Chikhumbo cha chilakolako
Masiku ano, njira yopindulitsa kwambiri yogulitsira mankhwala ndi kugonana kugonana ndi chilakolako, kukakamiza anthu osagonana ndi mafano ogula, kugwiritsira ntchito fano la munthu amene akufuna, amamukonda, amafuna komanso amasankha yekha. Zithunzi zogonana, zithunzi zojambulajambula ndi zithunzi, zojambula za mawonedwe omwe mumawakonda ndi nyimbo. Zimayamba kusonyeza kuti zonsezi ndi "super libido". Zithunzi zomwe nasokruzhayut zimatibweretsera lingaliro la kachitidwe kafunidwe kachitidwe, ndi zolakwika zomwe zimaperekedwa zimapangitsa kuti tiyambe kukayikira tokha. Kwenikweni, posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, timamvetsa kuti sitikukumana nawo. Ndipotu, aliyense wa ife ndi munthu chabe, osati mndandanda wamatsenga. Osati maso okonda kwambiri kuchokera m'bukuli, osati wonyenga wowononga. Ndipo pambuyo pa zonse, chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimawonekera kawirikawiri ka maonekedwe a zonyenga zakugonana ndikupeza vuto la "osafuna".
Lero zikuwoneka kuti tikuyenera nthawi zonse. Ndipo ngati "chinachake" ichi chiri chokongola kwambiri, ndiye kuti tiyeneranso kufuna izi panthawiyi. Ndipo musataye mtima. Kugonana kumayenera kukhala tsiku lililonse, chabwino, kapena katatu pa sabata. Ndipo ngati mwadzidzidzi timamva za kamodzi pa sabata kapena awiri, timayamba kukayikira tokha, ndikukumana ndi mavuto. Koma mfundo yonse ndi yakuti pamene tikufuna kugonana - ndiye iye usinzhen. Izi ndi zachilendo. Chilichonse chokhumba chomwe chimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala ndiyeso yoyenera. Ndipo ngati zimagwirizana ndi wokondedwa wathu, ngati tikudzidalira tokha, ndiye kuti palibe mafano ndi maonekedwe omwe angatipangitse kuti tisakonde.
Sichoncho?
Matenda a ophunzira a zamankhwala
Ambiri mwa anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa kapena chizoloŵezi cha cyposochrism amapeza mavuto awo owona zamasomphenya. Ndipo apa choonadi chonse chimaphikira ku mfundo yakuti ngati chinachake chikufufuzidwa bwino, ndiye chidzapezeka. Ngati mwadzidzidzi timaganiza "Ndipo ngati ndili ndi vuto linalake ...", posachedwa tidzapeza zizindikiro zakutali za matendawa, chifukwa cha zomwe timakumana nazo. Ndipo nkudwala. Mwachidziwikire, munthu sayenera kunyalanyaza mphamvu ya chikhulupiliro cha munthuyo ndi kukayikira kwake. Mu mthunzi wa mbewa, ngati mukufuna, mukhoza kuwona tigulu lonse. Makamaka kugonana - nkhani yosakhwima komanso yosangalatsa, motsimikizika kuti anthu ambiri sakhala odzidalira okha ndi luso lawo. Kotero iwo amayesa kunditsimikizira ine kuti chinachake chiri cholakwika ndi iwo.
Maganizo Otsogolera
Ngakhale ngati tsiku lina tikuwoneka kuti tilibe vuto, bwanji osatsimikizira kuti izi ndizochokera kwa mnzanuyo? Amafunanso kuti musangalale, mukhale osangalala komanso mukhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ndipotu, kugonana ndi nkhani ziwiri, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti muzochitika zanu zonse mumayenera kukhala osiyana kwambiri. Ngati chinachake chikukusokonezani, funsani naye, nenani maganizo anu ndi mantha. Mukakhala kuti mantha anu sali chabe, kuthandizidwa ndi munthu wachikondi, kuthandizana ndi zolakwika, kupanga zovuta, kuthandizira mnzanu - ndizofunika kwambiri kwa aliyense. Pali mavuto ang'onoang'ono a chikhalidwe chokwanira chomwe anthu angathe kudzithetsa okha, popanda kuthandizidwa ndi dokotala. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsetsa ndi kuleza mtima, chilakolako chothandizira wokondedwa ndi kuthetsa vuto limodzi.
Wogonana nawo nthawi zambiri amalangiza mawiri a njira zomwe zimafuna kudalira, ntchito yogwirizana pa zolakwitsa, ndi kubwereza kukambirana. Mwachitsanzo, chizoloŵezi chotere monga "Kulimbikitsa malingaliro". Gwiritsani ntchito kumvetsetsa, kulemekeza, chisamaliro chiripo kwa onse awiri. Mulimonsemo, kulakwitsa kwakukulu komwe munthu angapange pankhaniyi ndiko kusunga zonse mwa iye yekha ndikukumana ndi mavuto okha. Wokondedwa kapena wam'mbuyo wokondedwa adzawona nkhawa yanu, ndi bwino kuuza nthawi yomweyo - zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa iye kuti mumakhulupirire zakukhosi kwanu ndikumverera kwanu.
Kodi izi ndi zachilendo?
Aliyense wa ife nthawi ndi nthawi amafunsa funso: kodi izi ndi zachilendo? Winawake amadandaula kuti ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana, ndibwino kuti tisiye zomwe tikufuna. Ndipo, mopanda chidwi, ambiri a ife mu chikhalidwe ichi kwa ife eni ena. Wina amawopa sakonda anthu ena, amalephera kulamulira, amasiya kapena amadziwa kuti muli ndi "zolakwika", pamene ena amakondwera kuti akhale osiyana, monga zonse, zosangalatsa, osati zachilendo.
Kawirikawiri funso ili timadzifunsa kale pamene tili ndi ubale weniweni. Timachita mantha ndi izi, koma mwadzidzidzi mnzanuyo amapeza nasenormalnym, sakonda maganizo athu kapena zikhumbo zathu ndipo sitimasonkhana nawo? Kuopa kukanidwa kumatikana kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wathu komanso ifeyo. Timasowa kudzidalira tokha ndi zomwe timachita, kukhala osadetsedwa komanso osadandaula. Kodi tikufunikira izi?
Mabanja ena amasiyana kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu, ganizirani izi, ndi kukhazikitsa kukhudzana. Ngakhale ngati mulibe njira yachilendo, mumakonda zinthu zomwe si zachilendo komanso zachilendo zogonana, ngakhale mutakhala ndi "zosokoneza" mumzinda wambiri ... palibe chilichonse ngati aliyense akuchikonda. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti izi ndi zosangalatsa ndipo sizikuvulaza maubwenzi. Ngati muli ndi ana okhala ndi penguin mu gawo lotsogolera, ndipo kuchokera ku zinthu zina zomwe zimawonekera kwa anthu ambiri, mumamva kuti mukudwala ... ndi kusiyana kwanji komwe kukukhutitsani? Momwe inu mumakukondera, inu awiri mukudziwa.
Ndinayambitsa matenda atsopano a psyche yanga
Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti palibe vuto lalikulu pa mantha anu, mukufunikira kumvetsa chifukwa chake mudayamba kuda nkhaŵa ndikudziŵa. Nchiyani chinakupangitsani kuti muzimva bwino? Dzifunseni nokha: nchiyani chinakupangitsani inu kuganizira za izo? Kodi unayamba liti? Mwinamwake mudzapeza mgwirizano pakati pa nkhawa yanu ndi zochitika zomwe zingawathandize. Matenda olakwika a kugonana ndi ofanana poyerekezera ndi mavuto aakulu, koma sangathe kunyalanyazidwa, chifukwa amachititsa kuti asakhale ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa. Choncho, ngakhale kuti palibe vuto lalikulu la sayansi, nkofunika kubwezeretsanso pang'ono. Chifukwa kudzikayikira, nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa kawirikawiri zimabweretsa mavuto aakulu, monga zochepa zomwe zimayambitsa moto waukulu. Musalenge mavuto osafunikira, kulemekeza nokha ndikukonda thupi lanu.