Anthu samafuna kukwatira. Anthu akufuna kukwatira nthawi zambiri. Inde, ndi za akazi. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti munthu amangoitana kapu, ndipo mkaziyo adayesa kale pazovala zaukwati ndikuganiza mayina a ana amtsogolo. Pamene chiyanjano chiyamba kukula, zikuwoneka kuti nkhaniyo ndi ya ukwati. Ndipo bwanji! Chifukwa chake, adaitananso tsiku lachiwiri, adapatsa maluwa, adawonetsa malo ake osungiramo ndalama, anakonza chikondi usiku, adazindikira kuti mayiyo anaiwala milandu yake, ndipo adanena kuti akhoza kukatenga nthawi yotsatira? Zikuwoneka kuti mwamunayo ali ndi zolinga zabwino. Koma pano ndi mwezi kapena ziwiri kapena zitatu, ndipo maubwenzi amakhala ndi chikhalidwe chimodzimodzi. Kuwopsya kumayamba kukwera kwa mkazi: kodi mwamunayo amagwirizana kwambiri ndi maubwenzi monga momwe iye ankaganizira? Momwe mungadziwire zolinga zabwino za mwamunayo?
Zizindikiro 8 kuti munthu sali wovuta zokhudzana ndi ubale
Chizindikiro 1. Moyo wake uli ndi chinsinsi
Mwamuna yemwe, kwa miyezi iwiri kapena itatu, amateteza mosamala mbaliyo ya moyo wake yomwe imakhala kunja kwa ubale wanu, ayenera kuchenjeza. Ngati atakhala chete kapena kukamba za ntchito yake, makolo ake, achibale ake, anzake, komanso nkhawa za mafunso anu ponena za izo, mwachiwonekere safuna kugawa malo ake ndi mkazi yemwe sangalole. Mwamuna angakonde nthawi yocheza, kugonana, kukambirana kwambiri, zopatsa zophikira, koma izi sizikutanthauza zolinga zake zakuya.
Chizindikiro 2. Sakudziwitsa anthu ochokera kwa anzanu apamtima
Poyanjana ndi zolinga zazikulu, munthu amayesera kuti asachedwe ndi "akuwombera". Kutsegulira mkazi mu bwalo la okondedwa, akufuna kuwonetsa wokondedwa wake, kupeza chiyanjano kwa iwo omwe sali osamudziwa ndi kusonyeza kufunika kwa zolinga zake. Ngati mwamuna wanu sakufulumira kuuza achibale ake ndi abwenzi ake za kukhalapo kwanu, ndi kuzipempha zanu kuti mukakomane ndi achibale anu mwayankha mobwerezabwereza ndikudyetsa malonjezano, ganizirani. Mwina amachitanso chifukwa amanyazika ndi ubale wanu kapena ali ndi zifukwa zomveka zopewera zomwe mumakhala nazo pamoyo wake. Pankhaniyi, iye alibe malingaliro aakulu pa inu.
Chizindikiro 3. Palibe kupitiriza mu ubale
Mwamuna amene sakonda komanso sakufuna kumanga ubale weniweni, amadzilola yekha kuiwala kuitanira, sangathe kupita pa tsiku, kapena, osati kudzilungamitsa yekha, kunyalanyaza msonkhano ndi inu kuti azicheza nawo ndi abwenzi. Zovuta zilizonse zomwe zimasokoneza wosankhidwa wanu kuchokera kwa inu sizidzakhala zosafunikira kwenikweni, koma pazofunika kwambiri. Kodi n'zotheka kuyembekezera mgwirizano wam'mbuyo ndi wolimba ndi omwe akugwiritsani ntchito ngati malo osungirako malo kapena "malo osungira ndege"? Ngati munthu akuwonekera pa moyo wanu pokhapokha atakhala womasuka, musakhale ndi zonyenga komanso musamawononge nthawi yomwe mungadzipereke kwa munthu yemwe ali woyenerera.
Chizindikiro 4. Samasamala kapena kufunafuna kuthandizira
Chigwirizano cha anthu awiri achikondi chimachokera ku kuthandizana, thandizo, chisamaliro. Ichi ndi maziko omanga banja lonse. Ngati mwamuna wanu wokondedwa sakukondwera ndi mavuto anu a tsiku ndi tsiku ndi amodzi, amatha pamene mumamupempha kuti asamuthandize ndipo musafulumire kutaya nthawi yake kuti athetse mavuto anu - chizindikiro cha kusayanjanitsika chikuwonekera. Malingaliro ake ndi omveka: chifukwa chiyani kuganiza, mphamvu ndi zakuthupi pa mkazi yemwe "akuyenda" kapena kugonana? Ngati izi zinakhalanso zoonekeratu kwa inu, pewani kugwirizana kotereku.
Chizindikiro 5. Amapulumutsira pazimayi ndipo sathandiza ndalama
Amuna ambiri amazindikira kufunika kwawo ndi kusowa kwawo kudzera mu kuthandizira zakuthupi komanso kutenga nawo mbali pa moyo wa mkazi. Chifukwa cha zokhoza zawo, iwo amatenga udindo pazinthu zachuma za chiyanjano. Ngati mwamuna wanu mu chiyanjano ali ndi malo omwe - "timagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zanu, ndiyeno aliyense wa ife", alibe ndalama zothandizira mphatso, ndipo, amakonda, amakhala ndi ndalama zanu, musayembekezere kuti izi ndizanthawi, ndi kuti pamene pali maubwenzi aakulu, ndiye kuti adzakhala ndi ndalama. Izo sizidzatero. Adzakhala ndi inu malinga ngati muli ndi ndalama, kapena atapeza zomwe mungathe kupulumutsa.
Chizindikiro 6. Osasangalatsidwa ndi maganizo a mkazi
Amuna onse amadziona ngati odziimira okha, osafuna malangizo ndi malangizo. Inde, ziyenera kukhala choncho makamaka makamaka pazisankho za amuna. Koma ngakhale pano anthu amafunikira kuthandizidwa ndi malangizo osapindulitsa, othandiza, ngakhale kuti mawu otsiriza amakhala osungidwa nthawi zonse. Nkhani za banja ndi za banja, nkhani ndi mavuto ziyenera kuperekedwa pa zokambirana zokambirana, chifukwa maubwenzi amakhala awiri mwa mmodzi. Ngati munthu yemwe mukukonzekera kupanga banja samakufunsani maganizo anu, amanyalanyaza zosankha zofunika pa ubale wanu kapena amanyengerera mwamphamvu kuyesera kulikonse kuti afotokoze malingaliro anu, osalingalira kuti agwirizanitse moyo nawo. Iye alibe chidwi ndi maganizo anu, ndipo, chifukwa chake, inu nokha simumaimira mtengo wapadera.
Chizindikiro 7. Chimasonyeza kusungunuka ndi kuzizira pakati pa anthu
Amuna ali okonzeka mwachilengedwe kotero kuti mosamalitsa amalingalira mkazi wokondedwa kuti akhale mpikisano mwanjira inayake. Pano, iwo amati, tawonani, ndikuti "wosaka" wanzeru, ndine "chiwongola" chamtengo wapatali chimene ndinachigwira mu intaneti zanga. Adzasonyeza njira zake zonse, chidwi ndi ulemu, makamaka pamaso pa anthu omwe maganizo awo ndi ofunika kwa iye. Ngati mnzanu pamalo ammudzi amapewa kukugwira dzanja, kuyankhulana kapena kuyankhulana, muyenera kuganizira zomwe ziri zoyenera kunyalanyaza izo. Kodi amakukondani? Kapena amakonda, koma osati iwe, woopa kuwonetsa? Kapena mwinamwake amanyazirani inu komanso za ubale wanu, ndiye chifukwa chake akuwopa kuti anthu omwe amamuzungulira adzakayikira kuti ali ndi mtima wapatali kwa inu, zomwe sizingatheke.
Chizindikiro 8. Sichikonzekera tsogolo la mgwirizanowo ndipo sichikamba za ana
Munthu wovuta kwambiri ali ndi zolinga zenizeni safuna kutaya nthawi yake pa ubale wopanda pake. Akufuna kumvetsetsa kale pazigawo zoyambirira za maubwenzi, kuti amakumana ndendende ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe ofanana a banja, ali ndi chikhumbo chokhala ndi ana komanso tsogolo labwino. Mwamuna amatsogolere zokambirana kotero kuti adzipangire yekha nthawi zofunikira izi. Ngati zosankha zanu sizinthu zomwe sizikukambilana ndi mutuwu, komanso mu njira iliyonse yomwe mungapewe kuyesetsa kuti muyambe kumvetsetsa, mutha kukhala otsimikiza - iye kapena inu simukulikonda, kapena alibe chidwi, chifukwa ali ndi zolinga zina za moyo.