Masiku ano, malo ambiri ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi malo ochezera apamtima, kumene mungathe kulankhulana ndi munthu wina wokhazikika, komabe mumamukonda. Nthawi zina kukonda ena kumatha kukhala chikondi chenicheni ndi chikondi komanso kugonana, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala pamalo amodzi. Pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, amai komanso abambo amachitapo chimodzimodzi. Koma ngati cholinga choyamba ndikumvetsetsa kudzidalira kwanu ndikudziwonetsanso nokha maziko a "masewera achikondi" (ngakhale pafupifupi), ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani amuna amafunika kutengeka?
Mwamuna ndi dziko lenileni
Ambiri omwe amaimira kugonana molimba poyankha funsoli: "Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna amafunika kutengeka?" Yankho lomwe silingathe kulankhulana kwenikweni. Ambiri mwa amunawa sangavomereze kugonana kosaloledwa kuti akhale paubwenzi m'moyo weniweni, osagwirizana ndi chikondi chenicheni. Mwa njirayi, kukopana kotere kumatha kutsogolera m "banjali komanso mwamuna wokwatirana. Izi, poyambirira, ndizo chifukwa chakuti amuna samalingalira mtundu uwu wa kukopa chiwembu, chifukwa mungathe kutembenuza makompyuta ndikudzidzidziza mudziko lonse lapansi, ndikuiwala mavuto onse ndi mavuto. Koma ngakhale mauthenga otere a anthu, psychologists akudandaula kwambiri ndi izi. Malingana ndi iwo, kukonda flirting kumatha kukhala m'malo mwa oimira kugonana kolimba, osati kulankhulana kokha, komanso chimwemwe cha chikondi cha thupi. Choncho, malinga ndi ziwerengero, zomwe zinachitika ku Western Europe, zinachititsa chidwi kuti amuna 26 pa 100 alionse a zaka zosachepera 30 amakonda kumangokhalirana kukonda ndi kukambirana ndi mtsikana (kuphatikizapo kugonana) komanso ngakhale kugonana komweko. Ndipo zomwe zikuchitika ku US zikuwoneka zoipitsitsa: malinga ndi ziwerengero zomwezo, 65% mwa amuna amasankha cyberflirt pakubwerera pakali pano.
Kodi n'chiyani chimapatsa amuna kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi?
Kawirikawiri, amuna amayembekezera kuti kukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi kumawathandiza kukhala atsopano, zosangalatsa komanso malingaliro. Kwa amuna ambiri, kukopana koteroko ndi kopindulitsa chifukwa, makamaka, samachita chilichonse ndipo sichifuna kuti pitirizani kukhala ndi chiyanjano. Mwamuna amadzipulumutsa yekha kwa wamba ndi kudzikweza, kudziyesera yekha mu ntchito yatsopano "yonyengerera kuchokera pawindo la pulogalamuyo."
Mwa njira, malingana ndi akatswiri onse a maganizo, kukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikutengeka nokha. Mwamuna, osadziwa "m'moyo weniweni" wokondedwa wake, akuikapo malingaliro ake ndi ziyembekezo zake, zomwe, poganiza kwake, ziyenera kupatsidwa ndi mkazi weniweni. Mwa njira, izi ziri chimodzimodzi momwe mkazi samapezera munthu m'moyo weniweni, motero chigamulo chakuti oimira za kugonana amphamvu nthawizonse amawongolera "chinthu chonyenga" chawo. Munthu wotereyu, monga lamulo, amayesa kulimbitsa motalika kwambiri, kudziwonetsera yekha mu ulemerero wake wonse ndi chifaniziro cha wonyenga weniweni. Mwamunayo nthawi zonse amasankha wokambirana ndi "zofuna", zaka zabwino, mawonekedwe, ndi zina zotero. Ndi mayi woteroyo, amatsimikizira yekha kuti akhoza kukwaniritsa cholinga chake komanso ngakhale kuti ndondomeko yake ikulephera, mwamunayu sakuyimira pomwepo, chifukwa akufuna kudziwonetsera yekha kuti mtsikana aliyense akhoza kumukonda. Pano pali chimodzi chomaliza - chidwi ndi chidwi.
Ndipo chinthu chomalizira, mwamuna ndi wosavuta kulankhula ndi mkazi yemwe sakudziwa "m'moyo weniweni," ndi mkazi wotero sangathe kungokhalira kukondana, koma amakambiraninso nkhani zakukhosi komanso kugawana nawo mavuto. Zimandivuta kuti munthu azinena kuti amazunzidwa poyang'anitsitsa mkazi wodziwika, koma kuyankhulana pa intaneti ndi wina. Kotero nthawi zina kuonera mwachikondi kungakhale woyambitsa mfundo yakuti mwamuna akufuna kumuika mkazi, kuti amudulire moyo wake. Koma sitikukulangizani kuti muyembekezere kupitiliza bukuli.