Kodi mungagwirizane bwanji ndi izi? Kuuponya ndi kuthawa mwamsanga? Maofolomu ambiri amadzipereka pa nkhaniyi, chifukwa zonse zimakhala zosavuta tikamaziweruza kunja, koma tikapeza izi, timayamba kukayikira, kudzifunsa mafunso ... Kodi izi zingachitike bwanji kwa ine? Kodi angachite bwanji izi, ndipo ndiyenera kuchitanji, nanga ayenera kunena chiyani? Kodi ndi njira yokhayo yotulukira - kuthetsa ubale umene wamangidwa kwa nthawi yayitali? Lingaliro la katswiri wa zamaganizo pazochitikazi, ngati mnyamatayo akweze dzanja lake pa mtsikanayo, akhoza kukhala osiyana malinga ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Tidzayesa kuziganizira ndikukumvetsa izi. Pambuyo pake, mu psychology ya maubwenzi, pamene mwamuna amenya mkazi - vuto silokwanira, vutoli limadetsa nkhawa atsikana ambiri, omwe anyamata awo nthawi zina amachitira mwaukali kwambiri.
Amayi ambiri akhoza kuswa miyoyo yawo pochita kusankha molakwa ndikudzidzinyenga okha. Tidzayesa kuganizira zosiyana ndi njira zabwino, kuti athandize amayi kupeza chisankho chovuta ichi.
Ngati mwamuna atambasula dzanja lake pa mkazi wake, malingaliro a akatswiri a maganizo amayamba kukhala amodzi: choyamba muyenera kumvetsa zenizeni za mkhalidwewo, khalidwe la mwamuna wanu, komanso wanu. Psychology ya kugonana pakati pa anzanu imalimbikitsa lamulo losavomerezeka: musathamangire mu dziwe, koma ganizirani zochita zake, yang'anani, ndi chiani chomwe chidzapitilire?
Ngati mwamuna amakukakamizani mobwerezabwereza, mkazi wake, yemwe akuwoneka kuti amamukonda, ndikukweza dzanja lake kwa inu ndilozolowereka, ganizirani ngati mukufuna moyo woterewu, ubale woterowo? Kodi mukufuna kulekerera nthawi zonse khalidwe lanu? Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri - funsani ngati mumadzilemekeza nokha, chifukwa ndiye kuti simunalemekezedwe ndi mwamuna wanu - ndithudi, chifukwa cha izi, amalemekeza yekha! Ganizirani ngati mungathe kukhala ndi sadist, kukhala moyo, podziwa kuti khalidweli lidzachitikanso? Pambuyo pa zonse, moyo wanu ukhoza kukhala wopweteketsa, palibe ngakhale funso la chikondi, chikondi, ubwenzi wauzimu ...
Kawirikawiri akazi pa nkhaniyi amazunzidwa ndi mafunso: kodi ndi njira yabwino yochokeramo, kodi ndiyo yokhayo? Kodi ndiyenera kusiya mwamuna wanga, ndiyenera kumuchitira chiyani, mwinamwake ndingathe kukonza? Ganizirani ndi kuti amayi ena amavomerezedwa kuti azichita khalidwe la mwamuna wake, ayambe kuyang'ana, kukumba mu chiyanjano, kuyang'ana zolakwitsa zawo ndikusowa, poganiza kuti izi ndi zomwe adamukwiyitsa mwamuna wake. Ndipo zowona kuti malingaliro awo sangathe kuvomereza kuti munthu amene amamukonda, yemwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino za tsogolo labwino, anali wokongola, wokongola komanso wabwino, mwadzidzidzi amasonyeza maganizo otere kwa iwo ... Zonsezi, ndithudi, ndizowawa kwambiri, koma kulekerera zolemba zoterozo zidzakhala zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri. Simukusowa wolamulira wankhanza. Ngati nthawi zambiri amalola kuti akweze dzanja lake, izi zikusonyeza kuti pali njira imodzi yokha - kuti adzipulumutse yekha. Chifukwa ngati atayesetsa kukweza dzanja lake kwa iwe, sangathe kumenyana ndi mwana wako wamtsogolo, kutembenuza moyo wako ku gehena.
Ganizirani mosamala, yesani mkhalidwewo. Kodi mukufuna izi? Nthawi zina ndi bwino kubwereranso kumoyo watsopano, chifukwa chozizwitsa chimatha kukonza munthu woteroyo. Kukayikira kwake ndi kulemekeza kwake kumakhudza kwambiri psyche, yanu ndi mwana wanu.
Pankhaniyi, funso likubweranso: choyenera kuchita ngati mlanduwu unachitikira kamodzi kokha? Ngati mwamuna "sataya" osasankhidwa ake, amamenya mkazi, koma amangosweka, ngakhale kuti izi zisanachitike. Kodi mungayankhe bwanji? Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Nchifukwa chiani mwamunayo anachita izi?
Psychology - sayansi yomwe yapangidwa kufotokozera, makamaka, ndi maubwenzi, pofuna kupeza chifukwa cha zochita zina. Mwamunayo akagonjetsa mtsikana osati mwadongosolo, koma ngati kuti ali ndi chibwibwi, popanda chofunikira chofunikira, ndiye kuti akatswiri a maganizo amagwiritsa ntchito kufotokozera kuphulika kwa chiwawa monga chonchi. Maganizo okhumudwitsa amakhala ndi munthu. Kotero, ngati iwo aphatikizidwa mochuluka, mphamvu yotereyi imayenera kutayidwa panjira, molakwika, njira yowononga. Pofuna kumenyera mbale, dulani pepala ... Koma nthawi zina "kutukumuka" kwa malingaliro kungathe kuchitika mwadzidzidzi, monga momwe zinalili pamene mwamuna anakweza dzanja lake pa mkazi wake, am'menya. Mwa njira imeneyi amachotsa nkhawa ndi zovuta zomwe amamva nazo zomwe zimawakwiyitsa, motero, zimatulutsa mkwiyo kwa mkazi wake, yemwe amamupangitsa, amachotsa nkhawa ndi chida chake. Koma kusiyana konse ndi sewero ndikuti si aliyense amene angachite izi. Pochita zinthu zina, sititsogoleredwa ndi zilakolako zathu zokha, koma ndi zofunikira, ndipo khalidwe lathu limayendetsedwa ndi makhalidwe a anthu, komanso malamulo omwe takhazikitsa, zofunika zathu, chikhulupiriro, mfundo ndi khalidwe zomwe zimakhudza zochita. Izi zikutsatila kuti munthu mmodzi, ngakhale ali wokwiya, sangamumenya mkazi wake chifukwa chakuti maganizo ake samapereka ntchito zoterozo, chifukwa iye ndi wotsika kwambiri, ndipo malamulo a chikumbumtima chake samulola kuti achite izi. Chimodzi, chomwe chimapangitsa mkazi kukhala wofanana, kapena wotsika, amatsogoleredwa ndi kulera kwina, lingaliro lina la chowonadi, malingaliro kwa mkazi ndi zinthu, mu zovuta zikhoza kutero.
Kusanthula za khalidwe la mkazi pazinthu izi kumadalira maganizo ake pa izi, momwe ali wokonzeka kuvomereza khalidwe la mwamuna wake, kaya adzatha kumukhululukira. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri, chomwe chiyenera kutsogoleredwa pofufuza momwe zinthu zilili, ndi khalidwe la munthuyo mwamsanga mutangotha ntchito. Ngati anazindikira kuti vutoli ndi lovuta, avomereza kuti akukhululukidwa, amazindikira kuti sangakwanitse komanso amalonjeza kuti sadzachita zimenezi mtsogolomu, mungamukhululukire, komabe ziyenera kuchitidwa koma osati nthawi yomweyo. Mwamuna sayenera kuganiza kuti ali ndi chilolezo komanso kukhululukidwa, adziwe kuti wachita zoipa.
Lingaliro la katswiri wa zamaganizo pa zovuta, pamene mwamuna amenya mkazi wake, ndi ameneyo ayenera kuchita molingana ndi momwe zinthu zilili, palibe wolondola kuyandikira. Koma kuthetsa bwinobwino mchitidwewo ndi ntchito yovuta, yovuta, chifukwa maubwenzi sikuti ndi achifundo komanso akupsompsona, ndizonyoza komanso zopikisana. Muyenera kusiyanitsa pakati pa kulakwitsa ndi kulakwitsa komwe khululukidwa, kuchokera ku khalidwe labwino lomwe lingasokoneze moyo wanu. Ganizirani bwino za zotsatira zake, yesani mkhalidwewo ndikuchita monga momwe mukuonera. Ngati muli ndi kukayikira za momwe mungapitirire, kaya mwasankha bwino, momwe mulili, kaya mukudzidzinyenga nokha, mungathe kupita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena wodwala maganizo amene angakuthandizeni kumvetsa zomwe zikukuchitikirani ndikukutengerani ku chisankho cholondola kwambiri .