Tikukamba za zochitika za m'banja, zochitika za moyo - zochitika za makolo, zomwe zimadziwika bwino kwa iwo omwe amawerenga ntchito za katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America ndi wa maganizo a maganizo a Eric Bern. "Zochitika za moyo - zochitika za makolo" - ndi ndondomeko ya moyo, yomwe munthuyo ali muzinthu zazikulu amadzilera yekha mwanayo mothandizidwa ndi makolo, anthu ofunikira ndi zochitika zake. Zowonjezereka "zotchulidwa" ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu, ndipo ... zimakwaniritsidwa moyo wonse, ngati munthu sakufuna kumvetsa ndikupanga kusintha kwakukulu. "Zochitika m" matrix ", zomwe malembawo adalengedwera, ali ndi mauthenga ochokera kwa makolo onena za momwe angakhalire, momwe angakhalire pazinthu zina, ndizoletsedwa ndi zilolezo, ndizochita ziti, makhalidwe, makhalidwe, malingaliro, etc. ndizovomerezeka "Cholakwika ndi choletsedwa," ndipo, ndithudi, zidziwitso za momwe makolo amachitira, zomwe amachita, zomwe amanena, ndi zomwe samangonena, kuzibisa. Pano mukhoza kukumbukira ndi zobisika za banja, zomwe ziri chete, koma zomwe zimamveka m'munda wa banja. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sitingalandire zitsanzo, machitidwe (makhalidwe) muzochitika zina kapena zina, komanso "kusuntha zenizeni" kotero kuti ziri mu nkhani ndi kugwa.
Miyambo ya banja , monga zochitika zina za "zochitika za moyo - zochitika za makolo," zimasiyana kwambiri ndi zifukwa zenizeni zowoneka bwino zapita kale, nthawi zambiri kuposa mbadwo umodzi wapitawo, ndipo zochitika zina zatsala, ngakhale kuchokera kunja zikhoza kuwoneka zopanda phindu. Natalia Kravchenko anandiuza fanizo, lomwe limafotokoza momveka bwino kuti ndi chifukwa chiyani malembawa akuwonekera. Mwamuna wina kamodzi anazindikira kuti mkazi wake sanafume nkhuku yonse, koma nthawi zonse azidula mzidutswa. Iye anafunsa chifukwa chake anachitira, ndipo analandira yankho lake: "Umu ndi momwe amayi anga ankakonzekera nthawi zonse." Iye anapita kwa apongozi ake, anamufunsa funso lomwelo, ndipo analandira yankho: "Chinsinsi ichi chinachokera kwa amayi anga." Mnyamata wopanda vutoli anafika kwa agogo ake aamuna, ndipo anamuuza kuti: "Inde, ndimaphika nkhuku monga choncho. Koma izi ndizo chifukwa ndili wamng'ono ndinali ndi chitovu chochepa, ndipo nkhuku yonseyo sichikanatha. " Aliyense ali ndi njira zake zokha nkhuku. Ndife, mosiyana ndi makolo ndi agogo aamuna ndi agogo aamuna, ali ndi kusankha: kuphika monga anaphunzitsidwa kuyambira ubwana, kapena yesani njira ina, chifukwa tili ndi mbale yaikulu! Komabe, nthawi zonse sitidziwa zosankha izi kuchokera ku chithunzithunzi cha dziko lapansi.
Zochitika zosavuta komanso zomveka bwino za zochitika za moyo - zochitika za makolo - ndi kubwereza kwa "mzere wa moyo" wa makolo, ndipo atsikanawo amabwereza tsogolo la amayi, ndi anyamata - abambo kapena ena akulu akulu, ngati banja silinakwanira kapena makolo analipo pa moyo wa mwanayo. Koma kaŵirikaŵiri kachitidwe ka makolo kachitidwe kameneko katsutsidwa m'njira yoyambirira. Nenani, mayi, akufuna kuti mwana wake akhale ndi banja losangalala, amamulimbikitsa kuti banja likhale losangalala kumadalira mkaziyo mpaka momwe aliri wanzeru komanso wokhoza kumuthandiza mwapang'onopang'ono, ndipo kugonana kwakukulu ndi anyamata chabe omwe sali anzeru. Mtsikanayo amakula, amapeza maphunziro abwino, amapanga ntchito ya sayansi - ndipo zimangokhala kuti sangathe kupeza bwenzi loyenera la moyo, chifukwa malinga ndi kuika kwa amayi komwe, amaika kuti amuna amakhala opusa kuposa iyeyo, amayesa kufotokozera amuna anzawo ndi odziwa nawo mwayi uliwonse nzeru zake zapamwamba, ndipo amayesa kugwiritsira ntchito mafanizidwe ake mosiyana. Adzayenera kuphunzira yekha kapena kuthandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo khalidwe losiyana ndi loyenera kwa anthu amasiku ano omwe achoka ku chitsanzo cha kholo la banja, omwe "nzeru zazimayi zachinsinsi" zimabwera (pamene mphamvu ndizochokera kwa amuna, mkaziyo amayesa kum'tengera pang'ono pang'onopang'ono mu chimango chochepa cha nyumbayo hearth).
Ana ndi bwino kwambiri kukumbukira zomwe makolo awo akuchita kuposa zomwe akunena. Ndipo amayi ndi abambo kawirikawiri amatsutsana kapena wina ndi mzake, zomwe zimapangitsa ana kukhala osagwirizana ndi schizophrenic. Mwachitsanzo, mayi amamulimbikitsa mwanayo kuti mkazi akwatire ayenera kukwatira ndi kukhala ndi ana, ndipo iye mwiniyo amatchula mwamuna wake woledzera, kuti auleke, mopanda ulemu. Mwinamwake, mwanayo pokhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukwaniritsa malangizo a mayi adzasankha amuna omwe ali ofanana ndi abambo ake, komanso mofananirana kumanga ubale ndi iwo omwe adzagwa padera nthawi iliyonse. Mkhalidwewu udzabwereza kangapo kamodzi osati kawiri, kutsogolera mkaziyo kumveka, monga zikuwonekera kwa iye, chigamulo chokhudza chopanda pake kwa amuna onse ogonana. Mwa njirayi, azimayi ambiri ali ndi vuto lofanana la moyo - mkhalidwe wa makolo adasankha zomwe amasankha kukhala abwenzi a amayi, osasokonezeka ndi amuna.
Zina zomwe zimachitika pa zochitika za moyo ndizo zochitika za makolo - kuyesa kuzungulira, kuchita zosiyana, osati monga kuphunzitsidwa: kukumana ndi amuna omwe samafanana ndi atate wawo, kuti apeze ntchito imene makolo amawopsya ... Koma zochitika zakale, monga adalemba Bern, ndi momwemo, ndi chizindikiro chosiyana. Palibe kapena wina adzatikondweretsa, chifukwa script komanso antis silingaganizire zofuna zathu, wapadera, osati ofanana ndi makolo, nthawi zambiri ngakhale kutsutsana nawo.
Ngakhale kuti zochitika za antis ndizomwe zimakhala zomangamanga pomanga nyumba ya munthu (osati kholo). Kawirikawiri khalidwe lotsutsana ndi kugonana limachitika achinyamata.
Chowonadi chakuti ichi kapena chitsanzo cha khalidwe sichikhala cha ife chingakhoze kuzindikiridwa ndi zovuta zomwe nkhani yowonjezera imatikhudza ife (ngati kuti mwavala chovala kuchokera kwa wina wina ndipo mukukuumirirani), kapena mwakhala mukukumana ndi mavuto aakulu, nthawizina pamtunda. Chomvetsa chisoni, nthawi zambiri, mavuto okhawo amachititsa kuti tiwone moyo wathu mwachisawawa ndikuwona zochitika zomwezo zobwerezabwereza kapena anthu ofanana omwe "amatiyendera" nthawi ndi nthawi. Komabe, kumvetsera mwachidwi ku zochitika ndi kuwonetseranso kubwereza kumeneku kumathandizira kutsegula. Ndipo kumvetsetsa kuti ngati mbiri yakale idzibwereza yokha, ndiye kuti pali chinachake cholakwika mmenemo, ndipo nkofunikira kuzindikira chomwe chiri, ndi kukonza izo, ngati kuli kotheka, mothandizidwa ndi katswiri. Ndipotu, moyo wathu ndi waufupi kwambiri moti sitingakwanitse kutaya nthawi pa zolakwa zofanana.