Monga tanena kale, mapaundi owonjezera, pafupifupi pafupifupi munthu aliyense, amupatse kuyang'ana kolimba ndi kolimba. Koma amayiwa pa nkhaniyi ndi ovuta kwambiri. Nthawi zonse amafunika kupirira zolakwitsa zotere, komanso kuwonjezera pa chibwenzi chawo, chomwe ndi chochepa kuposa iye. Chofunika koposa, ichi "tweak" chiyenera kulemekezedwa osati pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso pa nthawi yomwe mukufunikira kugonana. Koma apa ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti chokwanira cha amayiwa cholakwika chotero sichiyenera kusokoneza kukondana ndi kugonana kwathunthu. Kotero, kodi anthu ochuluka amakhala ogonana bwanji ndipo samamva chisoni chilichonse panthawi yomweyo?
Choyamba, nkofunikira kunena mau ochepa ponena kuti anthu athunthu, makamaka amayi, alibe kudzikuza. Ndipo izi zili choncho chifukwa "eni eni amapaundi" amangokhala ndi maganizo oipa pa maonekedwe awo, thupi lawo, komanso, mwa iwo okha. Ndi pamene matenda onse amachokera, zomwe zimangobwera pamene mukuyenera kugonana ndikusangalala. M'malo mosangalala ndi kusangalala ndi kugonana kwa anthu zana, amayi ambiri amadzimva kwambiri ndipo amadzipatula okha, akugona pabedi mopitirira malire komanso mopanda malire. Ndichifukwa chake khalidwe lotereli lingayambitse kukwanira kwa mkazi. Kotero, amayi okondedwa, musati musunge chifukwa cha kulemera kwanu. Yesetsani kuyang'ana kuchokera kumbali inayo: Amuna ambiri amalingalira kuti ndi mkazi wathunthu amene amatha "kuthetsa changu cha mwamuna" ndikuwonetsa pabedi "aerobatics". Pano pali chitsanzo chabwino kwa inu kuti simusowa kupanga kuchokera mthupi lanu "drawback imodzi yaikulu." Ingokhulupirirani nokha ndi yanu yapadera. Mwa njira, ndiyenela kudziŵa kuti asanakhale pachibwenzi chokwanira, amafunika kusonyeza ubwino ndi luntha pa bedi.
Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa zochitika zomwe zimalimbikitsidwa kwa anthu omwe ali olemera kwambiri komanso chifukwa cha zomwe mungapeze chisangalalo chosakumbukira kuchokera kugonana.
Wokwera "wotsika" ndibwino kwa anthu omwe ali ndi kulemera kwathunthu. Zimalimbikitsidwanso kugwiritsa ntchito izi ngati mwamuna ali ndi thupi lathunthu. Pachikhalidwe ichi, mayiyo akuwonetsa ntchito zambiri ndipo, motero, amatsogolera ntchito yonse. Mwa njira, mu malo awa, mutha kufika msangamsanga.
Komanso zotsatira zabwino zimapereka mpata pamene mkazi ali pamphepete mwa bedi, ndipo bamboyo akuima pansi (galu kalembedwe). Udindo umenewu, pamene wagwiritsidwa ntchito bwino, umatsimikizira zotsatira zabwino kwa onse awiri.
Koma mimba ya "embryo" (mkaziyo ali pambali pake ndi miyendo yake, ndipo munthuyo ali kumbuyo), amatha kusiyanitsa maganizo anu, ndikudzaza ndi zokondweretsa kwambiri. Komanso, mukhoza kuyika malo pomwe mkazi ali pa malo omwewo, ndipo mwamuna, ataimirira pambali pake pa mawondo ake, alowa. Mu malo amenewa, mukhoza kuponyera miyendo yanu pamapewa a munthu.
Koma ngati mayiyo ali wodzaza kwambiri, ndi bwino kuti azigonana muzochita zaumishonale. Mwa njira, zotsatira zabwino kwambiri zidzasonyeza ngati mnzanu akuponyera miyendo pamapewa anu ndipo adzakugwirani m'chiuno. Mu malo amenewa, mutha kukondwera.
Ndipo komabe, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti mulimodzi mwa izi zikufunika kuti musayese mkazi mmodzi yekha. Wokonzekera mwakuthupi ndi kugonana, mwamuna amatha kusintha chinthu chilichonse chogonana kuti chikhale "chombo" chosaiwalika.
Mwa njira, musanene mawu pamiyala, kapena kani kukhalapo kwawo pa kugonana, ndiye_musati munene kalikonse. Kulemera kwake kwa amayi - ndi mapiritsi oposa omwe muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito. Pogwiritsira ntchito zojambulajambula (munthu wochokera kumwamba), musaiwale kuyika mapiritsi ochepa otsika pansi pa matako. Ndi malo a "embryo", ikani mtsamiro pansi pa ntchafu yomwe mwagona panthawiyi. Izi, ndithudi, zidzakuthandizani kuti musinthe. Koma ngati onse awiriwa ali otupa kwambiri komanso otchuka kwambiri, zimakhala zogwirizana ndi "wokwerapo" kuika mtolo pansi pa matako kale kwa munthu amene wagona kumbuyo kwake. Komanso, mwamuna amafunika kupukuta miyendo m'mimba mwake, zomwe zingamuthandize kuti azidalira.
Ndipo chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa kugonana kwapamwamba ndikumatha kumasuka ndi kuiwala mavuto anu onse omwe akulepheretsa panthawiyi. Choncho, sikofunika kuti muzitseka nthawi zonse maonekedwe anu kapena manyazi chifukwa cha maonekedwe anu. Khalidwe limeneli ndi mdani weniweni wa kugonana bwino ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, chisangalalo. Koma kukumbukira zapsomps ndi caresses zatsutsidwa. Apatseni iwo ndi kugonana kwanu, ndipo ndithudi mudzaiwala za mavuto onse, kudzipereka nokha ndi chilakolako ndi mutu wanu. Choncho, poyang'ana malamulo onse pabedi, kugonana kwachibadwa kumatha kukhala ntchito yowakonda kwambiri.
Ndipo monga potsiriza, ine ndikufuna kunena kuti palibe zosiyana ndi zoyambirira zomwe zimapangidwa makamaka kwa anthu olemera. Koma mitundu yosiyanasiyana ndi kuyesera ndi malo osiyanasiyana pa bedi kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale osangalala, kupeza zosangalatsa zomwe simungaiwale. Musamaope konse kuyesera ndi kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo momwe mungapangire kukhala ndi chilakolako kapena mtundu wamtundu umene mumabweretsa. Ndipotu, kutseguka pa kugonana ndiko, poyamba, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chokhutiritsa onse awiri. Ndipo potsiriza, osapitirizabe kulemera kwako, kumbukirani kuti ndiwe mkazi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse uzifunidwa ndi kukondedwa. Madzimayi achikulire nthawizonse amakhalabe mu mafashoni. Kotero, kondani thupi lanu ndipo pokhapokha mutha kumverera mphuno ya moyo. Mbuye wabwino kwa inu!