Kotero, tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe tingagonjetse zojambulira kwa wokondedwa. Ndipotu, chikondi ndikumverera kovuta kwambiri kugonjetsa. Ngati timamuchitira mwachindunji, zimachitika kuti malingaliro amalingaliro amakhala kutali kwambiri ndi kumvetsa kwathu. Ife timayamba kupereka kwa chidziwitso chokonda, ndipo ife tikufuna kuti tidzakhale nacho icho mokwanira, kuti tigwiritse ntchito mu moyo wake gawo lalikulu. Chikhumbo chimenechi chiyenera kugonjetsedwa. Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi malo ake enieni ndi moyo wake. Chikondi chathu, nthawi zambiri, sichimalola kuti tipume mwaulere. Mnyamata wokondedwayo amafunika kudzipatula yekha ndi kuyankhulana ndi anzake. Tsoka ilo, si atsikana onse akumvetsa izi ndikuyesera kuthana ndi chilakolako chawo chokhala ndi ulamuliro pa mnyamata. Inde, kuyanjana kwa mwamuna ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri, ndipo ambiri amakhulupirira kuti pamene anthu amangidwa, mgwirizano pakati pawo ndi ovuta kusiya. Koma, zedi, sizolakwika konse. Kodi zimachitika bwanji?
Kotero, tiyeni tiyankhule za amayi omwe akufuna kulamulira kulira kulikonse ndi gawo la mnyamata wawo wokondedwa. Atsikana oterewa nthawi zonse amalemba ma sms, kuyitana ndi kufunsa wokondedwa wawo kumene ali, zomwe ali nazo, kaya abwera kale kale. Komanso, amayiwa omwe amaganiza kuti ndikofunika kuyang'ana munthuyo pakamwa, komanso kuwerenga ma sms ake sizongopeka. Ndipotu, zinthu zonsezi sizingabweretse pamodzi, koma zidzawalekanitsa anthu omwe amakumana kapena kukhala pamodzi. Inde, musaganize kuti anyamata amachita ngati Angelo enieni. Amapanganso zolakwa zambiri zomwe zimakwiyitsa atsikana. Amatsata madzimayi awo ndipo amawatcha nthawi zonse akapita ku zolimbitsa thupi kapena kupita ku phwando la nkhuku ndi abwenzi. Khalidweli, monga khalidwe la amayi, lingathe kuyambitsa mikangano, zopweteketsa ndi kutha.
Nchifukwa chiyani timachita izi, ndipo nchiyani chimatipangitsa ife kumverera chikondi chochuluka kwa halves yathu? Ndipotu pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimachititsa anthu kuchita zimenezi. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri, amachitira nsanje kwambiri anthu omwe amadzimva kuti ndi osowa. Anthu omwe samakhulupirira mwa iwo eni nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti akusinthidwa, chifukwa amadziwa kapena sakudziwa kuti sakuyenerera mkazi wotere kapena munthu woteroyo. Komanso, anthu ena samafuna kungokonda, koma kukhala ndi munthu. Iwo sazindikira ngakhale kuti amayamba kuchitira munthu wina ngati chinthu chachilendo chawo ndipo alibe ufulu wodzisankhira yekha. Ndondomeko yotereyi imabweretsa mikangano ndi zokwiya. Ndi zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa kwa munthu aliyense kuti aziwoneka ngati chidole chokongola, chomwe chikhoza kusewera ndikuyikidwa pa ngodya, kumene sikupita kulikonse.
Chida cholimba kwa munthu chimapangitsa kuti tiyese kuyesa kuchepetsa. Timakhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti izi zidzakhala zabwino, ndipo sakudziwa zomwe angachite komanso momwe angachitire molondola. Ndizo, zenizeni, sizowona kwathunthu. Zonsezi, aliyense wa ife ali ndi ufulu wosankha, amene angayankhule naye ndi choti achite, komanso momwe angagawire ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake. Koma, pokhala ndi chikondi cholimba, timayamba kukanikiza anthu ndi kukhazikitsa zikhalidwe: ngati mumandikonda, ndiye kuti simungapite kumeneko ndi apo, koma, inunso, chitani zimenezo. Kawirikawiri, munthu sagwirizana kuti agwirizanitse ndi malamulo omwe hafuyi imakhazikitsa kwa iye, ndiye amayamba kubisa chinachake osalankhulana. Pakapita nthawi, kusamvetsetsana uku kumakhala bodza lenileni. Pamene mabodza onse akuwuka, "kufufuza kwa ndege" kumayambira, zomwe nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa kupasuka.
Koma, choyenera kuchita ndi momwe mungachitire mu nkhaniyi? Kodi mungadziteteze motani kuti mumutsatire wokondedwa wanu pazitsulo ndikuyang'anitsitsa mawu ake onse ndi kayendedwe kake? Ndipotu, palibe vuto la mtundu uwu wa "matenda". Ndi zophweka kuti aliyense akambirane nkhani zotere ndikupereka uphungu, koma kuti adzipange yekha ndikusankha kuti chinachake chikuvuta kwambiri. Kotero, iwe umangoyenera kuti uphunzire kulandira wokondedwa wako momwe iye aliri. Simungamukakamize kuti asiye chikondi kapena kukana chinachake, ngati izi, zedi, sizikuvulaza thanzi lake. Anthu onse ndi osiyana ndipo tikhoza kukhala ndi zosangalatsa zosiyana. Kuwonjezera apo, ndizosangalatsa kumvetsa zomwe hafu yanu inaikonda. Ndizoti tifunika kukhulupirira kuti tikufunadi kudziwa izi. Kuwonjezera apo, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti nthawi ina, aliyense wa ife anakhala moyo wake. Ndipo chibwenzi chako chinali ndi abwenzi kuyambira ubwana ndipo simungakhale ndi ufulu wokambirana nawo. Komanso, anali ndi zofuna zake komanso zofuna zake, zomwe mulibe ufulu wokatenga. Pamapeto pake, munthu aliyense ali ndi malo akeawo. Choncho, musayese kusokoneza tsamba lake la Vkontakte, kuwerenga mauthenga kapena kumvetsera zokambirana. Muyenera kumudalira ngati simukumva kuti akukunyengeni komanso akusintha. Ndipo, mkazi aliyense amatha kumvetsetsa pamene mwamuna akufunikira kukayikira, ndipo pamene iye mwiniwake akudziyesa yekha chinachake. Choncho, ngakhale mnyamata wanu atakhala chete ndikubisala, ngati akufuna kukhala pa kompyuta ndikusachita zomwe mumamuchitira, musamukwiyire, mum'yang'ane ndikumupangitsa kuchita zomwe mukufuna. Tonse ndife anthu ndipo timadziona ngati tikufuna. Ngati muwona ndikumva kuti amakukondani, amakuchitirani zonse, samakhumudwitsa ndipo sasintha, msiyeni akhale chomwe ali. Musakwiyire ndipo musakakamize. Timapangidwa ngati mwana ndipo timadana nazo pamene wina ayesa kutikhazikitsa. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani izi.
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