Kunyenga ndi mwala wamtengo wapatali kwambiri. Malamulo onse okhudzidwa amati: atalandira thandizo, nthawi zonse timati "zikomo", tikufuna kupempha wina kuti atikhululukire, timayamba ndi mawu opempha. Mwa njira, pafupi ndikumapeto, kuyamba mankhwala anu ndi mawu akuti "chisoni" sikutanthauza kuti munali ndi mlandu. Ndi lamulo limodzi lokha laulemu, lomwe limanena kuti ndinu munthu wokhala bwino. Nthawi zina pempho la anzake kuntchito limakhala ndi zododometsa kuchokera ku izi kapena ntchito - ndicho chifukwa chopepesa kwanu. Ndipo ndinganene chiyani - izi ndizo malamulo mu timu, sitinaziyike, koma tiyenera kumamatira. Ngakhale, ndithudi, izi ziri chabe nsonga za malamulo oyambirira a ulemu mu timu. Ndipotu, chifukwa chodziwiratu, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe munthu sangathe kuchita popanda mawu awa: kuchedwa ntchito (nthawi yabwino kwambiri yopempha kupepesa), kusiya kapena kusiya msonkhano wofunikira kapena osakonza dongosolo la ntchito nthawi zina.
Ndithudi, mawu oyamikira kapena kupepesa sizinthu zophweka zokha zaumunthu komanso kulemekeza anzawo. Atanena mawu awa, potsatira nawo kumwetulira, mudzatsimikizira kuti ndinu abwino ndipo mudzapindula ndi anzanu.
Ngakhale nthawi zina pali zochitika zoterezi kuti mawu ena "amatsenga" sathandiza konse. Mu mau, sitimapeza mau oyenera kuti athetse vuto limene lachitika kuntchito. Zitsanzo za mkangano wa ntchitoyi ukhoza kukhala wochuluka: Mudakangana ndi mnzanu wamalonda wofunikira (pokhumudwitsa ntchitoyo), chifukwa cha zokambirana zanu sizinachitike ndi zina zotero. Njira yabwino yochotsera mkhalidwe uno, monga zida zoyambirira za chikhalidwe zimati, ndi kalata yodzikhululukira pofotokozera kuti mukulakwitsa ndikupempha kuti mupepese kwa wothandizira. Mukatumiza kalata yotere, muyenera kuyitana ndi kufunsa ngati munthuyo walandira ndi zomwe zichitike. Zolinga za kalata yotere ndi kalata ndi chizindikiro cha mtsogoleri pafupi ndi wanu. Kalata yodzikhululukira imatha kulembedwa kapena kulembedwa ndi manja.
Chifukwa china cha malamulo olemekezeka mu gulu ndikuti kugwiritsa ntchito mawu mopweteka monga "chisoni" ndi "zikomo" sikovomerezeka konse. Kumbukirani kuti muzonse muyenera kukhala ndiyeso. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukukamba za mnzanu yemwe akugwirizana ndi polojekitiyo, zomwe mukuchita, yambani kukambirana kwanu ndi mawu akuti: "Pepani chifukwa chachisokonezo ..." sitidandaule. Dziwani kuti poyankhulana ndi anzako kuyamba kumeneku kwa mankhwala kungapewe bwino. Funsani chifukwa chiyani? Yankho lathu ndi losavuta: ndi munthuyu yemwe mumalankhulana pa chinthu chimodzi chofunikira komanso chofunikira kwambiri, zonsezi zimachitika panthawi yogwira ntchito. Chinthu china - kuitana kapena kupita kwanu kwa mnzanuyo kunja kwa tsiku logwira ntchito, palibe chifukwa chopepesa, ngakhale mutayitana kapena kuyendera kwanu kuli ndi vuto lalikulu. Koma panthawi yomwe mukugwira ntchito kuti mumvetsereni, kukuthandizani, kapena kuyankha funso lanu, mnzanuyo ali ndi ngongole, monga momwe mulili ndi iye. Monga momwe mawu akunenera: dzanja likutsuka dzanja, makamaka ngati dzanja ili ndi mnzanu woyenera. Kuphwanya udindo waukulu wa ntchito ndi phwando ndi kunyalanyaza pempholi ndilo kulemekeza kwambiri munthu amene mumagwira naye ntchito. Kotero izi ziyenera kukumbukiridwa nthawi zonse. Koma, ife tikukulangizani inu, komabe, kuti muthokoze bwenzi lanu chifukwa cha thandizo lotembenuzidwa mwakhama.
Chitsanzo chachiwiri ndikumang'amba pamalo ogwirira ntchito. Iwe unanyoza - iwe unapempha chikhululukiro, iwe umakhumba thanzi, iwe udathokoza. Zonse zikanakhala zabwino, kupatula zoyamba. Kupepesa kwanu sikungowonjezereka, osati kuti mumangodandaula, mudasokoneza aliyense kuntchito m'mawu anu omwe. Mwa njira, ndikumang'amba kwanu munabweretsa mavuto okha. Takhala tikuuzidwa kwa nthawi yaitali kuti malamulo a chiyanjano ndi oyenera kukhala "athanzi" pambuyo pokumbukira. Lamulo ili linayambika kwa ife ndi agogo ndi amayi athu. Tidzawononga nthano izi pang'ono, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mudziwe kuti munthu wosakhwima nthawi zambiri amakhala wotere kuti asamvepo kanthu. Choncho, musamachititse manyazi munthu wododometsedwa. Chitsanzo cha izi chikhoza kukhala msonkhano wofunika, kumene, chifukwa cha chizoloŵezi chokhalira, chilakolako chachisamaliro cha thanzi chingayambe kamodzi kuchokera kwa anthu makumi awiri. Pano izi zidzakhala zofunikira kuwonjezera: ndikufuna kupopera - chitani mwakachetechete momwe mungathere.
Komanso chizoloŵezi chogwiritsa ntchito mawu oyamikira kuntchito kungangogogoda antchito anzanu ndi lingaliro loyenera logwirizana ndi ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, wogwira naye ntchito akudabwa pazokambirana zofunikira komanso zofunikira kapena zolembera, ndipo munatenga chizindikiro, cholembera penipeni kapena cholembera kuchokera kwa iye. Kuyika pa desiki yake, mumati "zikomo", ndikumugwedeza ndi lingaliro loyenera kapena lingaliro loyenera. Ganizirani za izo, ndipo sikungakhale bwino kuika chinthu chomwe mudatengera patebulo popanda kukhumudwitsa mnzanuyo. Pano inu muli ndi chododometsa chowona kuti musanayambe kunena mawu oyambirira a ulemu, ndibwino kuti muyambe kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi kumvetsa, ndipo ngati kuli koyenera. Makamaka pankhani ya anthu omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito.
Izi ndi momwe malamulo oyambirira amakhalidwe abwino akuwonetsera. Wina angathe kudabwa kwambiri, ndipo wina angawoneke ngati wodalirika ndikuthandiza kudziwonetsa yekha ngati munthu wanzeru mu timu. Tikukhumba kuti mumve mawu okha oyamikira, ndikupempha kupepesa mochepa. Bwino!