu kapena chithunzi chachinyengo chanu. Yang'anirani khalidwe labwino lanu: onani m'mene amalankhulira, momwe amachitira zinthu zovuta, momwe amathetsera mavuto. Zofunikira ndi mawonetseredwe akunja, monga chitsanzo, kavalidwe, nkhope ndi manja. Pambuyo pofufuza deta, yesani kutenga zina mwa izo. Mwachitsanzo, zabwino kwambiri pakupanga chikhulupiliro zimakhudza chikhalidwe choyenera. Phunzirani kusungira msana wanu molunjika, musadandaule komanso musagwedezeke. Pangani galasi lanu molimba mtima pagalasi kapena ndi mutu wanu.
Dzikondeni nokha
Koma chinthu chachikulu ndicho kudzikonda nokha. Mkazi wodalirika amalemekeza nthawi zonse ndikudziyamikira yekha ndi thupi lake. Ali ndi gawo lodzudzula yekha, koma izi sizimulepheretsa kudzikonda yekha ndikudzipangabe yekha. Choyamba, dziwani "mipata" mu umunthu wanu yomwe imakulepheretsani kudzikonda nokha. Ngati izi ndi zinthu zakunja monga kilogalamu yosavuta kapena khungu, yesetsani kuwachotsa kamodzi kokha. Ngati zifukwazo ndi zovuta kwambiri, ndiye mwachitsanzo, kwa wodwala maganizo yemwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi "zolakwika". Musaiwale zazinthu zamkati mwanu, monga, mphamvu, ndi zolinga - onetsetsani kuti muzizigwiritsira ntchito kuti mupindule.
Tsopano inu mukudziwa momwe mungakwezere kudzidalira kwanu ndi kukhala odzidalira nokha. Yambani njira yanu yodalirika lero ndipo posachedwa mudzawona zotsatira zabwino zoyambirira!