Kuyambira kulengedwa kwa dziko lapansi, anthu akukangana kuti ndi chiani chomwe chiri chofunika kwambiri: mwamuna kapena mkazi. Kuchokera mu mphindi yomweyo, pali nkhondo yosawoneka pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna pa malo abwino a mtsogoleri mu chiyanjano.
Poyamba, kusiyana pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna kumveka bwino. Mkazi wam'mbuyomu amaonedwa kuti ndiye woyang'anira nyumba ndi mayi, mwamuna - wopeza ndi woteteza. Masiku ano mfundo izi zasintha pang'ono. Komabe, kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kugonana kumayambira pa nkhani yogonana.
Pafupi ndi amuna
Sizobisika kuti anthu amakonda maso ndipo amakopeka ndi chithunzi chowoneka, ndipo mkazi, mosiyana, alibe chidwi ndi fano lachiwonetsero, koma amamvetsera fungo la mwamuna wake. Pochita zogonana, mwamuna amakhala ngati nkhanza, ndipo mkazi amavomereza modzipereka. Choncho, kwa munthu kuti akwaniritse chisangalalo chapamwamba, zochita zake zokwanira zimakhala zokwanira, chifukwa zimakondwera ndi mtundu wina wa thupi lamaliseche. Amuna ambili amakumana ndi chilakolako choyamba pa kugonana, atasiya kukhala namwali. Zimakhala zovuta kuti mkazi akwaniritse zolaula, chifukwa cha ichi amafunikira zinazake, kudziŵa bwino thupi lake ndi malo ake osadziwika bwino, kuphunzira momwe angadzipulumutsire yekha ndi kumasula malingaliro ake a zoletsedwa zomwe taphunzitsidwa kuyambira tili ana.
Za akazi
Poyerekeza ndi amuna, chilakolako chachikazi chimakhala champhamvu kangapo ndipo chimakhala chotalika, chifukwa mphamvu ndi khalidwe labwino la mkazi zimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zifukwa zomwe zimakhudzidwa. Ngati mkazi sakhala ndi chikhulupiliro mwa mwamuna, pamaso pake akukumana ndi vuto losokonezeka maganizo, poopa kuti wokondedwa akhoza kuuponya kapena kukhumudwitsa, ndiye kuti n'zosatheka kupeza zovuta ngakhale ndi wokondedwa.
Pamene zotsatira zafukufuku zikuwonetsa, chiwerengero cha amayi akudandaula chifukwa cha kusowa chikondi ndi chikondi kuchokera kwa anzawo. Ndipo mosiyana, madandaulo a mtundu uwu kuchokera kwa anthu amabwera katatu pang'ono.
Moyo wamagonana a mkazi umakhudzidwanso kwambiri ndi kusamba kwake. Maganizo a azimayi amadalira mwachindunji mahomoni a mkazi, chifukwa chake nthawi zina amawoneka akukwiyitsa, amanjenjemera ndi okhudza. Kuonjezera apo, chilakolako cha kugonana chimawonjezeka kapena chimachepa malinga ndi tsiku lomwe amayamba msambo.
Komanso, chiwerengero cha amuna amakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika pa maliseche a mkazi komanso mawonetseredwe ake. Kaŵirikaŵiri amawona kuwonetseratu kwayeso monga chizindikiro cha kunyenga. Kuonjezera apo, pali nthawi zambiri zomwe munthu amagwidwa ndi mantha ake omwe amatha kukhala osadziwika ndipo amayamba kudziyerekeza ndi anzake omwe anali nawo pachikhalidwe china. Mwatsoka, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti pafupifupi 60 peresenti ya amuna amaimba akazi chifukwa cha zolephera zawo zogonana, ndipo kutentha kwa amayi ndi kuzizira nthawi zambiri zimawonekeratu kuti ndi zifukwa za izi, kuphatikizapo kuyesayesa kwambiri.
Kugonana kwa mkazi ndi njira imodzi yophunzirira ndi kumvetsa thupi lanu, ndi kukwaniritsa mgwirizano wa kugonana. Amuna ambiri amachitapo kanthu pa chiwerewere chachikazi makamaka, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti pakali pano samakhutitsa wokondedwayo. Ngakhale zili choncho, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana kwa amayi ndi njira yoyamba yakuchiritsira zomwe zimatchedwa kuti chiwombankhanga.
Kukwaniritsa mgwirizano
Kuonetsetsa kuti kusiyana pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna pakati pa mayi ndi mwamuna sikulepheretsa kuti mgwirizano ukhale wogwirizana, wina ayesetse kumvetsetsa mnzake ndi psychology. Podziwa mfundo zazikulu za khalidwe la mnzanuyo, mudzawona kapena mudzatha kuyembekezera zochitika ndi zochita zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti musayambe kuchita zolakwika.