Anthu ambiri amafuna zosiyana pa kama ndipo usiku umodzi wokongola mumamupempha mnzanuyo kuti akukopeni mowolowa manja, ndipo tsiku lotsatira mupite, "bwerani milomo yanu", ndikudandaula kuti wokondedwa wanu akutsutsa manja ake. Kuti chirichonse chiziyenda bwino kuyambira koyamba, muyenera kumvetsa kuti kugonana kovuta ndi kofunika kwambiri, muyenera kuphunzira zomwe zinachitikira mibadwo yakale, ndiyeno muyese!
Ndipweteketseni ...
Masasokism, sadism .... Ambiri aife timakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika pa mau awa, komanso, amachititsa mabwenzi osasangalala. Munthu wodandaula ndi munthu yemwe amawonekera mwachidwi, amene amanyodola pamimba, ndipo wojambula maso ndi chinthu chosautsika chokhumba.
Komabe, katswiri wofufuza maso ali chinthu chokwanira kuposa momwe aliyense amagwiritsira ntchito kuganiza. Kumbukirani mmene mumadzikonzera nokha kumasula masiku. Kodi zinayamba zakhala zikuchitika kuti antchito adakuyitanani kuti muwonetsetse kuti chakudya chamadzulo ndi chakudya chamadzulo mumadya munthu mmodzi yekha? Makolo adagwedezaninso mitu yawo ndikukutcha kuti sadist. Ndithudi muli ndi abwana ovuta, pokhapokha ngati mulibe ntchito yaulere, koma panyumba inu nokha mukumukakamiza mwanayo kuti musakondwere. Miyoyo yathu yonse timasewera chinthu china, ndiye chachikulu, kotero n'zosadabwitsa kuti ubale monga "mbuye wa akapolo" wabwera kuzipinda zathu.
Kodi BDSM ndi chiyani?
BDSM ndi chiyanjano chomwe chinganene kuti ndimasewero ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Anthu amatha kunena zomwe zili zabwino, koma kwenikweni sizithunzithunzi za kugonana pokhapokha. Mabanja ambiri amanena kuti izi ndizo moyo. Ngati muyang'ana BDSM kuchokera pa malo a chikhalidwe cha anthu, ndiye tikhoza kunena kuti izi ndi chikhalidwe kapena chikhalidwe.
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi BDSM kuchokera ku mitundu yoopsa ya khalidwe, chifukwa onse awiri ndi omasuka kuchita izi, ndipo chiyanjanocho chimachokera pa wokonda yekhayo? Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri sikumakakamiza munthu kuchita zomwe sakufuna kapena zomwe sakudziwa. Anthu ambiri omwe amaganiza za chiwawa amawopa kuti asonyeze maganizo awo. Pambuyo pake, ngati muzindikira kuti simuli ngati wina aliyense, mukhoza kupeza matenda a maganizo, kuvutika maganizo ndi zina zambiri.
Chifukwa cha kafukufuku, anthu omwe amakonda maubwenzi otero akadakali ana adakalipidwa. Inde, ngati mupita kangapo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo, mukhoza kuchotsa malingaliro omwe sapereka nkhaŵa. Mpaka posachedwapa, adadziwika kuti BDSM imatengedwa ngati kusokonezeka kwa mikono ndipo idalimbikitsa kuchiza, mchipatala komanso m'madera apaderadera.
Izi zinali chifukwa chakuti anthu adakhulupirira - onse okondana ayenera kukonzedwa nthawi yomweyo. Komanso, maanja omwe amakonda BDSM ndi abwino kwambiri pambali zina, choncho ammudzi omwe ali "akapolo ndi ambuye" abwezeretsanso anthu ena omwe ali ndi masomphenya osakhalitsa - opereka ndalama, obetcherana ndi zina zotero.
Ndikofunika kuti musamachite mantha kuwonetseredwa kwa kugonana kwanu, musawope kuchita zoyesayesa. Pali lamulo lotero, lomwe limatchedwa Chilamulo cha Angle, likuti-zirizonse zongoganizira zomwe mwasendera, simuli nokha. Mulimonsemo, padzakhalabe munthu mmodzi padziko lapansi amene akufuna zofanana.
Pafupifupi akuluakulu 30%, mosasamala kanthu za zokonda za kugonana ndi amuna, azichita zinthu zina za BDSM. Ndipo mfiti zomwe zimachita zachiwawa zogonana zimayendera pafupifupi munthu aliyense!
Kodi dikishonaleyi imati chiyani?
Dikishonale ina imanena kuti BDSM ikuyimira izi: Bondage ndizoletsedwa ufulu, Chilango ndi maphunziro, Sadism ndi ulamuliro ndipo Maasochism akugonjetsa. Kawirikawiri, mfundo zofunika kwambiri ndi kudzipereka, nzeru ndi chitetezo.
Kusinthana ndi munthu yemwe amasangalala ndi chisangalalo chomwecho kuchokera kumumvera ndi kudziletsa.
Chirichonse chimaganiziridwa
Kuonetsetsa kuti kugonana kovuta sikosautsa, ndikofunikira kugawana zochitika, mwachitsanzo, sudzayamba kugwiritsa ntchito chikwapu kwa mnzanuyo, chifukwa chakuti wakhala akuzunzidwa, monga momwe akuchitira mu filimuyo kapena kuwerenga mu bukhu. Munthu yemwe amalamulira ayenera kukhala ndi zowawa zokhazokha asanayambe kuzigwiritsa ntchito kwa wogonjera. Komanso, mwamuna ndi mkazi amene akufuna zosiyana ndi omwe adaganizira zoyeserazi ayenera kuganizira zochitikazo.
Kodi izi zikutanthauzanji? Izi ndizolembedwa pamapepala, zomwe onse angagwirizane nazo, ndipo muyenera kulemba zochita ndi zikhumbo zomwe mukufuna. Mwachidziwikire, muyenera kufotokozera chirichonse ku tsatanetsatane kwambiri.
Ngati mwalemba pamodzi, nthawi zina sizikuwonekeratu kuti ndi ndani yemwe ndi bwana komanso kapolo wake. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala zoterezi ndizozitayirira za akapolo amphamvu.Ngakhalenso mukakambirana nkhaniyi, mukhala ndi chisangalalo chachikulu, kumbukirani kuti sikofunika kuti mulowe mulembapo malingaliro onse. vasposseti!
Pitani ku sitolo kwa akulu!
Chitsulo. M'nyumba iliyonse pali chidziwitso ichi, koma sizing'ono zonse zoyenera kukwapula. Sizingatheke kugwiritsira ntchito mabotolo okhwima ndi mabotolo ndi mpumulo - kotero mukhoza kudzivulaza nokha kapena mnzanuyo. Ululu ukhoza kuyambanso chifukwa chokwapulidwa, ngakhale kuti zikuwoneka zosavuta.
Nsapato. Mfundo yofunika kwambiri ya BDSM ndi kulekanitsa ndi kumanga ufulu. Mabwana amphamvu sagwiritsanso ntchito manja omwe ali ndi zida zowonongeka ndi za silika, pali zingwe zapadera, zingwe zapadera, makina opangidwa ndi X kuti apachikidwe. Inde, sizingatheke m'mafilimu, mwinamwake wogwira ntchito, akuwoneka ngati munthu wodekha, koma usiku amadzuka monga chonchi ...
Ndodo. Ndibwino kuti mugwiritse ntchito zida zogwiritsira ntchito, makamaka ngati mwasankha kuchita chilengedwe. Komabe, wina ayenera kusamala, ndodo yomwe ili pansi pa ziphuphu zamkati imachotsa khungu.
Mtundu. Chida cholimba ndi chochepa. Zolembazo zingathe kukhala ndi chikwapu kumapeto komanso popanda.
Chikondi ndi chiwawa
M'chipinda mwako munali wosasangalatsa komanso kozizira, ndipo ubale unataya chilakolako chake chakale? Onjezerani tsabola! Kuchita zogonana mosiyana, simukusowa kugwiritsa ntchito zikwapu. BDSM ndi zomwe mukusowa.
Ngati mutenga chovala cha silika, chimangirireni pamaso pa mwamuna wanu wokondedwa kapena chibwenzi, ndipo chitani nokha, ndiye kuti adzakuletsani ufulu. Wokondedwayo sangakuwoneni iwe wamaliseche (ndithudi, chiwerengerocho ndi chokongola, koma sichikupweteketsa kutaya makilogalamu angapo), koma ukhoza kumverera bwino, kuiwala kuti simukuwoneka bwino ndikudzipereka nokha.
Ngati mutsegula chiwalo chimodzi, ndiye kuti mumakhala wamkulu. Inde, mukhoza kumanga zingwe pafupi ndi maso anu, koma ndizochepa kwambiri, yesetsani kusuntha mpango ku zidendene zanu. Koma osati kuti apembedze chifundo, koma kuti iye alowe ndikupsompsona.
Ngati mutagwirizanitsa manja a abwenzi, ndiye kuti mukhoza kusonyeza zonse zomwe mungathe. Chabwino, ngati mutangirira, ndiye kuti ndi bwino: khalani pansi ndikusangalala.
Chidzalo - ndicho chimene mukufunikira kupanga chikondi. Chotsani khutu lanu ndi kutsegula.
Mu BDSM, kugonana si njira yowononga komanso kulanga, komanso kulimbikitsa. Sewani ndi wokondedwa wanu chilakolako chofuna kugonana, ndiye mutha kukhala ndi mwayi kuyesa phokoso, lomwe lalitali kwambiri.
Kumbukirani kuti aphrodisiac yabwino ndi zovala zabwino kwambiri zopangidwa ndi zofiira zofiira kapena zakuda.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati:
- 75% ya mphamvu yaumunthu yaumunthu ndi mphamvu ya kugonana. Uwu ndiwo mwayi wopindulitsa umene ukuyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito.
- Anthu omwe amabadwa ndi zilakolako za BDSM ndi ochepa kwambiri, omwe 2% ali amayi, ndipo amuna - 5%. Tsopano BDSM imakondedwa ndi anthu ambiri. Ndipo amaikidwa muubwana, pamene abambo akuluakulu ndi amayi amphamvu ali m'banja kapena pamene chiwawa chikugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa mwanayo. Choncho, munthu ayamba kuyang'ana hafu ina, yomwe ingamuthandize kuzindikira zozizwitsa za chiwawa.
Palinso chifukwa china cha zolepheretsa zotere: ndizolakalaka makolo kukweza mwanayo mwachilungamo, koma ana sangathe nthawizonse kukhala abwino, choncho mphamvu za kugonana zikuwoneka, zomwe siziwunikira komwe ziyenera kukhalira. Munthu mwiniyo sangathe kuthana ndi izi, apa mukusowa thandizo la katswiri wamaganizo.
Congenital BDSM-propensity ndi pamene munthu angathe kukhutira ndi kugonana kokha pothandizidwa ndi ululu.