Kotero iye anabwera ^ zochitika, mafilimu omwe amapangidwa, kulembera malemba ndi kufalitsa mphekesera. "Ndi wosauka, wosauka! Mwamuna wake akuyenda, koma sakudziwa! "- mumamva kumbuyo kwa mawu achifundo a oyandikana nawo omwe amatsimikiza kuti ndinu wophweka wopatulika amene mwamuna amanyengerera. Ndipo nthawi yayitali simunakhale "kuphweka", komanso kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ali ndi ambuye, chifukwa simuli chinsinsi. Ngakhale, pamene chinali chinsinsi, kunali kosavuta. Chimene simukuchidziwa sichikupezeka. Koma tsopano inu mukudziwa, ndipo, zikutembenuka, kuthana ndi vuto la "kusiya kapena kukhala" ndi zovuta kwambiri kuposa kugwirizanitsa ndi kuzindikira kuti mwamuna wokondedwa akusintha. Kotero pitani kapena mukakhale? Ndipo mwinamwake, komabe, pali njira yopanda kupweteka kuti banja lichotse mbuye wawo, ndipo panthawi imodzimodzi ndi vuto losasintha?
Kujambula nkhondo ndi mbuye wanu
Njira yotereyi ndi, akuti woyenera wa sayansi ya maganizo, wolemba TV, wolemba komanso mkazi wanzeru Larissa Renard. Anapanga njira zake zothandizira kuthetsa mdaniyo ndikubwezerani mkaziyo pachifuwa cha banja malinga ndi ufulu wake. Ntchitoyi inayesedwa ndi amayi ambirimbiri padziko lonse lapansi ndipo ili ndi mayankho abwino komanso othokoza chifukwa choteteza banja. Larissa sakulonjeza kuti kudzakhala kophweka. Monga akunena, to the war as to the war. Zimatengera mphamvu, kuleza mtima ndi nzeru zambiri. Komabe, izi n'zophweka kwambiri kusiyana ndi kusonkhanitsa mtima wosweka ndi kudzidalira.
- Kupulumutsidwa ku zifukwa
Kodi mukukumbukira tsiku limene adapatulidwira mu chinsinsi cha mwamuna wake ndipo adatenga malo ovomerezeka a triangle - mwamuna, mbuye wake ndi inu? Inde, kumbukirani! Ndipo ngakhale tsiku lina iwe udzaiwala mantha, zamkati zamatsutsano ndi kusagwirizana ndi zochitika izi. Larissa Renard akulongosola kuti, monga lamulo, matendawa amatha masiku 3 mpaka 7, ndipo ndi owopsa kwambiri mu "nkhondo" yonseyi, momwe angathere popanda ngakhale kuyambitsa nkhondo. Njirayi ikhale motere:
- Tengani nthawi. Yesetsani kuchoka kwa masiku angapo, pansi pa lingaliro lodziwika bwino, kuchokera ku malo wamba ndi mwamuna wanu - kwa amayi anu, mzanga, ku dacha. Mudzasowa masiku angapo kuti mufuule mokwanira, kukhala opanda manyazi, kudzidandaula nokha osasangalala ndikulola psyche kudzimasula yokha ndi mkwiyo waukulu komanso chiwawa.
- Gwiritsani ntchito mwakhama "Kuseka ndi Misozi." Njira ina kwa theka la ola:
- akulira ndi kulira kwakukulu ndi zifukwa;
- kulowa mu mpumulo;
- kuseka (kuvina, nyimbo zosangalatsa).
Ngakhale kuseka kupyolera mu mphamvu kumatha kumasula kulakalaka kuwononga ndi kuwononga. - Chitani zochitikazo "Kukhalanso ndi mkwiyo." Zindikirani zolakwa zomwe munapanga mu chiyanjano, koma dziwani kuti chifukwa chake si inu nokha. Nthawi zonse onse amakhala akuimba mlandu. Mwamuna amapita kwa wina osati chifukwa chakuti ndi woipa, wopusa kapena wosagonana. Mizu imakhala yozama kwambiri. Tiyeni tiwone. Padakali pano, bwererani ku banja.
- Kuleza mtima kolimbikitsidwa
Ndipo sikumatanthauza mophiphiritsira. Kuti mukhalebe wosamvetsetseka kwa mkazi wachikondi ndi hostess ndi kumvetsetsa kwa mkhalidwewo, zidzatenga mitsempha yachitsulo ndi miyezi 2-3. Panthawi imeneyi, pewani kusankha zochita mwankhanza komanso mwankhanza. Musapite ku mapulogalamu aukazitape ndipo musamayang'ane foni ya mwamuna wanu ndi kumatumiza. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ino kuti musinthe: ulesi m'nyumba, kulawa m'zakudya, kukongola kokha. Musataye mtima ngati zinthu zikukulirakulira ndipo mwamuna wanu "ayamikireni" kutsutsa kwanu. Yankhulani ndi izi osati ndi mkwiyo, koma mosamala. Tembenuzani m'maso ndi makutu. Zosowa zanu zonse zimatanthauza ulemu wa mdani wanu. Tsopano mudzadziwa ndithu chifukwa chake akuthamangira kwa mbuye wake. Ganizirani, kumbukirani ndikuganiza, koma musadzichite nokha. Yesani kukhala opanda tsankho. "Bwanji ngati iye achoka?" - inu mukudandaula. Ayi ndithu. Amuna sali otsimikiza monga mukuganizira. Mabanja abwino, malo, ana, mbiri, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zida zamphamvu. Chinthu chachikulu mu nthawi ino sikuti azichita zamatsenga komanso kuti asamukakamize kuti asonkhanitse zinthu pamtima. Musatembenuzire nyumbayo kumalo omenyera nkhondo. Zimakhala zosavuta kusiya mabwinja ndikupeza malo othawa kwawo othawa kwawo. Ndibwino kuti mupatse "chakudya" chanu pa mutuwu: kodi mumasowa mwamuna wotere? Mwinamwake ndi nthawi yoti muyambe wokondedwa, kapena ngakhale mwamuna wabwinoko? Ngati sichoncho, pitirizani kuvutika, ndikudalira njira yotsimikiziridwa.
- Kusintha
Phatikizani nokha msungwana wokondwa, omwe mudali pa nthawi ya maluwa ndi mchimwene wanu:
- Kutsitsimula. Ndimangoyamikira moona mtima. Aliyense, ngakhale munthu wosayenera, ali ndi luso ndi luso limene mungakonde. Apeze iwo.
- Chonde chonde. Musamuchotsere mwamunthu mwambo wokhala naye bwino: malaya okonzeka, kadzutsa kapenanso mawonedwe ogwirizana a hockey. Pitirizani kumvetsera zosowa zake.
- Kuyamikira. Khalani oyamikira kwa mwamuna wanu. Ziribe kanthu momwe tsogolo lanu latulukira, muli ndi mbiri yapadera, nkhani yanu, yomwe munali chisangalalo chachikulu. Khalani oyamikira pa izo ndipo mukuyamikira pa chirichonse chomwe, ngakhale chikondi chatsopano, chikupitiriza kuchitira banja lanu.
- Mkazi
Amisala onse amatchedwa zinyama. Zili zosadziwika, zonyenga, zosadziletsa, zowonongeka, zakuthupi ndi zofunika. Mwinamwake mwasungira malowa kwa nthawi yaitali mu chiyanjano, koma chizoloŵezi chodziwika bwino chasokoneza, ndipo chikondi chimadya moyo. Muyenera kubwerera ku chiyambi. Khalanso mbuye wa mwamuna wake. Lonjezerani ziyeneretso za chikondi chanu ndikugwira. Phunzirani njira zogonana, kupanikizika minofu yeniyeni, yisonyezani kulenga. Kugonana ndi aluso ndi nangula wamphamvu kwambiri yomwe imasunga anthu. Kuwonjezera apo, mungagwiritse ntchito kuti muwonetsedwe kwa wokondana yemwe "mbuye" weniweni wa mwamuna uyu ndi: kuchoka pa kugonana kumbuyo kwa mwamuna wanu "chizindikiro" mwa maonekedwe. Uzani mwamuna wake kuti mwangozi zinachitika, chifukwa anali wamkulu!
- Mfumukazi
Inu munachita zonse zomwe zinadalira inu. Tsopano, tengani malo olemekezeka ndikumumasula mwamuna wanu. Iye ndi munthu womasuka, koma mumadziyamikira nokha ndi ufulu wanu. Ngati mwamuna akupitiriza kuthamanga "kumanzere" ndiye kuti ndi nthawi yoikidwiratu musanayankhe: iye kapena ine (ana, nyumba, bizinesi, etc.). Mu 95% amilandu, amuna adatsalira mu banja ndi mkazi wosinthidwa. Ngati mwamuna wanu samakhala, mum'masule mumtendere ndipo mupatseni mwayi wokomana naye amene adzakondweretseni.