Zikuwoneka kuti kusudzulana ndi nkhani yamba ya tsiku ndi tsiku, yomwe yakhala yachikhalidwe kwa anthu amasiku ano. Koma izi ndizomwe zili ngati funso la kusudzulana kwa wina, lomwe silikupweteka, silikutuluka mkati ndipo silikupangitsani kulira usiku pa mwezi. Pamene chisudzulo chimagawanika pakati pa banja lawo, chimabweretsa chiphuphu komanso mapeto a dziko lapansi. Zimakhala zovuta kukhulupirira kuti pambuyo pa chisudzulo pali moyo umene muli malo osangalala, chikondi ndi chisangalalo chachikazi. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti alipo. Komanso, ngakhale vuto lolekanitsidwa kwambiri lingathe kukhala ndi zotsatira zochepa zothandizira psyche, komanso ubale ndi mwamuna wakale - kubweretsa ubwenzi, kapena osasintha kumalo omenyera nkhondo ndi anthu ambiri ozunzidwa. Kusavuta kupulumuka kusudzulana kudzakuthandizira malangizo khumi ophweka, koma othandiza kuchokera kwa otsogolera maganizo:
Mfundo 1. Dziwani ndikuvomereza chisudzulo. Pambuyo pa nthawi yayitali ya moyo wa banja zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza ngakhale mau akuti "kusudzulana". Koma ngati yayamba, iyenera kuzindikiridwa, kutchulidwa ndi kuchitapo kanthu. Kukayikira pano kuli kofunika kokha pakuyamba kuyesa "kubwezeretsa" chiyanjano. Ngati chigamulocho chapangidwa, zidziwikiratu kuti zenizeni zenizeni, kumene kusagawanika sikungatheke, komwe kumakhaladi chenicheni. Ndondomeko 2. Tsekani zitseko zonse ndikuwotcha milatho yonse kuti mubwerere. Musakhale ndi chinyengo chakuti maubwenzi angaukitsidwe ngati atayamba kukuonongani. Tengani mwatsatanetsatane ndikudzipezera nokha chimwemwe chatsopano ndi munthu watsopano. Chotsani njira iliyonse yoti mupite kuti musayesedwe kulowa mumtsinje womwewo kachiwiri.
Bungwe 3. Tsatirani malingaliro: "Maso samapenya - mtima samapweteka." Kukhumudwa, kukwiyitsa komanso kudana ndi mwamuna wake pa chisudzulo komanso kumbuyo kwake kuli kovuta. Koma ndi bwino kuchita izi popanda kuyesa chiwonongeko ndi chiwonongeko. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino pakati pa mtsogolo, ngati kuli kotheka kuchepetsa kukhudzana ndi mnzanuyo. Zosangalatsa sizingakhale zopanda nzeru. Pamene mzimu umapweteka, ndi kosavuta kunena ndi kuchita zomwe mungadandaule moyo wanu wonse.
Ndondomeko 4. Perekani njira yopita kumtima. Musamadzipweteke nokha. Muloleni iye apite kunja: kufuula, kulira, kumenya mbale. Zikhale bwino kuti ukhale utumiki waukwati, osati mutu wa mwamuna wako. Chotsani mpata kuti muganizire mkwiyo wanu. Tiyeni tichoke kukhitchini la mnzanu, pa webusaiti yathu pa intaneti, pa amayi anga, pamalandiro a zamaganizo kapena ngakhale m'nkhalango, kumene mitengo ndi mbalame zokha zimamva mkwiyo wanu. Ndiyeno, ndi mtima wozizira ndi nzeru zowonongeka, kambiranani ndi mwamuna wanu maonekedwe a chisudzulo. Ndondomeko 5. Ikani nokha ndi ntchito. Dokotala wabwino si nthawi yokha, komanso amagwira ntchito. Lembani miniti iliyonse ya moyo wanu popanda mwamuna wokhala ndi ntchito yomwe ingakulepheretseni kufooka, pamene mumasangalala kwambiri kuona mtsamiro. Ndipo kotero, mpaka kuganiza kwa kugwa kwa banja kulibe cholinga chachiwiri.
Tipangizo 6. Fufuzani zosangalatsa zatsopano. Kusudzulana kumawombola nthawi yochuluka, yomwe ingathe kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuti igwiritse ntchito maloto akale, omwe sali ofunikira chifukwa cha ntchito za banja. Lowani kuti muvina, pita ku masukulu ophika, phunzirani chinenero chachilendo, pezani laisensi yoyendetsa galimoto kapena mukhale woyendetsa galimoto. Chizoloŵezi chatsopano, chidwi, chizoloŵezi chidzakupatsani gawo lalikulu la chimwemwe, kudzoza ndi kudzizindikira, momwe mungathere mphamvu kuti mupulumuke mutatha chisudzulo. Malangizo 7. Thandizani wina yemwe ali woipitsitsa kuposa inu tsopano. Chisoni chanu chiri chonse, koma kwa inu nokha. Mudziko lozungulira inu pali anthu omwe, mwinamwake, tsopano ali oposa zana kuposa inu. Pezani munthu uyu ndikumupatsa zonse zothandizira. Kuchokera mu mtima, popanda kuyembekezera kuyamikira ndi chitonthozo. Pewani zochitika zake, ndithandizeni kupeza njira yotuluka kapena kumvetsera. Kodi choyipa kwa inu chingakhale chingwe cha moyo kwa munthu wina. Kuthandiza ena, mumachiritsa kupweteka kwanu.
Langizo 8. Musatseke nokha ndipo musaledzere ndi ululu. Kuvutika kumaloledwa kokha ngati ali ndi nthawi. Pamene muvala "kulira" kwa nthawi yayitali ndi mkazi wina yemwe wapita kumoyo wina ndi mkazi wina, izi zimakhala njira yanu ya moyo, yomwe imakula kukhala yachizolowezi. Atangomva misozi, adzifotokozera nokha mu chovala kwa mnzanu wapamtima ndipo adadya njovu za njovu, akuwombera ndi chifundo chopanda chifundo. Mukupita ndi anzanu kupita ku kuwala, pitani ku bowa, kupita kukawedza, kuyenda. Onetsani dzikoli lokha ndipo mudzipatseni mwayi wokakumana ndi anthu atsopano omwe angakondweretsereni. Malangizo 9. Ndikupepesa. Phunzirani kukhululuka. Kukhululukirana, mumathandizira poyamba, chifukwa chakuda ndi chidani zimawononga poyamba. Khululukirani inu mumathandiza kumvetsa kuti munthu aliyense yemwe wabwera mu moyo wanu, mphunzitsi. Ndipo phunziro lovuta kwambiri, ndi lofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Zikomo mwamuna wanu (mu chiyanjano chirichonse, pali chinachake chothokozera) ndipo mulole mu mtendere, musalole kuti muthe kutaya mbiri yake. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akuyeneradi kulangidwa chifukwa cha zochita zake, wolakwira adzapeza, ndipo iyi ndi phunziro lake, karma yake ndi ululu wake.
Bungwe 10. Yatsogolera gulu la akazi okanidwa. Ngati mutha kugawana ndi mwamuna wanu mosavuta, mutagonjetsa onse omwe ali pachiyeso cha chilekano, agawane nawo mwayi wapaderawa ndi amayi omwe akukumana ndi kukhumudwa kogawanika. Kugonjetsedwa kwa mgwirizano wa vuto la chisudzulo kumabweretsa pamodzi ndikulimbitsa, kulimbika kwambiri, kuwongolera. Dzithandizeni nokha ndipo mwakhumudwa mwakumana ndi kugwa kwa banja la amai kuti mumvetse kuti moyo wosangalala pambuyo pa chisudzulo chilipo.