Ponena za chikondi simungathe kunena zomwe zingakhale maola, koma kwa zaka, koma kunena pang'ono, mukufunikirabe kukonda. Kusakonda kwa maola, koma kwa zaka zambiri. Kwa zaka mazana ambiri, takhala tikukambirana za chikondi ndi kuchuluka komwe timakonda. Ponena za chikondi, malingaliro ambiri apangidwa ndipo malamulo ambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito. Mwachikondi pali mbali zambiri komanso maulendo ambiri, ndipo tsiku lililonse, ndikakumana ndi chinachake chatsopano, ndimayesetsa kufotokozera maganizo anga ndikufulumira kukatenga chirichonse pamapepala ndi makalata. Pali malingaliro ochuluka ndi mitu yambiri pamutu mwanga, ndipo ndivuta kusankha chinachake, chifukwa zonsezi zimagwirizana kwambiri moti zimakhala zovuta kuzigawa. Chikondi ndikumverera ngati mpweya, timapuma chikondi, kupuma mu chikondi cha wina ndi kupuma chikondi chathu kwa wina. Kukonda bwino, makamaka pamene chirichonse chiri chosavuta mu ubale. Ndipo pamene chikondi sichili bwino, ndipo mu ubale, mwamuna amkweza dzanja lake pa mkazi wake ?! Komabe, nkhaniyi idzaperekedwa pa mutu wakuti "Chiwawa kwa amayi ngati vuto lachikhalidwe". Sindikutha, sindidzagawana nthano zenizeni za nkhanza ndi maganizo pa zomwe zimayambitsa chiwawa komanso momwe zingapeŵe.
Mwamuna akukweza dzanja lake pa mkazi ndi munthu wofunika komanso wotsika kwambiri, yemwe sayenera kupatsidwa udindo waukulu ngati munthu. Mwamuna ndi ameneyo ndi mwamuna, kuti athe kupirira ndi kupirira chinyengo chilichonse cha mkazi wopenga. Mwamuna ayenera kupirira, koma, ngakhale ife akazi, nthawi zina ife sitingathe kupirira komanso osasamala kuti popanda dzanja la munthu wamkulu, chabwino, sitingathe kuchita. Kapena mwinamwake mungathe kuchita popanda, koma motsatira mfundo zathu, chiwawa cha mkazi chikagwiritsidwa kale kapena chikukhazikitsidwa, kuti chimayamba kuchoka ku vuto lachikhalidwe kukhala lokhazikika?
Kwa amuna ambiri kukweza dzanja lawo motsutsana ndi mkazi amaonedwa kuti ndi otsika, ndipo ndikulemekeza amuna otere - iwo amaonedwa kuti ndi amuna amphamvu. Ndipo iwo omwe sali ovuta komanso mwa malire a chizoloŵezi kuchita chochitikachi amaonedwa kuti ndi ofooka, ngati samapewa mphamvu zawo powapha akazi.
Posachedwapa ndinakumana ndi anzanga akale, tinagwirira ntchito pamodzi. Iwo ndi aakulu kwambiri kuposa ine, ndipo ndawona kale zinthu zambiri m'miyoyo yawo. Pamene anandifunsa ngati ndikukumana ndi munthu wina, ndinayankha, ndipo ndinayambitsa nkhani yanga, nthano zenizeni zenizeni, ine ndikugwirizana kwambiri moti nthawi zina ndikaganiza za izo, zimakhala zoopsa. Ziribe kanthu momwe malirime alili jinxed, koma zikomo Mulungu zonse ziri zangwiro kwa ine. Momwemo, osati ndi miyezo iliyonse, yokhazikitsidwa ndi mkango wadziko, omwe malingaliro ake amachita ngati lamulo. Ayi, ndili ndi zolinga zanga ndi malamulo anga, ngakhale alibe mawu komanso palibe nyumba, sindilibe kanthu, mtendere wathu wamaganizo ndi mgwirizano mu ubale wathu - ndizo zomwe tifunika kuziyesa ndi zomwe tikufunikira kuti tikwaniritse. Kuyankhula ndi anzanga omwe ndinkawadziwa kale, ndinaphunzira kuti anthu omwe anali okondedwa awo ankakonda kuchita zachiwawa mobwerezabwereza, ndipo tsopano mmodzi wa iwo amathawa nthano, poopa nthano yabwino kuyambira pomwe wina nthawi zonse amayang'ana zolakwika zinazake. Kumvetsera nkhani ya Lily, momwe mnyamata wake amene amamukondera kwambiri komanso momwe adathamangira atatuluka, m'mene amamukankhira mumsewu womwe sankatha popanda iye, ndinadabwa kwambiri. Kawirikawiri amathamanga pambuyo pa sitimayo, ndikupempha kuti ndikhalepo ndipo sindimangochoka ku cinema, kapena mwina sindinakhalepo kwa nthawi yaitali. Ine, ndikudabwa kumvetsera kwa iye, ndinaganiza, kodi mkazi amafunikira chiyani? Pamene ali ku Jahannama, wokondedwa wake amamumenya, ndipo amamangiriza ku batiri samalola kuti apite kulikonse, amalota maloto omwe angatengeke, ndipo akamakhala ngati nthano ndipo amanyamula m'manja mwake, amakhala pamsewu wopita kwinakwake dziko limene lidzamenyedwanso, ngakhale kuti silimuthupi, koma mwamakhalidwe.
Iye ankakonda kukumana ndi mwana wa Papa, yemwe bambo ake anali mtsogoleri wa fakitale, ndipo anali ndi nyumba yosungiramo nyumba komanso auditor, koma analibe moyo, amamenya ndi kumunyoza monga momwe akanatha. Anamuyang'ananso wina. Ndipo mwanjira ina akuthawa kwa iye, iye samawopa chinachake chabwino, iye akusowa chinachake. Momwemo, iye alibe vutoli ndi iye, wankhanza ndi otsika. Ndipo kotero iye anathawa kuchokera ku zabwino. Mayi ayenera kukhala ngati pulasitiki, osati kwa ena, koma payekha. Ayeneranso kugwiritsidwa ntchito mofulumira moyo wabwino pambuyo pa moyo woipa, ndipo kuchokera woyipa ayenera kuthamanga ndi kupeŵa izo mwa njira iliyonse. Pambuyo pa zonse, ndife tonse akalonga ndipo tiyeneranso kalonga wathu ndi nkhani yathu yokongola, kumene kuli chikondi ndi chakudya chamadzulo. Ndipo ngati mukuganiza za izo, moyo ndi nthano, zokhazokha komanso zosasinthika. Mu miyoyo yathu pali anthu ochimwa, monga okonda kale omwe amangofuna kuti atigwedeze ndi zingwe ndipo samationetsa kuwala koyera, popeza pali a mfiti omwe ali ngati abwenzi okonda nsanje omwe amapanga zovuta zamtundu uliwonse kumbuyo kwawo ndi kumwetulira m'maso. Palinso akalonga amene atikhadzula m'manja mwa anthu ochimwa, koma, mwatsoka, moyo siwolondola monga momwe amachitira nthano komanso zonse sizingwiro, ndipo sizikhala bwino "ndipo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse." Nkhaniyi inapangidwa ndi anthu kuti asamalire miyoyo yawo yovulazidwa ndi zolemetsa zolemala, koma moyo ukhoza kukwaniritsidwa ngati wina saopa kukonda.
Mnzanga wachiwiri amakhala ndi mwamuna wabwino yemwe akudikirira okhulupirika ake patebulo komanso madzi osamba. Nthawi zonse amayang'ana zoperewera ndi zolakwa zilizonse mwa iye, amayembekeza kusakhulupirika ndi mikangano, koma zonse sizidzadikira. Mmodzi mwa ife alipo zolakwa, koma izi siziri tchimo, timapangidwa ndi ena, timakonda kulakwitsa, chifukwa ndife anthu. Inde, patatha moyo wautali, wowawa ndi chilombo, ndi kovuta kuti uzolowere moyo wabwino, chifukwa wathazikika kale, koma uyenera kukonzanso. Muyenera kuiwala zoipa ndikuvomereza zabwino. Aliyense wa ife m'miyoyo yathu akuvutika mwanjira yake, ndipo pambuyo pa kuzunzika konse, paradaiso akutiyembekezera, ndipo aliyense ali ndi paradaiso wawo. Ndinkamvetsera mwachidwi pamene ankaopa kupsinjika kulikonse kwa dzanja lake, ndi kayendetsedwe kalikonse kolimba, kuyembekezera kuti agwire, koma pali kutha kwa chirichonse, moyo woipa nayenso. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokonda ndi chimwemwe, koma sitingathe kuzilandira nthawi zonse, chifukwa timachita mantha pa nkhope kapena kumbuyo.
Inde, ine akadakali wamng'ono, koma ndikuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa za anzanga ndi abwenzi anga achikulire. Iwo ndi achikulire kuposa ine kwa zaka pafupifupi khumi, koma amandiphunzitsa, ngakhale osadziŵa, koma ndikuphunzira, ndipo ndinazindikira kuti sikofunikira kuti ndiwone bwino, kotero ndikulemba za izo, zomwe zikhoza kukuphunzitsani. Musayang'ane ndipo musayembekezere zoipa. Ndikuyamikira wokondedwa wanga, ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuti ndidzakhala naye yekha. Ndikhoza kunena kuti zonse zimatiyendera bwino, chifukwa sitinaganizirepo chaka chonse ndi mchira, koma tikuwonana tsiku ndi tsiku. Nthawi zambiri ndimamuwona, ndimamuphonya kwambiri. Ndine wokondwa kuti pomalizira pake ndinapeza zabwino zanga, ngakhale ndiribe nyumba yosanja komanso ndilibe mawu, koma ndili bwino. Nyumba yosungiramo nyumba ndi audi zidzakhala, koma kenako. Ngati palibe ngakhale nyumba yosungiramo nyumba komanso osati omvetsera, lolani kuti ikhale yophweka, koma chinthu chachikulu chidzakhala, tidzakhala ndi tsogolo. Ine sindikufuna kuganiza kuti chinachake chabwino chimabisika kuseri kwa chinachake chabwino. Musamuyang'ane ngati Brad Pitt, osati mtundu wanga, msiyeni akhale wokongola, ndipo amusiyeni ali ndi zolakwa ndi zipsera pamaso pake, koma ndikuyembekeza kuti nkhope yake ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri mu ubale wathu komanso m'moyo wanga. Ngati ndinkakhala wamanyazi m'bwalo la anzanga, tsopano ndimamva bwino, chifukwa ndikudziwa zomwe ena samachita. Ndikudziwa momwe amandikondera, ndipo ndimamukonda mofanana. Kwa ine, potsiriza chimodzimodzi ndi malingaliro a ena, ine ndikunyadira iye ndi ine ndekha. Mulole kuti pakhale zolakwika mmenemo, chifukwa ine ndikudziwa kuti iwo ali mwa ine. Iwo ali mwa anthu onse, ndipo palibe zabwino. Lolani anthu aganize kuti kukongola koteroko kumapezeka "monster" yotere, koma ndikudziwa zomwe ndazipeza ndikuyamikira kwambiri. Ndipo ngati atsikana ena adaphunzira kuti sayang'ana kunja, koma mumtima, ndiye ndikuganiza, sipadzakhalanso atsikana osasangalala ndipo sipadzakhalanso misonzi ndi maphokoso, koma padzakhala maso owala okha ndi chimwemwe komanso kusekerera. Ndikofunika kuti muyang'ane pamaso, kaya okongola kapena ayi, moyo uyenera kukhala wokongola.