Choyamba chochita - ndiko kuyesa kumvetsa chifukwa chosiya mwamuna wake. Musayambe kutulukira kalikonse, koma nkofunika kumvetsa zomwe zinapangitsa kuti mulekanitse. Ndipo pokhapokha taganizirani za momwe mungapezere kachilombo kochokera kwa mwamuna wake kwa mkazi wina. Kaŵirikaŵiri pambuyo pa kulingalira, ena amadzipatula okha, amakhala m'dziko lawo, momwe amaloleza kuti aliyense alowemo. Kuti izi sizinachitike, koma kuti mutha kumvetsa chifukwa chosiya mwamuna wake kwa wina, tifunika kutenga njira yofunika kwambiri pa nkhani ya moyo wa banja. Panthawi ina iwo onse analakwitsa ndikuchita molakwika. Kungoganiziranso zomwe zinali zolakwika ndi khalidwe lawo. Zonsezi ndi zofunika kuti tipeŵe zolakwa zotere m'tsogolomu.
Mkazi aliyense amasankha momwe angapezere kubwerera kwa mwamuna wake kwa mkazi wina. Mukhoza kukhala ndikulira ndikudandaula ngati mwamuna wanu akuchoka, kapena mutha kumwetulira ndikuyambiranso. Pambuyo pake, ngati mumvetsetsa, palibe choopsa chomwe chachitika, ndinu wamoyo komanso bwino. Ndipo chilakolako cholira ndi chakuti mkazi aliyense wasiya kuyambira ali mwana, motero amakopa chidwi. Mutha kulira pamene mumasamba kapena pillow, kulira mwakachetechete pa benchi pabwalo losatayika, poyendetsa pagalimoto, mutha kufuula pa chilengedwe ... ngati anasiya dzulo, mwezi umodzi kapena miyezi isanu ndi umodzi.
Ukadali mwana - izi zikumveka bwino, ndipo pamene munthu wamkulu ali kale, ndizosatheka kutsanulira misonzi, tiyenera kuchita mwamsanga.
Zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mudzidziwe nokha mwamsanga, koma muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mukhale olimba ndikudzikweza nokha.
Nawa malangizowo kwa inu.
- Choyamba, muyenera kufooka, chifukwa siinu mkazi woyamba amene zinthuzi zachitika ndipo zikuchitika. Mutha kuganiza kuti mlandu wanu ndi woopsa kwambiri. Koma dzifunseni nokha - palibe amene wamwalira, palibe wokondedwa wanu amene akudwala matenda osachiritsika, choncho vuto lanu siloopsya monga likuwonekera.
- Chikumbutso chathu chinapangidwa mwakuti nthawi zambiri timakumbukira zinthu zabwino zokha, ndipo zinthu zonse zoipa zimapita kumbuyo. Ndipo mutenge pepala ndi pepala losalemba ndipo lembani pazoipa zonse zomwe zinali mu chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha mwamuna wanu. Ndipo mutatha kulemba, werengani bwino mobwerezabwereza, kuchotsani izo, kotero mutha kuchotsa wozunza wanu
- Mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito foni ya chikhulupiliro kapena thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena kulirira mnzanu wapamtima / mnzanu. Mukungoyankhula. Koma mukufunikira kulankhula ndi makolo anu. Ndipo poyamba nkhaniyi ikuchitika, ndibwino. Musachiyike mu bokosi lalitali. Iwo nthawi zonse amamvetsa ndikuthandizira chisankho chanu, zirizonse zomwe zingakhalepo.
- Mukhoza kuyesa kusintha chinachake mu maonekedwe anu. Sinthani kalembedwe ka tsitsi ndi tsitsi la tsitsi, kusintha mawonekedwe a zovala. Pitani nokha kapena ndi mnzanu m'masitolo, pita ndi kugula kwatsopano. Musawope kusintha kosadziwika.
- Musadzilole nokha kukhala achisoni. Chifundo chimapangitsa munthu kuvutika kwambiri.
- Perekani kubwezera, izo zidzasowa kanthu. Wotsutsa wanu, mwinamwake, ndi woyenera mawu osiyana, koma ngati simunena chilichonse, mudzakhala wamkulu kuposa iyeyo. Musanyozedwe ndikuyamba kucheza naye. Mulole izo zikhale pa chikumbumtima chake. Sizowonjezera kuti pali mwambi wabwino: "Simungathe kupanga chimwemwe chanu pa zovuta za wina."
- Musaganizire kuti adzabwerera kwa inu. Musayese kuimitsa. ngati adaganiza, ndiye kuti simudzatha kumuletsa.
Ndikufuna kukuchenjezani pa zinthu ziwiri:
- Sikoyenera kuvomereza kuti mwamunayo amakhala "pa nyumba ziwiri", kuchoka kwa mkazi wina kupita kumzake kufanizitsa, kumene kuli bwino ndi kusangalala kwambiri.
- Musasinthe chilango cha mwamuna wake chifukwa chakuti anakulekirani mkazi wina. Izi zidzakukhudzani kwambiri ndi moyo wanu wabwino komanso ukwati wanu, womwe ulipobe. Pamene simutenga chisankho choyenera, kodi mungachite chiyani, izi siziyenera kuchitika? Mwa njira iyi mungapeze chinachake chatsopano kwa inu nokha.
- Iwe uyenera kupeza chinachake choti uchite. Ngati musanakhale ndi nthawi yoti muchite nokha, ndiye nthawi yomwe mukuyenera kulembetsa kuti mukhale oyenerera, kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, m'kalasi. Mukhoza kupita kumaseŵera akumidzi, mzere wozungulira, kupita ku malo owonetsera, cinema, kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, ambiri, musatseke.
- Ntchito yolakwika ya cardinal yomwe amai amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri kuti mwamuna asamalidwe ndi ana. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, mgwirizano umene umachokera ku chiyanjano choterewu sukhalitsa, ndipo posachedwa adzakuchotsani. Nthenda ya ana ndi yotetezeka kwambiri ndipo ngati ana akugwiritsidwa ntchito, mwanayo akhoza kuvutika maganizo. Pambuyo pake, ngakhale mwamuna atasiya, sizikutanthauza kuti amasiya mwana wake. Pa nthawiyi, ndikofunika kuwateteza kuti asamvetse bwino maganizo awo akuluakulu.
- Mungathe kudzitengera nokha kamwana kakang'ono, komwe mungasamalire nokha. Ndani adzapatsidwa nthawi yaulere.
- Ngati n'kotheka, pitani kwinakwake pang'ono, mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kupita kwinakwake. Mundikhulupirire ine, mu dziko lirilonse mungathe kumasuka ndi kupumula, yesani malingaliro anu.
- Ndikoyenera kutengapo gawoli, kupyolera mu vuto lanu ndi ululu, ndipo mtsogolomu mudzakhala munthu wokondwa.
Ndikofunikira kukumbukira amayi onse kuti udindo wa mayi wachikondi ndi mkazi wokongola si chirichonse, ndipo tanthawuzo la moyo nthawi zina sikuti umangokondedwa ndi wina. Chifukwa zikhoza kukhazikitsidwa mosiyana. Tiyenera kuphunzira kudzikonda tokha, kuti tiphunzire kukhala mkazi weniweni, mwa njira iyi yomwe mungathe kuchitiramo moyo. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti pali moyo wopanda amuna, kuti wina akhoza kukhala yekha. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kudzizindikira nokha mu zomwe mwalota pa moyo wanu wonse.
Kotero, musataye mtima, akazi okondedwa, chikondi, chimwemwe ndi ubwino wa banja kwa inu ndi banja lanu.