Iye ndi mkazi wodalirika, amadziwa momwe angakhazikitsire zolinga ndi kuzikwaniritsa, dziko limamuzungulira iye ndi zonse zomwe zili mkati mwake zimayesetsa kukwaniritsa miyezo yake yapamwamba. Iye ndi wopambana. Akazi onse akulota kukhala ndi udindo wotero, koma amangofika kwa ife omwe ali ndi maganizo apadera. Ndi mtundu wanji wa psychology wopambana, ndipo kodi mungaphunzire momwe mungapambane, ngati simunawonepo ndalama zotere?
Aliyense amazindikira kuti maganizo a amai ndi osiyana ndi amuna. Ndipo kuthekera kwa kupambana kuchokera pakuganiza kwa psychology kumagawanika molingana ndi chiwerewere. Amuna amaganizira kwambiri zotsatira zake, komanso amayi - pothandizira kukwaniritsa. Choncho njira zosiyana siyana za njira ndi njira zothandizira kupambana. Choncho, ndizomveka kulingalira za chigonjetso cha amai popanda amuna, ndipo njira ya wopambana imasiyana ndi njira ya wopambana. Kodi ndi zofunikira zotani kuti mupambane mkaziyo?
Khulupirirani nokha
Nthawi zonse, osati kupambana mwangozi kungatheke pokhapokha ngati mkazi ali ndi chikhulupiriro cholimba mwa iyemwini ndi umunthu wake wapadera. Wopambana akutsogoleredwa ndi mtima wamkati ndi kutsimikizika kosatsutsika kuti nayenso samafuna kupambana, koma kuchuluka kwa momwe amamupezera kulikonse kumene akuwonekera. Ndipo ichi sichiri chikhulupiliro, koma chidziwitso, chomwe, mosiyana ndi chikhulupiriro, sichitha kukafunsidwa. Wopambana amangopita, ndipo amamutenga iye. Kodi mungakwaniritse bwanji chikhulupiriro chanu? Ndizochita zokha! Mwina poyambirira kudziwa zapadera kungakhale kochokera mwadzidzidzi, mwadzidzidzi, ndikudziwongolera, koma pambuyo pake, malingaliro osakhulupirika pa chigonjetso chatsopano chidzawona zomwe zikuchitika, zofanana ndi malingaliro, kupambana kudzakhala kozolowereka.
Zolinga Zolinga
Zimakhala zovuta kumva ngati wopambana ngati palibe cholinga. Osati maloto kapena zolakalaka, koma zolinga ndi zolinga zowonjezera. Chiyenera kulimbikitsa ndi kulimbikitsa kayendetsedwe kake, chomwe chiri chofunikira kuchotsa chisangalalo kukhala pakali pano "pano ndi tsopano". Chifukwa timakumbukira - mkazi amakhala wokondwa pokhapokha atakhutira ndi kayendetsedwe ka kayendetsedwe kake. Ndipo zotsatira (chigonjetso) ndi mawu chabe a fait accompli, monga zotsatira zosapeŵeka za ntchito yomwe yachitika. Kodi mungapeze bwanji cholinga? Mvetserani ku liwu la moyo, yonjezerani malo otonthoza ndi kutuluka "m'mphepete mwa nyanja" kuti muwone, mumve, mulawe, mukumverera ndikukhudza zatsopano. Moyo udzadziwa cholinga chake ndi kuthamanga pambuyo podumphira, kukopa anthu panjira, zochitika ndi zochitika zomwe zingapangitse kuti apambane.
Tengani kulamulira maganizo
Chimodzi mwa makhalidwe ofunikira a wopambana ndi kuthekera kwa kugonjetsa maganizo kumtima. Maganizo osayendetsedwa ndizowopseza kwambiri ku cholinga. Akazi ndi ovuta kwambiri kukwaniritsa vutoli, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amapanga zisankho, ndikupereka maganizo. Koma chikhalidwe cha amai sichilepheretsa kupambana. Ndipo izi zimatsimikiziridwa mu magawo onse a moyo, kumene akazi amatenga "mtengo wa kanjedza", kusiya anzeru ndi otha kuchoka mosavuta kumverera kwa amuna, kumbuyo. Kodi mungatani kuti mupirire maganizo? Tembenuzani mdani kuti akhale mnzanuyo ndikugwiritsirani ntchito maganizo, monga chitsimikiziro cha choonadi. Kapena ayi, muike "maganizo ochepa". Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala chifaniziro chopanda manyazi. Kusamalira kumatsatira makamaka maganizo omwe ali nawo. Ndizofunikira. Maganizo ndi malingaliro ndi achiwiri, ndipo ndi zotsatira za zotsatira pa zomwe zikuchitika.
Lonjezerani zolemba zanu
Kukhala wopambana mu moyo, ndithudi, sikofunika kukhala ndi madipulo angapo otsimikizira luso lapamwamba la luntha ndi chidziwitso chozama cha chirichonse chiri mdziko. Mwachitsanzo, Coco Chanel analibe chitsimikizo chokhala ndi mwayi wophunzira, koma izi sizinalepheretse mkazi wotchuka wa ku France kuti adziwe kuti ali ndi udindo wochita nawo mibadwo yambiri. Kuti akhale wopambana m'munda wamakono, adathandizidwa ndi mawonekedwe akuluakulu ndi luso lopeza mchizoloŵezi chosazolowereka, mophweka - choyambirira, mwachikhalidwe - chopambana. Kodi mungawone bwanji zosawoneka? Adzaphunzira njira zatsopano, adzilole kuti adziŵe zosadziwika pakali pano ndi zomwe malingaliro ali nazo chidwi. Kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kudzakupatsani mpata wosinthasintha pakupanga zisankho ndi kusintha mosavuta kusintha kwa zinthu popanda chenjezo.
Kulankhulana ndi opambana
Kupambana nthawi zambiri - ndi phindu. Inde, amayi ena ali ndi mwayi wobadwira m'banja ndi "jini" la wopambana. Iwo safunikira kubwezeretsa gudumu kuti adziwe mfundo zagonjetso, chifukwa kupambana kwa psychology pamodzi ndi malo abwino omwe adalandira iwo. Mwamwayi, chiwerengero cha chigonjetso chikhoza kupezeka mwa kupitiriza kudzikonda, kapena "kugwira" bwino kwa omwe akudziwa momwe angakwaniritsire. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kupambana? Awonetseni m'magulu awo oyandikana nawo omwe amaganiza mopitirira malire ndipo ali m'magazi kapena m'maganizo momwemo "geni" lopambana lomweli. Idzagwira ntchito yosokonezeka mpaka kufika pamapeto, koma kuchokera ku nzeru yosagwira ntchitoyi: "Ndi amene mumatsogoleredwa, ndipo inu mudzayimiridwa". M'chikhalidwe cha opambana maloto a kupambana adzafika mofulumira mogwirizana ndi chenicheni.
Kusangalala ndi zolephera
Anthu wamba amadzipereka kuti athe kuchitapo kanthu kuti asangalale. Ogonjetsa amadziwa, ndiye chifukwa cha kulephera kulikonse, pali mwayi wopindula nawo. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, akazi omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi amai, mupeze vuto lililonse lomwe lingagwiritsidwe ntchito kuti likhazikitsidwe ndikupita patsogolo pa cholinga. Mukuchotsa ntchito yanu? Ndi nthawi yoti muyang'ane talente mwa inu nokha yomwe imakulolani kuti mulowe muyeso watsopano wa moyo. Kodi mwamunayo anasiya? Kotero, pali malo kwa munthu watsopano yemwe adzabweretse naye chikondi ndi zowawa, ndi zina zotero. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kuyang'ana kugonjetsedwa ndi zabwino? Ndikofunika kuyamba kuchita pang'ono pokha: kusangalala ndi nyengo yoipa, kupuma m'misewu yamagalimoto, kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yolindira m'maganizo oti musinkhasinkha ndi zina zotero. Kukwanitsa kupeza zolepheretsa zabwino kumapindula mwa kuchita kopanda pake. Chizoloŵezi chowona mipata ya mavuto ndi khalidwe labwino la onse opambana.