Izi ndi mafunso omwe kawirikawiri amaifunsa kuti apange chisankho. Tsopano tiyesera kuwayankha.
Pambuyo pa kugonana, chiyanjano chilichonse pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi chikhoza, komanso kupezeka kwawo. Uwu ndiwo moyo ndipo sudziwika kwambiri.
Bwenzi langa linagonana atangomva ndi mnyamata wina, kenako anayamba kukhala pamodzi ndi kubwereka nyumba. Tsopano ndi banja lalikulu okonzekera mwana.
Ndipo mnzanga wakale wa m'kalasi mwatha "usiku wa chikondi" chibwenzi chake chidaperekedwa kuti amukwatire. Mmawa wotsatira iye adamuwuza kale iye kwa makolo ake, ndipo iwo anali kutembenuka ... Kufunsira ntchito, kuyang'ana madiresi ndi zinthu zina zomwe zinali zosangalatsa kwa akazi.
Inde, ndipo ndili ndi chidziwitso pazochitika zoterezi. Ndimakumbukira kuti sindinkafuna kupita kukachezera mmodzi kwa osankhidwa anga, koma patatha mwezi umodzi polankhulana, ndinavomera. Patapita mwezi umodzi pamisonkhano ija tinagonana, ndipo zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri kuti ndinayamba kumva kuchokera kwa iye kuti amandikonda ndipo amafuna kuti ndikhale ndi ana kuchokera kwa ine. Poyamba ndinali ndi nkhawa kwambiri, chifukwa ndinkaganiza kuti ndidakali wamng'ono kuti ndikhale ndi ana, koma ndinamvetsa tanthauzo la mawu ake. Mwanjira ina anandiuza kuti ngati sakonda ine, sitidzakhala ndi kugonana. Iye ndi munthu wauzimu kwambiri ndipo izi zandichititsa ine.
Koma mwatsoka, maanja amatha kusokoneza atatha kugonana. Zifukwa ndi zosiyana kwambiri.
Nthawi zina amayi athu ndi agogo aakazi amanena bwino kuti maubwenzi okula mofulumira akutha msanga. Ndipo wina wa abwenziwo amavutika, ngakhale kuti si thupi, koma mwamakhalidwe! Inde, izi siziri zolondola, koma kuti muzikondana ndi mwamuna, mutatha kugonana mofulumira kudzakhala weniweni, ngakhale chiyanjano ichi chidzafulumira.
Chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana mu ubalewu ndi chifukwa cholephera kapena mantha kulankhulana pa nkhani zakuyankhula, kulankhula za zomwe mumasamala. Tonsefe nthawi zina timaopa kunena kuti timakonda chinachake, koma chinachake sichili. Mwachitsanzo, ndinkakonda kuyankhula ndi chibwenzi changa za maloto anga ali pabedi asanandifunse ndikunditsimikizira zomwe ndinganene - sizili zoopsa kwambiri. Tsopano tili ndi kumvetsetsa kwathunthu, ngakhale kuti sindingabise, sindine mngelo nthawi zonse, koma ndikuganiza kuti amawakonda.
Kulankhula za malingaliro, yesetsani kumvetsetsa nokha poyamba ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zimakulimbikitsani: chilakolako, chikondi, kudzimva, kubwezera, ndi zina. Kugonana ndi mwamuna pambuyo pa kugonana sikovuta kwambiri, koma munthu ayenera kukhala wochenjera kwambiri.
Kawirikawiri amuna amaganiza kuti ngati mtsikana alipo asanakwatirane, ndiye kuti izi ndi chizindikiro cha kulera koipa, ndipo mumusiye. Koma odziwa zamaganizo odziwa bwino amatanthauzira izi mosiyana. Nthawi zina timamanga maubwenzi ogwirizana ndi mfundo ya "chikondi kupyolera mu kugonana," chifukwa timalimbikitsidwa ndi chikhumbo chathupi. Ndipo potsirizira ife sitili pachikondi ndi mnzathu, koma mwachangu! Choncho, poyamba, phunzirani za chibwenzi chanu, ndipo pokhapokha mutenge ubale wapamtima.
Simungayambe kugonana popanda kuwerengera.
Ngati munatero, ndiye kuti muyenera kukumbukira khalidwe labwino pambuyo pa kugonana, makamaka ngati mukufuna kukondana ndi mwamuna. Onetsetsani kuti mupatseni mpumulo ndikudyetsa, chifukwa amagonana ndi mphamvu zambiri. Musaiwale kumuuza kuti anali wokongola. Izi zidzasokoneza maganizo ake. Chikumbumtima bwino ndikudzipangira nokha, monga momwe ziwerengero zimasonyezera, izi ndi zomwe amuna ambiri amafuna. Amakonda ana amafunikira chikondi ndi chisamaliro chomwe akuchiyembekezera mu theka lawo lachiwiri, kotero kuti azikondana ndi mwamuna, atagonana ndikungomusangalatsa. Mayi, komabe, akuyenera kukhalabe woyang'anira nyumba ndi kutentha mu chiyanjano, mwa njira iliyonse kuyesera kumukakamiza ndi kusanena zonse zokhudza iyemwini. Aloleni akuwerengeni ngati buku losangalatsa, ndipo tsiku lililonse amaphunzira chinthu chatsopano. Kotero, iwe udzakhala wosangalatsa kwa iye nthawizonse. Mwamuna wanga kamodzi adandiuza kuti: "Ndakudziwani kwa zaka ziwiri, koma sindinakuganizireni ...". Ine ndikuganiza kuti chinsinsi ichi mwa ine chimamukopa iye.
Mbuye wabwino kwa inu! Lolani ndipo muli ndi mwayi ngati ine!