Kaŵirikaŵiri mtundu umenewu umagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi achinyamata komanso "osakwatiwa" ali ndi zaka zoposa 25, ndiko kuti, "othamanga". Kwa 85% mwa iwo amene adakumana ndi masewera, chidziwitso sichidzabwerezedwa, ndiko kuti, iwo ayesa ndi kuiwala, "osati changa." Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti anthu ochepa okha omwe ali ndi lyamur de Trois omwe sagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse amatsogolera banja ndipo adzakhala ndi ana. Gawo la anthu awa ali ndi zaka makumi anayi lidzanyamula matenda opatsirana oopsa, osachiritsika, opatsirana pogonana. Izi ndiziwerengero za mayiko a ku Ulaya. Ndikofunika kupereka ziwerengero zomwe zimakhala zovuta ...
Ndani wachitatu?
Kugonana sizimagonana ndi amuna anayi, kumene mungasinthe okondedwa ndi onse mofanana. Pali amuna awiri ndi mkazi mmodzi, kapena akazi awiri ndi mwamuna mmodzi. Kawirikawiri pali kuphatikiza kwachiwiri. Amuna, ndithudi, amakonda akazi awiri, akazi amawasankha akazi, malinga ndi zomwe amakonda munthu, kapena iwo amakonda kumuwona mkazi wachiwiri ali pabedi, ngati kuti amasangalala kwambiri.
Chachitatu chowonjezera kapena chachitatu chosungira?
Monga kupotoza, koma kugonana komwe kumakhudza anthu awiri, ndipo lachitatu, limatuluka, salowerera nawo mwamsanga. Kuti akwaniritse aliyense, nkofunika kuti munthu akhale ndi mphamvu komanso zogonana kuti akumane ndi abwenzi awiri nthawi imodzi, kapena mosiyana, kuti akwaniritse mkazi nthawi yomweyo amuna awiri. Pofuna kuti mitundu yosiyanasiyana yogonana ikhale yosiyana, muyenera kudziwiratu kuti mungathe kugonana.
Choipa kwambiri, pamene sextet imasankha awiri, omwe akufuna "kupotoza" mu ubale wawo. Sankhani zofuna za mkazi kwa mkazi, ndipo pakapita nthawi mkazi kapena mtsikana amakhalabe wotetezedwa, monga mwamuna amayamba kukonda mnzake. Mukhoza kulingalira za momwe ubale pakati pa abambo ndi amai udzasinthira pambuyo pake.
Zotsatira za kugonana zitatu pamodzi
Kukula msanga kumagwira ntchito zabwino. Kwa achinyamata ndi osakwatiwa, omwe sanakumane ndi okondedwa awo, uwu ndi mtundu wa kugonana. Kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi ubale wautali, ichi ndi chizoloŵezi chatsopano, chachilendo, chodziwika bwino chogonana. Ndikofunika kuti onse ogwirizana avomereze, ndipo musamupangitse munthu wokondeka ngati atakhala bwino. Kaŵirikaŵiri osati, izi ndizo kugonana kwa osakhala ndi mlandu, ndiko, chisangalalo chifukwa cha zosangalatsa. Ngati ali okwatirana, ndiye kuti palibe nsanje iliyonse. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, muyenera kulimbikitsa, osati kukwiya, kugonana ndi mnzanuyo.
Zithunzi za kugonana zitatu pamodzi
Nthawi zonse ndizoopsa. Kawirikawiri, mwamuna ndi mkazi omwe adagonana pabanja atatu, ubalewo suli wabwino. Nsanje, mkwiyo, kukhumudwa - awa ndi oyendayenda anzawo omwe angakhale pamutu wa mmodzi wa abwenzi, nthawi zambiri mkazi. Choncho, njira yabwino ndiyo kugonana ndi anthu atatu osadziwika, omwe palibe chiyanjano chachikulu kapena chirichonse chomwe chiyenera kukhazikitsidwa mwachidziwitso, osati chisangalalo cha wina kuchokera kwa anzanu.
Kuopsa kokatenga matenda opatsirana pogonana, chifukwa cha kugonana, zitatuzi zikuwonjezeka kwambiri.
Ziwerengero zimati pambuyo pa zochitika zofanana zogonana, maanja amatha kusweka. Monga nikruti, zovuta, iyi si njira yowonjezera maubwenzi.
Fufuzani chachitatu
Kotero, inu munaganiza kuti muzigonana katatu. Ndani angasankhe? Choposa zonse, kaya gulu kapena bungwe, palibe yemwe akukudziwani, inu simukudziwa. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kukhala wozunzidwa ndi munthu wonyenga, chifukwa mumamuitana munthu wosadziwika kwathunthu. Kuitana abwenzi pabedi, mukhoza kukhumudwa ndi "mphepo yamadzi" yamtundu wina: Wokondedwa wanu sangakonde kugonana atatu, koma kuti apitirize kugonana naye mbali ya chikumbumtima idzakhala yosangalatsa kwambiri. Kuthetsa ubale - ndithudi ...
Malamulo achiyanjano chosazolowereka
Kotero, inu ndi mnzanuyo munagwirizana kuti mubweretse bedi lachitatu pa bedi lanu. Kenaka tengani vutoli kuti mudziwe tsatanetsatane wonse kuti pasakhale kusamvetsetsana, ndi kulandira malamulo ena.
- Sankhani za mwamuna kapena mkazi wachitatu, kuti palibe wina aliyense amene amavutitsa.
- Lankhulani nthawi zonse "kale, panthawi ndi pambuyo": khalidwe, kuika, caresses, chitetezo.
- Palibe abwenzi. Kugonana ndi abwenzi ndizosiyana maganizo, kulola mnzanu kugona, mwinamwake mutayaye kwamuyaya monga bwenzi.
- Palibe nsanje! Kuzindikira za kugonana kwa mnzanuyo ndi munthu wina, kupatula kuwona mmene amapezera chisangalalo, ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Choncho, poyamba adayamikira kwambiri mtima wa ichi, kotero kuti pamapeto pake sizingakhale zofunikira kukhazikitsa madontho onse pa "ndi".
- Ngati wachitatu ndi mkazi, yongani kuti mupeze chisangalalo chokwanira, khalani wokonzekera chikondi cha a Levi.
Ndipo pang'ono ponena za chitetezo
Bedi lachitatu nthawi zonse limakhala zoopsa kwambiri kuti atenge chinachake chomwe chimapezeka. Choncho, chitetezo chiyenera kukhala pamwamba kwambiri. Ndikofunika kuti tiganizire ndi mutu wanu nthawi ya chisangalalo. Kugonana katatu kumapangitsanso zizindikiro zina kuti mupeze matenda opatsirana pogonana. Pa chifukwa chimenechi, musalole kuti mnzanuyo alowe mwa kondomu yogonana ndi mnzanu wina. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale ndi "zokambirana" zowonjezera komanso katundu wa makondomu okha.
Chabwino ndipo potsiriza. Ngati muli odekha pa zoyesayesa zogonana, muli ndi chidwi, ndiye mutaya zowonongeka ndikuyang'anitsitsa. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti kugonana limodzi ndilofunikira kwambiri, musamamwe moledzera kapena mumalingaliro oyenera.