" Ndipo apa iye ali, mlendo, tsitsi la mdima, chotero wokondwa ndi wofatsa amanditengera ine ku posh wakuda limousine ku hotelo yotsika mtengo. Timalowa m'chipinda ndi ... "- malingaliro anga okhudzidwa adakachepetsedwa mwadzidzidzi kudzuka. Zozizwitsa zinkauluka ngati zowona m'maloto okoma. Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna ndi mkazi angaganizire za kugonana kwawo ndipo sazizindikira m'moyo weniweni?
"Kodi muli ndi malingaliro olakwika?" - Osati aliyense adzayankha funsoli poyera. Chirichonse chikugwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti malingaliro athu okhudzidwa nthawi zambiri amakhala okhwima kuposa awo omwe kuzindikira kuti timadzilola tokha m'moyo weniweni.
Malingaliro achikondi a abambo ndi amai: zomwe iwo ali, ndizosiyana kapena kusiyana kuli chifukwa cha chikhalidwe ndi khalidwe la munthu winawake? Kunena zoona, zonse zimadalira chikhalidwe, umunthu, maphunziro, maonekedwe, kupambana ndi kulephera pa zifukwa zogonana.
Talingalirani mitundu yayikulu ya malingaliro olakwika.
1. Kugonana koopsa
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika? Kuchokera mmalingaliro amalingaliro, munthu, osati wofunikira mwamuna kapena mkazi, salandira zokhudzana ndi maganizo m'moyo weniweni. Ndipereka chitsanzo. Munthu amene ali ndi udindo wotsogolera, nthawi zonse ali ndi mphamvu pamoyo weniweni, nthawi zambiri amawonetsa zizoloŵezi zachisokonezo mu moyo wapamtima. Ndipo, mosiyana ndi iye, yemwe sangakwanitse "kulamulira ndi kulamulira" m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, nthawi zambiri amayesetsa kusonyeza zinthu zachisoni pabedi. Koma! Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti kusewera kozoloŵerera kwa "masewero" achisomaso kungangosonyeza kuvutika maganizo, kumene, ndithudi, kumafuna chithandizo.
2. Kutengera
Pano, zosankhazo ndi zosiyana: mwina mwamuna amalota kuti asagone usiku koma osati ndi amayi awiri, kapena kutchova njuga kuti amve "nsanje kapena mpikisano" ndikugawana ambuye ndi mwamuna wina. Kusiyanasiyana "mosiyana" kungalingaliridwe kwa mkazi. Azimayi ena amangokhalira kukondwera ndi kukhala pamsana.
Koma tsopano ndikufuna kunena kuti chilakolako ichi chogonana chimangokhala pamlingo wokhala ndi malingaliro, chifukwa sikuti aliyense akhoza kutenga chiopsezo cholimbana ndi amayi awiri kapena osati aliyense angathe kumuuza mnzake za zikhumbo zawo. Ndipo bwanji kuwononga ubale? ..
3. Kugonana pazochitika zachilendo
Chomwe chimayambitsa chilakolako chokonda chikondi pamalo otukuka, kapena m'chipinda cha sitimayi, pagombe, hayloft, patebulo la mabiliyoni ndi_kupita kukaganiza ... Koma, maziko a chikhalidwe samalola ife kapena chilengedwe chomwe mukuchilota.
Chifukwa cha chikhumbo cha "zachiwerewere" kugonana ndizochitika tsiku ndi tsiku tsiku ndi tsiku. Pambuyo pake, moyo ndi chiwonetsero chimachepa pang'onopang'ono maubwenzi, choncho - ndi chilakolako cha kugonana. Palibe chachilendo ndi cholakwika mu malingaliro otere a kugonana ndipo sangathe. Ndipo simukuyenera kudzikana nokha kuti mupeze phokoso pa mlatho pamtsinje kapena usiku pa paki, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala ndi chirichonse chovomerezeka chokhazikika.
4. Kugonana ndi mlendo (mlendo)
Zikuwoneka kuti kwa mkazi wosakwatira kapena mwamuna wosakwatiwa ndipo palibe zotchinga za mtundu wachikondi wa mtundu umenewu. Ndipo, ngati kuli kosavuta kwa amuna mu ndondomeko iyi, ndiye kuti mkaziyo ali ndi mantha ochepa pang'ono.
"Bwanji ngati iye ali wonyenga, wakupha kapena wokwatira? Kodi akudwala ndi chinachake chopatsirana? "- chinthu chowopsya chomwe chimatha kukuwombera mutu. Zotsatira zake, mtundu wa "kuyima" umayambitsidwa, osati aliyense akhoza kudutsa.
5. Kugonana pogonana
Chabwino, kodi amuna akusowa chiyani? Kawirikawiri, amuna amafuna mtundu uwu wa kugonana, ndipo nthawi zambiri chikhumbochi chimakhala chilakolako chokha chifukwa cha chibwenzi chake. Chifukwa chiyani kugonana koteroko? Ngati chilakolako chiri palimodzi, ndiye chomwe chiri osati - molimba mtima patsogolo! Ngati munthu akukakamiza, koma simukufuna, ndiye kuti mum'fotokozere mwachikhalidwe za zotsatira zotheka, kwa iye ndi kwa inu. Zingakhale zopweteka kuti mudziwe chimene chimapangitsa kuti chikhumbochi chimupangitse, komanso kuti, kuthetsa vutoli phindu lokhazikika.
6. Chokhumba kugwirira kapena kugwiriridwa
Izi zogonana ndizosiyana ndi zachiwerewere. Inde, pamene izi sizingagwirire, koma zowonongeka, ndiye chokhacho chimapangitsa chisangalalo kukhala chiyanjano komanso kukondweretsa. Kodi mukufuna kugonana kotereku? Bwanji osayese! Chinthu chachikulu sichikugwedeza ndodo.
Maganizo ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya malingaliro okhudza kugonana, onse amuna ndi akazi, akhoza kubwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza. Ndi anthu angati - zilakolako zosiyana zedi zosonyeza kugonana kwawo, chifukwa malingaliro aumunthu alibe malire mukumvetsetsa konse.
Kodi malingaliro olakwika a amuna amasiyana ndi malingaliro ofanana a akazi? Inde, koma osati nthawi zonse. Inde, mwamuna sangadziyerekeze kuti ndi wolemekezeka kapena wachiwerewere, kawirikawiri zilakolako za amuna ndizosavuta komanso zachilendo. Koma pali amuna amene amafuna kugonana kowala komanso kokongola, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro olemera ...
Ndipotu, malingaliro ambiri sali enieni. Uku ndiko kukhazikitsidwa kwawo pazifukwa zina sikubwera. Ziri zovuta kunena chifukwa chake anthu amawopa kapena sakufuna kuwululira mnzawo chilakolako cha zilakolako zawo zobisika. Mwinamwake, ndizosavuta, simukusowa kugwira ntchito pa ubale wanu. Ngakhale, okonda enieni amadzilola okha ndi zochuluka. Chinthu chachikulu, zilakolako zolimba (kugonana ndi maso kapena manja omangidwa) "kudzipatulira" kwa munthu amene mumamukhulupirira, chifukwa simudziwa yemwe ali mlendo wodabwitsa kapena mlendo ...
Kugonana kwaumunthu, maonekedwe osiyanasiyana ndi osiyanasiyana, kumapangitsa anthu kuganiza mosiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Ndi angati a iwo ndi zomwe iwo akukudziwani nokha. Ndipo kodi munayamba mwaganiza kuti malingaliro angakhale owona? Mwinamwake mu malingaliro anu okhwima omwe mukuloledwa kwa inu ndi mnzanuyo kusiyana ndi zoletsedwa, ndipo chirichonse chikhoza kuchitika.
Chabwino, bwanji, kodi mwakonzeka tsopano kufotokoza zikhumbo zanu zakubisa ndi wokondedwa wanu ..